laila1711 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Its been 4 weeks when he told me he did not want a relationship.In the 1 year we have had the long distance i met him twice,we called me a lot and he always asked about my life why?I dont get it. Why did he always respnd to my texts if he did not want me? I have lost all motivation for life will i ever meet anyone that will care for me.
oracle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Rule 3 : Expectations are the source of disappointment. We are typically our own worst enemy, we build dream castles in our head about all the possibilities, eventually they turn into mansions of misery. You are an adult... not sure how old, but you should know better. Your situation - long distance, online met twice in 1 year - was a no win, and really nothing you should be getting worked up over. This relationship was primarily based on perceptions in your head. Remember.. DEEDS not WORDS. Don't get sucked into scenarios that have no hope of being real. YOU WILL BE FINE. People come outta far worse. This is not anyone you lived with or built a life with. You may have made up a great possible imaginary life in your head, and thats not anyones fault but your own. Learn from this. Don't repeat it Breathe It gets better. Until then: fake it till you make it. Its been 4 weeks when he told me he did not want a relationship.In the 1 year we have had the long distance i met him twice,we called me a lot and he always asked about my life why?I dont get it. Why did he always respnd to my texts if he did not want me? I have lost all motivation for life will i ever meet anyone that will care for me.
Author laila1711 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Oracle thank you for your reply and honest views The reason i stayed in contact and why he could not see me is he was selling his business which he should have got his money through in Feb but got it in Sept,he was also moving end of Sept to his own place which was being done up and was going wrong and he was taking someone to court over owed money so he was very stressed. I tried to be patient and undertanding beacuse of this.
oracle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 (edited) Even more reason to RUN. I warn guys off me all the time.. I have lotsa baggage still and I live with my ex till our place sells. Analyze and determine what is viable off the bat. Don't invest in a complicated situation. Also.. RULE 1 - Nothing is as it seems. You are going off of what HE is telling you and what YOU are reading between the lines.. Usually BOTH are far from reality. Oracle thank you for your reply and honest views The reason i stayed in contact and why he could not see me is he was selling his business which he should have got his money through in Feb but got it in Sept,he was also moving end of Sept to his own place which was being done up and was going wrong and he was taking someone to court over owed money so he was very stressed. I tried to be patient and undertanding beacuse of this. Edited October 29, 2012 by oracle
Author laila1711 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 I hear you. He did sell his business as i looked it up on the register.He is not the type to tell me what a mess he is in he just vanishes and he did take this person to court as there company was liquidated which i saw too. I didnt realise the emotions i would feel after only seeing him twice and knowing him for 1 year.
oracle Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Ya cause you are living in the dream castle you built in your head as opposed to a see you everyday real relationship. Thats a lofty height to fall from.
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