drummer4sho Posted August 2, 2004 Share Posted August 2, 2004 Me and this girl broke up about a year ago. We became really good friends and then started dating. We were with each other almost all the time, but we gave each other time off too. I really fell hard for her and then she started to push me away. (I did anything she wanted me to, and I still do whenever I see her.)I thought that she just needed some time by herself or with her friends, but we eventually stopped hanging out. One time I tried to talk to her after I had given her some time alone, but she told me she didn't want to talk to me because I make her feel bad. I haven't had a gf since her because I loved her so much. I was in so much pain after our break up because I lost a love, and 2 friends, because I was also good friends with her sister. I graduated and she is now a junior in high school. I knew it would be hard to keep the relationship going once I was in college but I was willing to at least try. But obviously that didn't happen. I still really care for her and would like to be friends again. I think about her a lot and wish things had ended up differently. I have now decided to move to Florida and go to a film school down there. I will most likely be leaving next summer around June or July. I have been able to keep up a tiny bit of contact because I help out with my old high school drumline that she is in. But now that I'm moving so far away (it's about a 24 hr. drive to FL from Where I am) I know that contact will be completely lost. I don't know if she is still mad at me or if I can go up to her and talk to her. She seemed cordial with me when I saw her last, but I still don't know what's going on in her head. I would really like to take her and her sister, who I was also good friends with out to say goodbye, but I don't know if I should even try. I'm over her romantically, but I miss her and her sister as friends. I don't want to leave without telling her how I feel and saying a true goodbye. Should I ask them to do something with me for a last hoorah or should I just say goodbye to them at the last drumline thing they have? I know I have some time to think about this but I wanted other people's opinions. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted August 2, 2004 Share Posted August 2, 2004 There's nothing wrong with going to say good-bye to her and her sister. That's a nice thing to do, when you've major life changes. Shows that you do still care and there are no hard feelings. If she's not ready to be kind back, you'll just have to accept that. You might give her a card with your new school address, just in case she feels like getting back in touch. Don't press for too much right now. Just throw out a lifeline. If she picks it up, good. If she doesn't, you'll need to let it go. BTW, you said she was angry with you and that you made her feel bad whenever you were in touch in the old days. What's that about? Did you do something that really hurt her? If so, an apology may also be in order. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
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