KatZee Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I never wanted a moral speech. I never snooped on her before. I had no reason too. I did what I did and I don't care if you think it is wrong. I took the power back. I am not the one who betrayed someone. I'm glad I did it. I found the truth out and can quit dwelling on how I messed everything up. I don't think you did anything wrong either. I'm sorry but most people are a.ssholes. Give me a reason to snoop on you, and I'm going to. I've been cheated on in the past, and I'm NEVER going to ignore my intuition again. I think these cheaters think they can fool us, play us, pull the wool over our eyes. If they're acting so shady, and giving us beyond reasonable doubt to go looking, they've just asked for it. And if you're being shady and sneaky, you don't have any rights in my eyes. I refuse to be played and lied to and I'd rather find out the truth than sit around like an idiot being made a fool of.
timchambo Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Good for you man. Nothing wrong with snooping when the relationship is at stake in my book. I wouldn't be with someone I felt I had to snoop on anyways. When I found the dirt on my ex, it helped move on so much. It turned things so much that to this day almost 2 years later I never reached out. She still does every couple months. She knows I know but I never told her how. In your case, she will be back 100%. Do yourself a favor, ignore it.. She's trouble, and not the kind you can fix. This ex-bf of hers must of left her heart broken at some point and she thinks it'll work this time. When he finds his new replacement she will be crawling back to you. Just be smart about it, and make sure the next time you're here its over someone else.
mishy Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 sometimes snooping is the only way to find out the truth. I think its entirely valid 1
21flames Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I agree too and really like Kat Z's post, her posts always make a lot of sense and are straight to the point. I always had reason to snoop on my ex and I did a lot over the years, it made me so ill and stressed, it's hard to look back and believe I actually put up with that and put myself through it for so long and didn't leave. When she begged me back last year she said she would do anything. I could look at anything etc. Then 4 months or so later she changed he online mobile account password and denied it and went off on one about me being able to look at it and we had huge rows over it. I look at that and think it was staring you in the face again and you stayed! Keeping NC is the only strong decision I have made regarding her, it's having the balls now that I didn't in the relationship and although everything is still very Raw, keeping NC feels good. There comes a point when if all you are hearing is constant lies and denial it's like running around in a circle getting know where! That's when I started NC
Author PennGuy Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 So, went to the apartment today. She was there. Instantly noticed pictures were down and some of my stuff was in boxes. It was like that moment when you see the body at a viewing. I knew it was real. It was over over. We had a nice long hug. Talked about who keeps the apartment. She said she really has no where else to go and she is on a tight budget. I gave one last ditch effort to save things...she shut me down. We talked about who got what....She apologized for how things went down the night before the breakup and was more afraid that telling me would destroy me. I know this girl better than any of you and know her intentions. I kinda had a suspicion anyways. We chatted a little more. I got up...we hugged. I left. Felt pretty bad at work at points tonight. Feel better now. Just gotta think positive. If she didn't love me anymore, then she isn't the one. Yah, it sucks that three years of memories rushed through my head as I sat there and looked at her. It sucked that I gave her an Oscar-worthy speech and stubborn old her shut it down, but I got my wish to talk to her in person and lay it all out there and see where it went. So now, it's all over but the crying. I'm sure I will feel ****ty over the next few months, but I will move on. In the end what I thought we had wasn't all it was cracked up to be. We were more like roommates that sex once or twice a week. It's sad that it got that way, and could've been prevented, but the past is the past and I haven't invented a time machine yet so time to look forward. Life isn't always sunshine and rainbows. Life isn't about how hard you can hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
Author PennGuy Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 Good for you man. Nothing wrong with snooping when the relationship is at stake in my book. I wouldn't be with someone I felt I had to snoop on anyways. When I found the dirt on my ex, it helped move on so much. It turned things so much that to this day almost 2 years later I never reached out. She still does every couple months. She knows I know but I never told her how. In your case, she will be back 100%. Do yourself a favor, ignore it.. She's trouble, and not the kind you can fix. This ex-bf of hers must of left her heart broken at some point and she thinks it'll work this time. When he finds his new replacement she will be crawling back to you. Just be smart about it, and make sure the next time you're here its over someone else. Dude, she's not in love with me anymore. I think that's as final as it gets. 2
oracle Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 You will know the truth, and the truth will make you despair.
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