Riotous Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 So there was this girl I met in work a few months ago and we hit it off pretty well, we exchanged numbers and we were texting each other every day pretty much for 3-4 weeks. As time went on we got to know each other more and she said she felt "incredibly comfortable" around me and she wasn't like that with anybody else. She started adding kisses on the end of the texts (I don't read into kisses because girls do it all the time), but as time went on she kept increasing the kisses, it went from 1, to 2 to 3 and sometimes 4. I ended up inviting her to the cinema (not the best first date I know, but we were already comfortable around each other so it wasn't like we had only just met) and it went well, I didn't push for anything and just concentrated on giving her a good time. At the end of the night I drove her home, we spoke in the car for a bit and then I hugged her goodnight and she asked for a goodnight text when I got home, which I sent her. A week later I decided to invite her to dinner, and because she was busy moving city and I had family problems I didn't get chance to see her in person so I asked her via text to come, and the response I got was pretty much "Thanks that would be REALLY nice, but I'm just so busy with moving and hospital appointments that I just don't have the time yet, but I'm sure I will see you when I come to visit because I will be visiting lots, and if you invite me to the christmas party?" At first I gave her the benefit of the doubt and just figured it was bad timing. I asked her on Wednesday, she was working Thursday and leaving Saturday, so that gives her 1 'free' day before she leaves. She's shown a LOT of signs that she likes me, and whenever we were in work she was always asking to go to the cinema again, or for me to come over to her house again to meet her dog (she has an addiction to her dog ). It's not like I've not had signs from her and I'm just getting worked up over nothing. Sorry for the long winded post but I've actually grown to really like this girl and just wanted all the opinions I could get. We haven't spoken to each other since the Wednesday because I can't help but feel as though I've done my part in showing I like her, and my dignity/ego is getting in the way of initiating convo again. If she liked me surely she would initiate? Basically I'm asking if you think I'm wasting my time and should move on? P.S. She only lives an hour away, so it's not impossible to visit each other.
InJest Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 You never made a real move on her, so she's probably losing interest. She's been out with you twice, and so far you've acted scared. If she was interested she would contact you. If she does contact you, ask her out right away with a specific date/time. If she says she can't, then ask her when she can. If she says she doesn't know, tell her to let you know when she can, and you have to go. End conversation. She does not sound interested. She gave you a shot, you didn't take it.
Author Riotous Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 You never made a real move on her, so she's probably losing interest. She's been out with you twice, and so far you've acted scared. If she was interested she would contact you. If she does contact you, ask her out right away with a specific date/time. If she says she can't, then ask her when she can. If she says she doesn't know, tell her to let you know when she can, and you have to go. End conversation. She does not sound interested. She gave you a shot, you didn't take it.We've been out once, not twice, and after that first 'date' she asked for another but I was too busy that week so I offered an alternative day and she agreed, but 2 days later she cancelled because of a friends memorial she had forgotten about, which wasn't a lie. At first I figured she lost interest but then I heard from a friend of hers that she was talking about the date saying she was excited, so it seemed a bit weird for her to cancel. I was just asking for advice on her response to my obvious invite to a date, I asked her to dinner on Wednesday night, she said she was too busy as she was working Thursday and leaving Saturday, but she said she'd like to see me when she comes down to visit her parents which will be "very regularly". Is it worth me putting my ego to one side and consider her excuse genuine and keep contact, or forget about her (which is no easy task, I've grown strong feelings for this girl) and try and move on?
InJest Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Forget about her, or at least don't contact her. Start going after other girls, and if this one is really genuine, then she will get in contact on one of her "very regular" visits. If she doesn't, then you know she's full of ****. Either way though, you should not have feelings this strong for someone you just met. I think you're jumping in too fast, and she has probably picked up on it. If you do get another date, make a move. There won't be a third chance.
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