shelley3 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Left my controlling ex and thought it would be so easy like a new lease on life, starting my life again. We have 2 kids together so I knew I'd see him but I thought I wouldn't care. I was right at first u was happy things were so easy. Well now I feel bad I miss him and worst of all I'm lonely. I have my kids and I love them to death but I never thought I would feel such a loss about not having him. I have been on some dates bit its not the same. I don't miss being yelled at, having him put his hands on my neck, him calling me a whore all the time, or the constant phone calls to see where I am but I do miss the good times. I don't knowwhy I'm so down lately but we talk nice on the phone about the kids and I just get so depressed. Any advice on how to stay strong or feel better or anything
oracle Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 You don't really move on until you meet someone you like just a little bit more. That could take awhile..or never happen. You are caught up now in the lingering attachment, and the yearning for the comfortzone of what you knew.. even if it was mostly bad. Breathe... it gets better. Left my controlling ex and thought it would be so easy like a new lease on life, starting my life again. We have 2 kids together so I knew I'd see him but I thought I wouldn't care. I was right at first u was happy things were so easy. Well now I feel bad I miss him and worst of all I'm lonely. I have my kids and I love them to death but I never thought I would feel such a loss about not having him. I have been on some dates bit its not the same. I don't miss being yelled at, having him put his hands on my neck, him calling me a whore all the time, or the constant phone calls to see where I am but I do miss the good times. I don't knowwhy I'm so down lately but we talk nice on the phone about the kids and I just get so depressed. Any advice on how to stay strong or feel better or anything
todreaminblue Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Left my controlling ex and thought it would be so easy like a new lease on life, starting my life again. We have 2 kids together so I knew I'd see him but I thought I wouldn't care. I was right at first u was happy things were so easy. Well now I feel bad I miss him and worst of all I'm lonely. I have my kids and I love them to death but I never thought I would feel such a loss about not having him. I have been on some dates bit its not the same. I don't miss being yelled at, having him put his hands on my neck, him calling me a whore all the time, or the constant phone calls to see where I am but I do miss the good times. I don't knowwhy I'm so down lately but we talk nice on the phone about the kids and I just get so depressed. Any advice on how to stay strong or feel better or anything I believe you move on when you relaise you just cant go back the lies the abuse mine is with soemone else so thats another reason for me ....even though she did it to me and didnt care doesnt mean i hav eto be the same.....i loved him for a long time without love in return.......and i put up with behaviour that was cruel and just plain mean...not only the damage done to my children....i forgive him....and thats how i moved on......i wish him well and i start my own journey.......i dont know because i cant put a time to it.......but i do have feelings for someone else....and it did come as a shock......but i have moved on and i contribute me forgiving her to wanting and needing to follow what my faith teaches.......it actually gave me peace...the feelings i had towards her were disgust and total lack of respect...........deb
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