NYC-BigKat Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Um..met her saturday at a job fair in manhattan. Lots of cute girls there but I knew they wouldn't go for me 'cause there was better looking guys than me but this older lady looked okay & she was fit & kept looking at me so we get to chatting up after the fair. She's 42 me almost 24. I ask her out and I get her cell number. We got to chat more today about the hurricane & stuff she's really nice & interesting & is giving me a chance. I just cant believe she's 42 with her nice fit body. She taller than me by some inches too. But when I tell my friends about her they all laughed at me. Even my uncle thinks its funny. I feel embarrassed about this now & wish I didn't open my mouth .
ThaWholigan Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 How exactly were they laughing at you? Was it in a denigrating way or endearing? Either way, f*ck your friends, it's your dating life not theirs. 6
suladas Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Who cares what they think? Maybe some of them are jealous? Being with a older women is awesome. All my friends were actually jealous, none of them have been with someone over 30. I'm 23 and my ex is 35, it was great. I'm going out this weekend with someone who's 26. I can't stand most women my age, have to be older to be somewhat as mature as me and have the same interests. 2
Ross MwcFan Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 **** them mate, they'll always be people who will critisize you, me, and anyone else for whatever we do. 3
todreaminblue Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Um..met her saturday at a job fair in manhattan. Lots of cute girls there but I knew they wouldn't go for me 'cause there was better looking guys than me but this older lady looked okay & she was fit & kept looking at me so we get to chatting up after the fair. She's 42 me almost 24. I ask her out and I get her cell number. We got to chat more today about the hurricane & stuff she's really nice & interesting & is giving me a chance. I just cant believe she's 42 with her nice fit body. She taller than me by some inches too. But when I tell my friends about her they all laughed at me. Even my uncle thinks its funny. I feel embarrassed about this now & wish I didn't open my mouth . you should do what makes you happy and not be concerned what your friends think if it is really a big deal to you you probably arent ready to date an older woman if you are succumbing to peer pressure to conform......your friends dont have to date her you do however and if you are ashamed dont do it......i would not want to date someone who was ashamed of me ....i would date a guy who was happy to be with me and didnt give a flying toss what others were thinking they should worry more about their own lives anyway..thats maturity....you have to be ready to cop flak for being with an older woman.....as she will cop it for being with a younger man...that definitely takes maturity...deb
rana-rana Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Um..met her saturday at a job fair in manhattan. Lots of cute girls there but I knew they wouldn't go for me 'cause there was better looking guys than me but this older lady looked okay & she was fit & kept looking at me so we get to chatting up after the fair. She's 42 me almost 24. I ask her out and I get her cell number. We got to chat more today about the hurricane & stuff she's really nice & interesting & is giving me a chance. I just cant believe she's 42 with her nice fit body. She taller than me by some inches too. But when I tell my friends about her they all laughed at me. Even my uncle thinks its funny. I feel embarrassed about this now & wish I didn't open my mouth . papito they laughing cuz u so yng next to her thats why lol. it aint no biggie cuz i been with older dudes than me & nobody be laughing. they be staring. if u like her go be with her & dont worry about what ppl think or say. just do u.
suladas Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 you should do what makes you happy and not be concerned what your friends think if it is really a big deal to you you probably arent ready to date an older woman if you are succumbing to peer pressure to conform......your friends dont have to date her you do however and if you are ashamed dont do it......i would not want to date someone who was ashamed of me ....i would date a guy who was happy to be with me and didnt give a flying toss what others were thinking they should worry more about their own lives anyway..thats maturity....you have to be ready to cop flak for being with an older woman.....as she will cop it for being with a younger man...that definitely takes maturity...deb I agree with it. I was proud of it actually. You could tell she was older, but nowhere near what the actual age difference was, and the number doesn't matter. The only thing that was different was her meeting my friends, she didn't really meet any of them. Just because what 35 year old wants to hang out with a bunch of people in their early-mid 20's. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 How exactly were they laughing at you? Was it in a denigrating way or endearing? Either way, f*ck your friends, it's your dating life not theirs. Um...they just laughed & didn't really say anything. My uncle made fun. I'm not even sure she really really likes me though. I wanna ask her to go out with me & see what she says but what if she says no? What to do about it?
ThaWholigan Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Um...they just laughed & didn't really say anything. My uncle made fun. I'm not even sure she really really likes me though. I wanna ask her to go out with me & see what she says but what if she says no? What to do about it? Don't do anything. You need to relax it seems - talk to more women, ease yourself into being more comfortable with outcomes no matter what they are.
