HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Hi all, My girlfriend recently broke up with me as she "doesn't feel the same way about me anymore" having a real tough time at the moment as I loved her so much & miss her so much, since the breakup I have maintained no contact and cut out her updates on Facebook so to not upset me, although my dream would be to get back together I am not betting on it so the least I can hope for is eventual friendship one day :'( She got in touch with me regarding money she owed me a few days after the breakup and since then it's been 5 days of no contact, well depending if this counts.....we both were really into this photo sharing thing whete you can like, comment on pictures & upload your own....she has uploaded a few recently & I have simply "liked" them, no comment or anything just a like which when she saw she went and liked one of my recently uploaded pictures, my question is....is this technically contact?
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 This is poking your toe in the water... Watch out man, it's shark infested.
Author HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 So I should be wary....I want her back so I figured it was a nice suttle way to remind her of me? Or better just pulling a shutter down on any contact?
Simon Phoenix Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 So I should be wary....I want her back so I figured it was a nice suttle way to remind her of me? Or better just pulling a shutter down on any contact? It's not subtle at all. And she hasn't forgotten about you in five days. Just back off completely from that.
Author HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Ok thanks guys, I have unlinked the latest one I did, I know she's working at the moment so she won't have noticed I have done it....I will stick to 0% contact then, thanks for the quick responses!
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Ok thanks guys, I have unlinked the latest one I did, I know she's working at the moment so she won't have noticed I have done it....I will stick to 0% contact then, thanks for the quick responses! No contact isn't a way of getting her back, it is a way of helping you move on with your life. If you want her back, go and tell her. Those who go no contact with the delusion that will bring their ex magically running back are in for an unpleasant ride. The longer you wait, the more dirty rebound dick she's sucking.
Author HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 (edited) It's only just been a week...is that really such a good idea to ask to get back together? If somebody cheated or had a fight maybe but being told that her feelings have changed should I not leave it a while to see if she misses me, we have arranged to meet and exchange possessions in December as she returns home from university then, I could wait until then and say in person? Edited October 29, 2012 by HDL223
Simon Phoenix Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 It's only just been a week...is that really such a good idea to ask to get back together? If somebody cheated or had a fight maybe but being told that her feelings have changed should I not leave it a while to see if she misses me, we have arranged to meet and exchange possessions in December as she returns home from university then, I could wait until then and say in person? I think you should relax and let her breathe a bit. Going after her now won't do anything positive for you.
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 It's only just been a week...is that really such a good idea to ask to get back together? If somebody cheated or had a fight maybe but being told that her feelings have changed should I not leave it a while to see if she misses me, we have arranged to meet and exchange possessions in December as she returns home from university then, I could wait until then and say in person? She's away at uni... She gave you the "my feelings have changed, I care a lot about you bla bla bla I need time".... yada yada yada... excuses "She's away at uni".... Is anybody else going to break it to him or should I? Mate, the harsh truth is... I'm 101% sure that if she's not doing the cowgirl position right now... she's doing doggy style.
Author HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 I think you should relax and let her breathe a bit. Going after her now won't do anything positive for you. I think this has more chance of working, she asked to stay my friend as she said we had so many good times so I think she is feeling pressure from uni or is confused atm maybe, I will certainly wait at least a month unless she contacts me. I think I would be more annoyed with myself if I didn't try get her back and let her go completely a year down the line, I have to at least try but I need to time it correctly.
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I think this has more chance of working, she asked to stay my friend as she said we had so many good times so I think she is feeling pressure from uni or is confused atm maybe, I will certainly wait at least a month unless she contacts me. I think I would be more annoyed with myself if I didn't try get her back and let her go completely a year down the line, I have to at least try but I need to time it correctly. STOP IT! just,.. STOP IT! You're hurting yourself, mate, she's given you the signs already, it's been written. "I will always care about you"... "I hope we can still be friends"... "I still love you but it's changed"... I GUARANTEE, I "GUARANTEE" that she is banging another guy, G U A R A N T E E! Accept it, cut her out, no contact, START THE PROCESS. Welcome to the club, good luck.
Author HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 I understand mate but tbh if I had that attitude to begin with I would have never have got together with her! I met her when she was on a break from her ex, we had 4 dates before her ex demanded they got back together, she did but stayed in touch with me, I kept believing & knew I could get her back & I did. Please also for anyone else replying as I am pretty raw ATM, refrain from putting mental images in my head of her "sucking rebound dick" or "banging somebody else" I can't picture this right now especially when that guy was me precisely 8 days ago
ReadMyThread Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 STOP IT! just,.. STOP IT! You're hurting yourself, mate, she's given you the signs already, it's been written. "I will always care about you"... "I hope we can still be friends"... "I still love you but it's changed"... I GUARANTEE, I "GUARANTEE" that she is banging another guy, G U A R A N T E E! Accept it, cut her out, no contact, START THE PROCESS. Welcome to the club, good luck. Parade your going to make this guy literally cry with what your saying lmaoooo I know I would be if was only 5 days since or whenever lol. But I'm sure there is someone else man. That's the main reason someone leaves someone. Just better hope your better and she begins to miss you but that sh** won't happen if you sitting there liking her sh** on Facebook lol. You have to make her think you have moved on. Girls hate that.
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I met her when she was on a break from her ex, we had 4 dates before her ex demanded they got back together, she did but stayed in touch with me She did it WITH YOU Now she is doing it TO YOU If you're not going to accept the reality why are you here? Shouldn't you be in your bed cuddling your pillow with the delusion that she is doing the same? Take the pain like a man, she's in another mans bed right now, having guilty rebound sex, she's feeling dirty... moaning, clawing his back while he pounds her into oblivion... she's loving every second of it. It might sound like I'm trolling you, but this is the HARSH REALITY, something you need to accept, you're shying away from this and that makes you weak, gullible and you're embarrassing yourself. Love hurts... like I said, welcome to the club. I'll see you around when you decide to accept the reality and make another post in need of advise to heal and move on... then we'll talk again.
frederickkk Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 im going through exactly the same. although she isnt the type to go and sleep around. if she was, at least id know or hear about it.
Author HDL223 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 I signed up here hoping to feel a bit better but parade you make it sound like I went out with some tramp! I will not return to this forum I do not need to be given images of my ex all over some guy. Thank you I know you all tried to help but it really has made me feel worse. Goodbye
ReadMyThread Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I signed up here hoping to feel a bit better but parade you make it sound like I went out with some tramp! I will not return to this forum I do not need to be given images of my ex all over some guy. Thank you I know you all tried to help but it really has made me feel worse. Goodbye See. Lol. Told you. Stay strong man. This WILL all pass in time. Just keep no contact and let out all the pain through tears. Once the pain is gone the tears will stop.
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I signed up here hoping to feel a bit better but parade you make it sound like I went out with some tramp! I will not return to this forum I do not need to be given images of my ex all over some guy. Thank you I know you all tried to help but it really has made me feel worse. Goodbye When you hit the bottom the only place you can go from there is up. You don't have to take it from me, you'll find out from her soon enough when the begging and pleading starts, you'll make a complete fool of yourself, she'll lie for a while, but if you push hard enough eventually she'll tell you... And then you'll be back, that's when we can talk reality. So 'bye for now.
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 See. Lol. Told you. Stay strong man. This WILL all pass in time. Just keep no contact and let out all the pain through tears. Once the pain is gone the tears will stop. He needs the truth dave... me and you both know the truth hurts, and sometimes people even try to see past it, that's why you need to give it to them in the harshest way possible... make it impossible for them to ignore. It's for the greater good. At first I HATED the guy who helped me the most on here... but once I accepted the reality of my situation, everything he said made sense, and that's when the healing process starts, it's all about accepting the reality.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I signed up here hoping to feel a bit better but parade you make it sound like I went out with some tramp! I will not return to this forum I do not need to be given images of my ex all over some guy. Thank you I know you all tried to help but it really has made me feel worse. Goodbye He was a bit overzealous in delivering it, but his point is valid -- she's moved on, so should you. Don't wait around hoping she'll come back to you -- live your life and move on to the next page without giving her any consideration or thought. Easier said than done, but that's the goal. If she reappears for whatever reason, then deal with it then, but don't put your life on hold waiting for her to reconsider. It's a waste of your time.
ReadMyThread Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 He needs the truth dave... me and you both know the truth hurts, and sometimes people even try to see past it, that's why you need to give it to them in the harshest way possible... make it impossible for them to ignore. It's for the greater good. Oh for sure! I Remember when I first thought about my ex having sex with another person. I f****** balled my eyes out lol. But now it's like whatever. It's just sex. Like Trey Sonz said, "sex ain't better than love". Lol. That quilt sex will hit her hard if she made a true mistake. He will be back lol. Once he is done crying after everything you told him lol. But he needed it.
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