Merenishen Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 This is all my fault, and now I feel like absolute crap. I was out with my boyfriend last night, and while he was driving, I was playing around with his phone. I was originally just looking through his texts with me (kind of reading them through, since they get cleared out on my own phone), and he specifically told me he felt uncomfortable since he didn't like people going through his phone. Which is fine, I'm the exact same when people have my phone, and it doesn't necessarily mean we have something to hide. The thing is, curiousity killed the cat, and as I was scrolling down his list of chats, I ran into one from the day after we met with a girl I met the same night as him. I always felt crappy about the day we met, because we met under circumstances where I was extremely plastered, made a fool of myself, and had to be taken care of by my bf (who didn't know me at the time). I understand that things changed and obviously he likes me as a person now, but I always cringe when I remember the drunken fool I made out of myself. Anyway, scrolling through the conversation with said female, I was probably assuming they talked about the night we met. And right I was. The thing is, the things they said about me regarding that night were not very nice things. They were laughing at me and saying they should have left me behind and not bothered having taken care of me that night. While I do understand things have changed, and I'm a dumb idiot for looking through that conversation in the first place (after he told me not to!), it nonetheless STUNG super badly to read that. Felt like I'd been whipped from how badly it stung. I now feel like absolute sh*t over something absolutely ridiculous that obviously has no merit anymore, and I'm overwhelmed by immense guilt for doing something he told me EXACTLY not to do. I have no excuses for myself: if you do something like look through people's phone, you pay the price of reading things you weren't supposed to read. I don't want to dump my mood on my boyfriend, but he can completely tell I'm totally messed up right now, and he doesn't know what over. If I could deal with my guilt and sh*tty feelings by myself I'd be fine, but now I hate the fact I'm worrying him because of me, when he shouldn't be feeling anything bad. Should I tell him I looked through his phone right after he told me not to? And should I explain why I'm so upset over what I read? I don't want to make him feel bad about it (I know he would), because obviously he did nothing wrong by saying those things about me to that girl (who I am also friends with today). Or should I just swallow my words and deal with the consequences of feeling like crap on my own, and get over it by myself?
taya Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 then if he did nothing wrong hun just let it go i woudent even tell him that its not a big deal ..dont make somthing out of nothing you may tell him that and that start a new drama ...i have learn to let things go
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Speaking from experience, never admit to looking through his phone. It will result in a breach of trust that will eat away the relationship.
River Rain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 He asked you not to invade his privacy, yet you chose to anyway. You discovered something that was really none of your business. You don't really have the right to feel bad, you admitted yourself that you were a drunken fool, so just buck up and get over it. If you continue to act hurt over this, and not tell him, you'll push him away because he won't have a clue as to why your mood has changed, which is completely selfish. If you decide to tell him, be prepared for him to lose trust in you, which he should. I'm sorry you feel bad, but it's nothing to be so distraught over. Learn your lesson. 2
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