starla33 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) My date with this guy was last Wed. He can't do anything this week and I cant meet him during the week next week and the only weekend he has free is NEXT weekend. Is this a red flag? Should I run for the hills? I don't want to over react since this is only the 2nd date and I guess I don't expect to be a priority yet, but it also makes me not want to go since I don't want to date someone that is this busy. Honestly not that hard to find a few hours in your weekend (instead of partying) to meet up with someone. Should I ask him if he is always this busy before I agree to this? I don't want to be wasting my time. Edited October 30, 2012 by starla33
Ami1uwant Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 WTH----you are over reacting this time for sure. You are trying to set up a second date right now and your schedules dont work out well...you deal with it. You want to be a prioity so he get fired from his job because he is blowing off work for you? It sounds to me he cant because of work stuff this week. You cant meet him next week during the week. Did you ask him what he was doing? Why cant you meet him during the week next week?
Author starla33 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 WTH----you are over reacting this time for sure. You are trying to set up a second date right now and your schedules dont work out well...you deal with it. You want to be a prioity so he get fired from his job because he is blowing off work for you? It sounds to me he cant because of work stuff this week. You cant meet him next week during the week. Did you ask him what he was doing? Why cant you meet him during the week next week? I can if he drives halfway, but he wants me to go all the way to where he lives which is an hour. Our first date was halfway. Anyway doesn't matter. I can't do it. Told him he is too busy to date sorry
Ami1uwant Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 An hour is too far to drive for you....If he lives in a large city and you live out in the boonies its because he wants to do something with you. Why wont you drive an hr to him?
Author starla33 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 An hour is too far to drive for you....If he lives in a large city and you live out in the boonies its because he wants to do something with you. Why wont you drive an hr to him? IM in the city he is in the boonies. and I drive to work for an hour so please don't give me that speech. That would be a 3 hour drive during a weekday that I just can not do.
Ami1uwant Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 IM in the city he is in the boonies. and I drive to work for an hour so please don't give me that speech. That would be a 3 hour drive during a weekday that I just can not do. you are not explaining your situation fully. How do you get 3 hrs if you live an hr away? 1 hr + 1 hr =2 hrs. The talk of this was doing it on the weekend ---not a week day. If the distance was such an issue, why did you bother to meet him in the first place?
SJC2008 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 For the second date defiantely give the benefit of the doubt! If it keeps up stop seeing him. Look up "I nexted her but was it premature?" thread. Went on a date, she went on vac, ok understandable. Went on a second date, asked for a 3rd and she said she was going out of town AGAIN!!! I got mad and said forget about it you're too busy and we went back and forth for a bit. She coul of communicated on our first date that she goes out of town a lot or was going to be more busy than usual for the next month or so etc.
suladas Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 You're not overracting, no guy should expect you to drive out to meet him, especially when you are the one in the city. Halfway at most you should be expected to drive. He obviously isn't to interested. I definately agree with not going out with him again. 2
bobsmith76 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 My date with this guy was last Wed. He can't do anything this week and I cant meet him during the week next week and the only weekend he has free is NEXT weekend. Is this a red flag? Should I run for the hills? I don't want to over react since this is only the 2nd date and I guess I don't expect to be a priority yet, but it also makes me not want to go since I don't want to date someone that is this busy. Honestly not that hard to find a few hours in your weekend (instead of partying) to meet up with someone. Should I ask him if he is always this busy before I agree to this? I don't want to be wasting my time. give him an ultimatum. either make time for me in the next two weeks, or there will be no second date. don't date someone who's busy. 1
Author starla33 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 For the second date defiantely give the benefit of the doubt! If it keeps up stop seeing him. Look up "I nexted her but was it premature?" thread. Went on a date, she went on vac, ok understandable. Went on a second date, asked for a 3rd and she said she was going out of town AGAIN!!! I got mad and said forget about it you're too busy and we went back and forth for a bit. She coul of communicated on our first date that she goes out of town a lot or was going to be more busy than usual for the next month or so etc. yes but this dude is not traveling. He is partying with his friends. Big difference here. If you can't ditch a night of partying to go on a date, you sir are NOT ready for a relationship (which is what I am looking for).
Author starla33 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) give him an ultimatum. either make time for me in the next two weeks, or there will be no second date. don't date someone who's busy. Yep I told him. I hope that does not make me sound needy...lol. I think some guys think when you don't want a busy guy that you want a guy that will be with you every freaking day? Once every 2 weeks? No thank you, go eff urself man Edited October 30, 2012 by starla33
Author starla33 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 you are not explaining your situation fully. How do you get 3 hrs if you live an hr away? 1 hr + 1 hr =2 hrs. The talk of this was doing it on the weekend ---not a week day. If the distance was such an issue, why did you bother to meet him in the first place? i take the train to work 1 hour there 1 hour back. Then I would have to drive to see him one hour there one hour back. If it was during the week you can see this is too much for me. Yes weekend, but not this weekend....next weekend which makes it more than 2 weeks. Hell I'll forget anything we talked about and will have gone on 2 other dates this week and next.
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