todreaminblue Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Um...they just laughed & didn't really say anything. My uncle made fun. I'm not even sure she really really likes me though. I wanna ask her to go out with me & see what she says but what if she says no? What to do about it? With askign a younger guy it is hard because a woman doesnt want to come across as dominant because honestly the woman will probably be more experienced with older men or men her own age there is a stigma involved with dating younger men.....and some women dont want to be aggressive even when they are more experienced they are used to men asking them....so even though you are younger you have to build up some courage to ask your uncle is probably jealous, and if you dont watch it he will probably beat you to asking your lady friend out....;0).....i understand your fear of getting rejected but everyone suffers from that.......doesnt matter what age you are its always there when something new is in your path you fear it for a while.i tend to do things like tell people because i have been todl to do that by people who have never led me astray.......say what you mean and mean what you say....no matter how scared you are....jump........and i have....and sometimes i succeed and sometimes i crash but i have no regrets..the is the thing that drives me....i only ever say something if i am seriously sure i want to get to know someone and it doesnt happen all that often which is another way i am sure i am kamikazing for the right reasons so the fear i feel is not as strong as the clarity i have in my heart..plus and this bites a bit when i do crash i still want to know that person and the strong feelings dont change at all....in fact for me they are still developing and i crashed spectacularly kamikaze style this time.....im still here still kicking and the feelings havent changed....that bites.its the sting of rejection shouldnt change yrou desire to get to know someone but as far as me pursuing....he has been told and recently i showed in my way wanting to eb close....believe me it was subtle ...just a hug...but i havent hugged a guy in a very long time..take things slow but always try..........smilin...good luck.....deb 2
rubberduck Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Hey she 's probably impressed that someone way younger likes her - ignore your friends, if you like her go for it x
suladas Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 With askign a younger guy it is hard because a woman doesnt want to come across as dominant because honestly the woman will probably be more experienced with older men or men her own age there is a stigma involved with dating younger men.....and some women dont want to be aggressive even when they are more experienced they are used to men asking them....so even though you are younger you have to build up some courage to ask your uncle is probably jealous, and if you dont watch it he will probably beat you to asking your lady friend out....;0).....i understand your fear of getting rejected but everyone suffers from that.......doesnt matter what age you are its always there when something new is in your path you fear it for a while.i tend to do things like tell people because i have been todl to do that by people who have never led me astray.......say what you mean and mean what you say....no matter how scared you are....jump........and i have....and sometimes i succeed and sometimes i crash but i have no regrets..the is the thing that drives me....i only ever say something if i am seriously sure i want to get to know someone and it doesnt happen all that often which is another way i am sure i am kamikazing for the right reasons so the fear i feel is not as strong as the clarity i have in my heart..plus and this bites a bit when i do crash i still want to know that person and the strong feelings dont change at all....in fact for me they are still developing and i crashed spectacularly kamikaze style this time.....im still here still kicking and the feelings havent changed....that bites.its the sting of rejection shouldnt change yrou desire to get to know someone but as far as me pursuing....he has been told and recently i showed in my way wanting to eb close....believe me it was subtle ...just a hug...but i havent hugged a guy in a very long time..take things slow but always try..........smilin...good luck.....deb I agree. My ex asked me out, she really didn't want to, said she was trying her best to give signals so I would, but in the end she did it. You just have to try and see what happens. But be warned, there is a lot of challenges that come up with the age gap, but IMO it is well worth it. 1
jcrew11 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 This sounds like one hot cougar. Was she unemployed as well? She's old enough to be your mother! Is she a single mom with kids? Older women have bigger breasts. Go for it!
threebyfate Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 My uncle made fun.Is this your junkie/dealer/cheater uncle who trolls for teenage girls at the mall? He's one to talk about people laughing...
todreaminblue Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 This sounds like one hot cougar. Was she unemployed as well? She's old enough to be your mother! Is she a single mom with kids? Older women have bigger breasts. Go for it! She's old enough to be your mother! this is stigma so when you say go fro it this should be left in your head swirling around with those big breasts thought...probably cougar too should stay in your head if you want to advise someone to 'GO FOR IT"......COUGAR is a derogatory term to make out an aggressive woman, a predator on younger men..because what do they call an older man who falls for a younger woman(lets talk of legal age here).....dont they call him lucky..........deb
KraftDinner Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 There's nothing wrong with the age difference but I don't like how you basically say you're going for her because you can't get young hotties. Like don't do her any favours - only date her if you like her, not just because you can't get someone else. 1
jcrew11 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 She's old enough to be your mother! this is stigma so when you say go fro it this should be left in your head swirling around with those big breasts thought...probably cougar too should stay in your head if you want to advise someone to 'GO FOR IT"......COUGAR is a derogatory term to make out an aggressive woman, a predator on younger men..because what do they call an older man who falls for a younger woman(lets talk of legal age here).....dont they call him lucky..........deb Old men with Younger women are called Sugar Daddies/Sugar Babies
WonderKid Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Actually I'm considering older women now. The women around my age I just have not clicked with lately. They play too many head games, set up too many mind mazes, and some are full of themselves. With mature women they are past all that BS. I say go for it.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 Hey she 's probably impressed that someone way younger likes her - ignore your friends, if you like her go for it x Yea but it seems she dont like me so much 'cause I text her tonight & now she take long to answer & when I ask her if she wanna go to the movies with me she dont answer at all not even a 42 year old woman wants me.
rubberduck Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Yea but it seems she dont like me so much 'cause I text her tonight & now she take long to answer & when I ask her if she wanna go to the movies with me she dont answer at all not even a 42 year old woman wants me. Maybe going to the movies feels too 'young' for her. I know I'm only 24 and I'd find that a bit odd now.. How about going for coffee or a meal? xx
CptObvious Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 ....Nice - South Park (Full Version) - YouTube
Author NYC-BigKat Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 Maybe going to the movies feels too 'young' for her. I know I'm only 24 and I'd find that a bit odd now.. How about going for coffee or a meal? xx But why so odd? She says she like alot of movies so thats why I ask her to go with me this week but she gave no reply to the text. Not sure what to do. I kinda wanna text her again but I dont want her to think I'm a needy little boy which I kinda am anyway .
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