Do I still have a chance of getting her back? (Long distance relationship)

[WinstonSmithPL]

Hello everyone!

This is my first post here, but I've read few threads and I think you can really help me... I'm from Poland, so forgive me my bad grammar etc.

 

I just got dumped a week ago. Via the phone. We were best friends for almost 3 years and were together as a couple (long-distance relationship) for 3 months. There was always this chemistry between us, but she didn't want to be in a long distance relationship, so we stayed friends. We fought 3 times over these 3 years. And I mean "fight" after which we stopped talking to each other for some time. First one was over some stupidity, I don't even remember. Second one was about her first "serious" boyfriend (he was controlling and abusing, told her to cut off every man, she kept in touch with) and then we didn't talk for over 3 months... Our last friend-fight was about her relationship as well. She wanted to start dating her ex's good friend (they were football team buddies), but I told her it won't last... It didn't - there were no "sparkles" and they broke up after few weeks.

We got back in touch thanks to mutual friend and started off better than ever. Long talks, texts - it was awesome. So I went for a long weekend to see my buddy, who put us in touch again (she and him live in the same city) and she picked me up from the train station. We were spending some time together every day, I was there! Her friends told us, that we belong together, but she still wasn't sure about being a couple because of the distance issue. So, on my last day there, we went to see the new "Batman" film and when I took her hand and looked at her, she kissed me! We were a couple finally! I asked her if she really wants it, because it'll be hard for her and she said "I can do it. It's worth the effort! I can wait!!!".

We've spent few more days together during this summer holidays and last month (we said our first "I love you" then) I went to her for her B-day (it was a surprise for her). She made plans for us: she was going to finish her last year of school and move to her grandpa's flat (it was empty) to go to college far away from home (but closer to me) and we could live together then...

But it suddenly went south from there. Last Sunday she went to the theatre with her class and right before the show, she texted me "I love you, talk to you after the show, sweetie", but 2,5h later, she was like "I thought about our relationship... I'm not sure, if I want to be with you anymore"... It was a shock for me! We talked on the phone for another two hours and she finally said it "I don't want to be with you".

No particular reason at all. I had to pull it out of her. She apparentely felt forced to say things like "I want to spend my life with you" (wtf?) and she said that "problems overlapped, it's over, I'm sorry to disappoint you, bye".

This is where I stopped talking to her, but no closure was killing me.

I went there to see her for the last time. I did it on Saturday. First of all, she didn't want to talk to me, but finally agreed to. We went for a walk and talked the reasons. I made her laugh bunch of times during this conversation and she was all ok with us talking peacefully. At the beginning, she said that she's sure, that she don't want to be with me ever again, but when I was leaving, she said that she told me that to not make me any promises... When I told her, that she doesn't feel anything towards me, she replied, that's not true.

And from this point, I keep my NC, but I'm still confused about all the mixed signals, she was sending... Plus - she told me, that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone else! I told her, that we can't be friends now, because it's impossible to me...

 

So I'm not talking/texting/e-mailing her, but I keep her on Facebook. I was told to, because she'll see then, that I still do my thing (musicmaking, working out) and it'll be easier to make her miss me this way.

Any thoughts?

 

Thank you in advance

 

P.S. From her Mom I know, that she still has a picture I drew for her (we were friends then). It's still on its place, but she hid all the gifts, I gave her as her BF.

Edited October 29, 2012 by WinstonSmithPL