Starnette83 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 How do i deal??? its been 2 weeks and 1 day of no contact, it just seems like he doesn't care...i really feel FORGOTTEN!!! what happened to all the promises?? what happened to all the times he held me and made me feel like he'd never make me sad or leave me?? nwo he just gotta turn his back on me? he doesnt miss me, cuz if he did it would have shown already? Maybe hes with a new girl already, it jsut driving me insane...3 years 1/2 for this??? i gave him my all and cant he see how him ignoring me is just makeing me feel..i just wanna get to that point were im so pisssed at him that i wont care, will that happen maybe in 2 more weeks??? seems like sometimes i dont care but then i get to points like this that i do care....i just wish i knew what was on his mind, i just dont even feel like he misses me...this sux big time!!
confusedmind Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 mate... i feel every single word you are saying! it hurts like hell i know! i'm going through the exact same thing with my ex.... although we only went out for 11 months, which isn't quite as long as you and your ex did, i still know exactly how you feel. it's unbearable to feel as though you've wasted all this time on him when he doesn't even care or want to in the least maintain a friendship with you! I still have very strong feelings for him and when he treats you like that... theres nothing else to say, but it just hurts... I don't really know what advice to give you... but i'll say what i've gotten so far... keep your head up high, try as best as possible to occupy yourself with what makes YOU happy and try... i mean really TRY to get him off your mind! when he sees that you having no contact with him doesn't bother you.. believe me he'll either come crawling back and realise what hes lost, or he won't even realise... if he does the latter of the two - he is so not worth it babe!!! just use it as a learning curve and experience and be all the better of a person next time around! After all do you be friends with this guy if he doesn't even care if he hears from you or not?! You gotta work that out..... i know its hard, believe me i reallllyyyy realllyyy do... but we are gonna be all the better for it...
snilljente Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I agree with the previous poster that you need to keep your head up high and that he will come back if he realizes what he had...you didn't mention who broke up with who, but if you did the breaking up...it would be a different story....if he did, well, he needs to realize what he has wasted....and if he doesn't, well, would you really want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate what a great person they had....I am going through a similiar situation...except my BF is leaving for a few months and doesn't want to break up...have asked him several times, but also doesn't want contact right now bc he says he is stressed and doesn't want to get any closer to me b4 he leaves....it is incredibly hard to leave them alone....I KNOW....and the heartbreak...but sometimes things are out of our hands and we have to have peace that if it was meant to be, it will work out. Hang in there!
Author Starnette83 Posted August 2, 2004 Author Posted August 2, 2004 i broke up with him cuz he had been lying to me and getting girls #'s - i had kept forgiving him but kept warning him that i couldnt deal with it no more and it was really affecting me that he go behind my back and call girls and it made me feel like i wasnt worth anything ..anyways i broke up with him cyuz i had ENOUGH and then he turned it around and broke up with me saying "ya ure right, its not working out" i started crying and wanted to scream "WHY? U dont care do u?!" but i couldnt..i just cried and told him "are u sure" and he said "yes its for the best" and then he wanted to stay as friends but i said i couldnt and to promise me not to call me ..and he promised me... but he broke other promises like when i used to say "Promise me u wont give out ure # anymore"..hed promise and not keep it..anyways
snilljente Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 He's not worth another minute of your time. I know it hurts when people treat us poorly, but they can only do that if we allow them to. Find someone else more worthy of what you have to offer...any guy that was doing the stuff you described is not boyfriend material. Hang in there!
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