I feel awful

[without]

Will you guys please help? I feel awful and I don't know what to do.

 

I've been going out with a guy in my university, we are getting really close and i get close really easily.

 

I like him alot but he's younger, about a year. Now the problem is that he has so many teenage-problems. He had loved a girl, which he claims he does no more and she is a total B****. She strung him along and then left him and now she has a bf which she has cheated on with her best friends bf.

 

I dont really know how he feels.

 

And he has so many female friends.

 

Also he smokes weed.

 

And now another guy wants to ask me out, he's older than me and he is studying MA, and he has a much better position and major.

 

When he first asked me out I was put off by the way he acted and also the way he dressed. You know he looked like nothing my type but he has a cute face.

 

Also I kind of got the idea he only wants me for my looks."He stared at my body alot."

 

I got his number but never called him. This happened when i first was going out with the other guy and I told him all about that.

 

Now today I saw the other guy again and he saw me with my bf. He looked really sad to see me and I felt so bad for not letting him know i had a bf. So I texted and told him I'm going out with another guy but I dont think its gonna work.

 

Now he wants to see me.

 

I feel so bad I don't want to hurt my bf, he's really sweet and fragile but I don't wanna regret not going out with this guy either but even the idea of meeting him is killing me. I feel like if i see him I'm betraying my bf.

[without]

Will anyone tell me what they think?

[SJC2008]

Will anyone tell me what they think?

 

Sure. Your BF is either right for you or he isn't. So if he's not right for you leave him. It also sounds like you don't want to be single for even a milisecond and are lining up the next guy so you don't have to be single for said milisecond.

[without]

Sure. Your BF is either right for you or he isn't. So if he's not right for you leave him. It also sounds like you don't want to be single for even a milisecond and are lining up the next guy so you don't have to be single for said milisecond.

 

Actually the last time i dated was 2 years ago.

 

I'm just so nervous and I don't know if hes right or not for me...

[sweetkiwi]

how long have you been dating this guy? And are you judging him on his past or present? Is he good to you? Does he treat you right? Do you like him? Why is this other guys position so attractive to you? What does that even mean? Lots of questions but you should be asking yourself more.

[without]

how long have you been dating this guy? And are you judging him on his past or present? Is he good to you? Does he treat you right? Do you like him? Why is this other guys position so attractive to you? What does that even mean? Lots of questions but you should be asking yourself more.

 

Yes he makes me happy.

 

But i'm thinking about the future, the other guy has a good job too. That's what I meant as position.

 

How can I know what to do?

[sweetkiwi]

you're thinking about the future as in money and you're not even dating the other guy.......not how i prioritize my life. But if money is so important to you then i suggest not relying on anyone to have it except you. You're getting way too ahead of yourself here. If your current guy was right for you you'd know. And not in a material way. You need to slow your roll and not see every single guy as the next baby daddy bread winner.

 

Just my opinion however. I am among the seeming minority of women who doesn't consider a man's wallet before marriage. Let alone the first date. Actually since i haven't been married i never consider it. There's so much more to life than paper with dead presidents on it.