Enchanted4 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I don't normally seek out advice from these sites, but basically, I'm desperate for opinions. I was recently broken up with, 8 days ago actually and I'm struggling because she broke up with me and tells me that she needs time and space to think about what she wants and how she feels. I want her back, I'll make that known, but I know I've already made a mistake. I broke the NC rule that she had set for last week. So we have now set it for this week and I am trying so hard not to break it. This came out of the blue. We were very much happy and in love. I'm 22 and she's 18, but it's never been a big deal. Yes, we are in different stages of life, she just started college and I just started a job, but we were always together every weekend. Now, she's completely unsure of her feelings and she honestly is confused and needs time to "see if she misses me" and evaluate her feelings. Before this, I was in a 7 year relationship. I know, I was young, but at the time it was right and it also ended badly. It took me over 14 months to get back into a relationship (the current one) that I'm in. I was hesitant about getting into this relationship for the simple reason that I was afraid of being hurt. I couldn't go through that again because the last time was really difficult. I took my time with this one, I sorted out my feelings, I fell hard, and eventually I gave in and I was 98% sure I had found the one I wanted to spend my life with. The past 9 months have been great, yes we've fought and argued, a little more than usual now that she is away for school, but the breakup wasn't something that I saw coming. I do also know that there is not someone else. Please, any advice would be helpful... I'm having a rough time.
foreverastone Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Have you guys arranged to meet at the end of the week of NC to discuss things?
Author Enchanted4 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Yes we've arranged to meet to talk about it.
River Rain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yes we've arranged to meet to talk about it. Then all you can do is wait right? Try not to overanalyze everything, although that's hard to do admittedly. Don't break her request for NC even if it drives you crazy because you have to show that you respect her wishes. I hope it all works out for you.
foreverastone Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 yeh i agree, at the moment just wait out the 1 week no contact but in the mean time grab a piece of paper and write down all the problems you think there are in the relationship and how to solve them. This will be helpful to get your thoughts down and when you see her you will know what to say.Also everytime you feel like contacting her when you shouldn't just write down what you want to say or keep a journal or blog
Author Enchanted4 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Waiting is hard. But I know that I have to show that respect because I've already broken it once and I was lucky enough to get another chance at it. I'm just an over-thinker, about everything and that makes it so much worse. I do like the idea of writing down something every time I feel like I need to talk to her... I just wish I could fast forward and see how this will turn out. This is why I took my time even getting into this relationship because this is exactly what I was afraid of
Author Enchanted4 Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Okay... so last night I went to sleep and woke up with 2 Facebook notifications that she had liked 2 of my photos and she made a reference to me in at least 2 tweets... Any ideas?
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