OCCDAVE Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Maybe it's just me or has this happened to anyone else .I contact few girls on a dating site and we go back and forth with the convo all seems good.I then ask can we continue our convo over the ph lets exchange numbers .Then a complete 180 happens and they vanish for good?My question is why are you really a dude faking to be a girl,are you just looking for pen pals smh
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Hmm. Interesting. One thing I've noticed about online dating is that it sucks. 4
40 Fonzarelli Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 You gotta feel it out and make a smooth transition for the number. If the conversation is going well but it seems to get repetitive, then ill ask for the number. Some girls give me their number right away and hate going back and forth, and others aren't comfortable until after exchanging numerous messages. Its really a numbers game. Yes it happens to me, ive even had instances where they gave me their number but never responded to my text. Or they'll respond back a couple times and just disappear. I've learned to never have expectations, no matter how strange/unpredictable their behavior is.
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 That it does just dont get its hard enough to get a reply I'm not an ugly guy tbh.you contact me so maybe I'm foolish you have shown some interest yet me asking for your number scares you off ? