1 month NC then disaster

[offcloudnine]

Hey folks, long story short, we had been together for 3 years, we were really great together, had marriage and our life planned together and are childhood friends for longer than 10 years. We are both in our mid 20s now, and she broke it off with me sometime this year and got over me like in an instant citing reasons such as "I just don't feel it anymore", "I just don't love you anymore", "I don't know why".

 

After doing all the wrong things, pleading, begging, and hanging around hoping that she'd come to her senses, I finally came around to going NC for myself.

 

During this time she jumped from one guy to another, the relationships never lasting very long, and now she is with one of her best friends (I was considered one of her best friends) in a long-distance relationship.

 

The disaster started when she came over to my place (she has a lot of her things here still) to pick up some of her stuff. She had told me that on her way here she really hated me but when she saw me, she said she realized how much she missed me and we spent a few short hours together as if we were together once again, hugging, cuddling and a bit of smooching.

 

She never brought it up (why am I not surprised), and so we met up another day for dessert (not an euphemism) and that day ended with me telling her that I couldn't go back to being just friends cause I wanted more (because I still loved her very much). When I get home, I receive a lot of texts from her asking to stay friends and then suddenly nothing.

 

It has been a couple of days since the whole ordeal and we haven't spoken a word to each other, I don't know what to really think or expect. Back to good old NC?

 

Would love some insights on the whole situation or even parts of it.

[taya]

hun this girl is playing with you she dont love you if she did she wouldent be doing all of this let her go and let her go now move on to a woman that will love you and wont play with your emotion ..this girl want to have you as her toy when she done playing with you she move on then come back and play again then move on ect save your self the pain and let her go for good now ..dont amswer her texts calls any more or let her come back to your place ..time to move on

[PYTpisces]

Yeah she doesnt know what she wants and she thinks it's ok to drag you through the mud with her. Erm no it's not! Shes got much a growin up to do...

[Exit]

NC again. Stay away from her. Sounds gross the way she is hopping from one guy to the next. That's an obvious red flag of someone who gets into relationships for the wrong reasons and doesn't have genuine feelings for the people she is with - most likely that applied to you as well. These people are not it in for love, it's about not wanting to be lonely, running from self-esteem issues, or any number of other things. Not someone worth being with. You told her you couldn't handle just being friends, so stick with what you said.

[PYTpisces]

I agree with this last post. I wanted to say more and that I was sorry you had to go through this. Doesnt make it easier.

She's not worth it at alllll

[offcloudnine]

Thanks for the responses! I agree, and I am going back to NC. I also believe she has a lot of growing up to do, it's just interesting how she's so convinced every time that the guy she's with is her 'true love', I don't think she even knows what that means. I'm guessing she's just driven by her emotions/feelings in believing that. We were each other's first and I am a bit disgusted at the person she is becoming after she left me; in fact she admitted herself that her 'old' self would hate who she is now yet she does nothing to better herself in this regard.

 

You're all right about how she thinks it's alright to drag me through the mud with her, that's selfish. She says she needs me but she shouldn't if who she was with was really her 'true love' in my opinion.

 

...back to NC.

[taya]

Thanks for the responses! I agree, and I am going back to NC. I also believe she has a lot of growing up to do, it's just interesting how she's so convinced every time that the guy she's with is her 'true love', I don't think she even knows what that means. I'm guessing she's just driven by her emotions/feelings in believing that. We were each other's first and I am a bit disgusted at the person she is becoming after she left me; in fact she admitted herself that her 'old' self would hate who she is now yet she does nothing to better herself in this regard.

 

You're all right about how she thinks it's alright to drag me through the mud with her, that's selfish. She says she needs me but she shouldn't if who she was with was really her 'true love' in my opinion.

 

...back to NC.

 

 

yeah go back but dont let history repeat its self dont let her just walk back and you dont NC beacuse of her ..dont answer her texts calls nothing ..and omg she even tell you the guy she is with is her true love and you keep worrying about this girl if you were my brother i would have hit you over your head to wake up :plol ..but stop making this girl walk all over you your a man stand up for your self now

[puzzled1]

I think you might have been in a relationship with my ex's long lost twin sister.

 

 

Thats the same **** this girl keeps telling me!!

 

If its meant to be, we will end up together. If its true love, I will find you and be with you forever. I just dont feel the passion anymore. I love you but I am not in love with you. I am confused on what is going on with me. Its not you, really! Its me!!. I just dont want to regret this decision. I dont want to have doubts after marriage. I need to find someone else so I can appreciate and see everything you do for me. You are the right person, its just the wrong time.

 

 

BUTTTTTTT since you are such a good sport, will you stay by my side while I screw the brains out of these other guys so we can get over this together.

 

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