DavidG Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 (edited) Ok here it goes. I haven't posted in a few weeks so ill make it short as many of you know my story and have helped me tremendously. I was with my ex for almost two years and she broke up with me August 24th. Honestly it was completely my fault. I didn't give her 100% and didn't do many of the simple things that most females need. Anyways when we broke up she rebounded and was with another guy up until about a month ago. She sent me a long email when they did and she said that she loved and missed me to death and she wanted to take things slow. We have been hanging out often for the past three weeks and I do literally everything the way I should have done it in the first place. She obviously notices it and tells me how happy it makes her, etc. etc. Anyways, when we are together, we talk about marriage, building a house together, etc. and it seems great but we have no title. We had a talk a week ago and she said that shes been losing her mind and needs time to figure out what is wrong with her and why shes not happy (in general with life). I told her to take all the time she needs and we can stop hanging out because it honestly kills me when she is hot and cold. Not cold in a mean way but just no in it like I am. She said "i know it sounds cliche for me to need to figure out what I want but I am honestly not lying to you. I dont want to be with anyone but you forever and I picture us and can clearly see us happy together". We agreed to take a break from hanging out and talking as much but she called me the next morning and said she didn't want to not talk to her best friend and she wanted us to still hang out. I agreed and we hung out today but it just feels weird. One second its me and her as a couple (still of course no title) and the next I sense distance. We also only hang out for short periods of time. Today for instance the hurricane is here forcing us to stay indoors and I left her house and we are now both alone at our own places for no real reason. Any advice? I love this girl to death and want nothing more than to be with her but it hurts sometimes not having a title and it just not feeling right sometimes when Im in this 110%. Maybe I am being to impatient. I just don't want to be the idiot that fell for some kind of trick (although I honestly believe what she tells me and if she didn't want to be with me she wouldn't hang out with me, kiss, lay with each other, sex once so far, talk about marriage, kids, etc.) Any advice? Thanks again guys Edited October 29, 2012 by DavidG
geegirl Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 This was the ex that dumped you for another guy, then dumped him and came back to you but then realized she didn't know what she wanted. Why be with someone that doesn't have a solid plan for reconciliation? You choose to wait on the sidelines until she decides she wants you? If anything, you tell her to go and fix her head and when she's ready, come see you. You don't dabble in her mess and hope she gets a lightbulb moment. She's basically using you as a crutch. You're just not that quite good enough for her to say yes. Great feeling, right? What advice do you need? Read all your past threads. You chose this path. You're just going to have to live with HER terms.
ilou Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 This was the ex that dumped you for another guy, then dumped him and came back to you but then realized she didn't know what she wanted. HER terms. Exactly what I thought. Move on for a bit my friend. If she's ready, when she's ready she may come. In the meantime, move on so you can prepare yourself for the worst. There's a chance that she's phasing you out.
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