Inviv_girl Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 First of all thank you so much for reading this thread, I appreciate very much for the advice and opinion. My ex- and I were in love for each other and did everything for our relationship, until time took us apart for a job in another country. We have to deal with LDR for a while and due to almost a year time, the distance hurting us but we keep fighting because we love each other. Then suddenly he called off because his feeling changed! he lost his feeling for me... I let him go, I was devastate and in a huge mess.. we still communicate with each other, he still care and always be there for me. Life change, people grow, but whats the point of making commitment if to know the feeling will change? he was the one talking and wanting the married and have kids together in the future, I was happy to know he's serious and I fall so much for him and now he left.. and "feeling changed"??? was it a lie when he said he wanted to marry me and have family together? was he just playing with me? he said he wasnt play with me and said "I was serious "at that time" but now the feeling changed---what the f***??
fremonde Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Im sorry to say, but he didn't want those things enough to try. He gave up. Best to move on yourself, and find a guy willing to go that distance for you, or, not have the same issues again to stress the relationship. Not all men are the same. You can move on, and find someone better, or different. Not better or worse as a man, but better for you.
volkom29 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I feel you i am in the same situation... Why people said that thinks and then just give up?? And leave your head with "??????????"
Author Inviv_girl Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 I just wonder if that lost feeling can get back somehow does anyone with same experience ?
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I just wonder if that lost feeling can get back somehow does anyone with same experience ? Your situation is hard. Stay in contact with the hopes that he could change his mind is like living in limbo. I couldn't do that. Once they muster the courage to utter the words "it's over" it's over for me too. I might not like it, it might hurt like crazy, but I must accept it. You are too valuable to wait for someone who has decided to end things. If he wanted you forever, nothing would get in his way of staying with you (even physical distance). I can't speak about his feelings and nor can you, we aren't mind readers. Read the link in my signature, it should give you perspective.
Author Inviv_girl Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Im so confused, lost and in a huge mess. Its extremely hard for me and he's my everything. He's my friend and lover, I dont have any friend of my own. I know my life sucks! we are in our 30-ist and he was my first boyfriend. I cant past the day without crying, no matter what I do and how tired I am he is still and always on my mind. I know people would just ask me to go NC but it isnt simple as what they say, Im crashed, struggle each day and Talking to him comfort me.. Its hurt, I just dont know what to do...
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