painIsMyGame Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I'm feeling it. You know the feeling when it happens, when you miss someone so bad but are totally alone and wishing you did one little thing different- if you had, they'd still be around. It feels like your stomach, gut, or chest is caved in. Like it's hollow. Like there's a vast cave in your chest, and ropes are tied to your outer skin from within, being pulled inward constantly. That feeling... It's actually the same feeling you would have if you were elated, having won the lotto, or found new love. The difference is the context of the situation - when it's bad like a breakup, you interpret it as a painful feeling. When you win the lotto, you interpret it as shock and disbelief. But it's actually the SAME exact physical reaction happening. It's only the context in which it happens that we interpret it as good or bad. I don't know if I'm trying to make a point here.. I'm feeling it myself, but I don't really have a question to ask? Nothing is going to change my situation. This is helping me cope, just explaining my own intuitive guess at what I'm feeling.
todreaminblue Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I'm feeling it. You know the feeling when it happens, when you miss someone so bad but are totally alone and wishing you did one little thing different- if you had, they'd still be around. It feels like your stomach, gut, or chest is caved in. Like it's hollow. Like there's a vast cave in your chest, and ropes are tied to your outer skin from within, being pulled inward constantly. That feeling... It's actually the same feeling you would have if you were elated, having won the lotto, or found new love. The difference is the context of the situation - when it's bad like a breakup, you interpret it as a painful feeling. When you win the lotto, you interpret it as shock and disbelief. But it's actually the SAME exact physical reaction happening. It's only the context in which it happens that we interpret it as good or bad. I don't know if I'm trying to make a point here.. I'm feeling it myself, but I don't really have a question to ask? Nothing is going to change my situation. This is helping me cope, just explaining my own intuitive guess at what I'm feeling. i find trying to anlalyse and relay on my intuition drains me more, exactly what i am feeling now so i stopped trying to be intuitive today actually....im getting a personal trainer tomorrow and do the only thing i know to improve my mind is train my body when i am injured physically leaves me not only physically weaker it also makes me vulnerable mentally...i have to get the toxins out of my life so giving up smoking tomorrow and taking my oldest daughter with me.....to help her......so as always i try to do something positive to counteract the drain of negativty and doubt....plus i have faith which drives me to want to be better in every way.....i wish you luck and hope in your analysis when your mind affects your body its normally time to stop thinking and train that body ......and your mind will ease off on you....good luck......deb
oracle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Rule 2: The hottest one, is the one that has waved good-bye. What you are feeling is loss, plain and simple. Most people don't even realize its not necesarily about the person (the ex) but the overall loss of their way of living as they knew it - instead they project scenarios (...wishing you did one little thing different) etc. Take it from me. I have lived with my ex 2.5 years post breakup. When my ex is here in the day to day picture of my life.. its more of the life i built, and the tearing of that down that I mourn. When my ex is away on a trip and out of my day to day experience then my mind tends to focus in on that. Bottom line, do I want to be with my ex.. NO. I have realized its just the base primal emotion of attachment that plays games with my perception and emotions. Hang in there.. it WILL get better. I'm feeling it. You know the feeling when it happens, when you miss someone so bad but are totally alone and wishing you did one little thing different- if you had, they'd still be around. It feels like your stomach, gut, or chest is caved in. Like it's hollow. Like there's a vast cave in your chest, and ropes are tied to your outer skin from within, being pulled inward constantly. That feeling... It's actually the same feeling you would have if you were elated, having won the lotto, or found new love. The difference is the context of the situation - when it's bad like a breakup, you interpret it as a painful feeling. When you win the lotto, you interpret it as shock and disbelief. But it's actually the SAME exact physical reaction happening. It's only the context in which it happens that we interpret it as good or bad. I don't know if I'm trying to make a point here.. I'm feeling it myself, but I don't really have a question to ask? Nothing is going to change my situation. This is helping me cope, just explaining my own intuitive guess at what I'm feeling.
mishy Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 thats teh worst part i feel, that physical ache and dullness in teh chest. A kind of heaving pain the bad part is waking up during the night with it, and then remembering why you have th pain. ugh horrible.
Author painIsMyGame Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Thanks for the encouragement. I know it's just a normal process. But the stupid thing is that I was the one who never could show love and communicate and do anything!! I am feeling loss. I realize it's not about her.. It's about me and I hate it cause I really put her before myself. I sabatoged this relationship and I'm angry at myself cause I realize how good she was for me.........
Recommended Posts