TooBroken Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 NC has been going bad. We're still in contact off and on. But yesterday, she blocked me on facebook and I haven't even done anything. I'm really sad now. It's like she hates me and I've just tried to be friendly. Everyone says just go NC but how do you just cut someone you care for out of your life? I'm so hurt and angry about everything.
KatZee Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 If she's the one that dumped you then you being "friendly" only comes off as intrusive and annoying. She dumped you. Her actions said, "I don't want you in my life." So for you to continue breaking the NC to talk or whatever else, only pushed her further away. This is why they tell the dumpees to go NC. To continue reaching out only makes it worse. You just have to break the habit. Focus on yourself, your friends and your family.
suladas Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Agree with above. It's not easy but it's the best. Bascially you need to get the attitude I don't give a f**k about my ex. Yes it hurts them cutting you out, but you have to think why do you care about someone who doesn't care about you? It makes no sense.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Welcome to the club. She's actually doing you a favor, just doesn't seem that way now. I just don't understand people I guess. I never asked my ex to come back, I never ever initiated contact (I did send a goodbye email, baaad in hindsight). Your ex does not want to be with you but you contact them, just think about that?!?!? 99.9% of people leave because they don't want you anymore and think/know they can do better (find what they want) elsewhere. To contact her once after she leaves you is like saying "I have zero self worth, you are the reason I live, I will never do better than you, you can't leave because I need you". Think from the opposite standpoint; "you want out then go, I don't need someone in my life that is half a** about me, I will do better than you, I make me happy not you". These are the thoughts of high value people, people with options. You might not have either right now, but deep down you are high value. Otherwise do this instead, get a blow up doll and take it out to dinner/movies/have sex with it. Getting your dead ex back will be the same thing.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 You aren't NC if you are "in contact off and on". NC means no contact, not occasional contact. Like KatZee said, all contact you are initiating now is just angering your ex. Your ex is doing you a huge favor as NavyAirTraffic said. And I'll throw out a shoutout to suladas too because I'm that nice. But seriously, your ex is helping you out big time. You need to stop communicating with her.
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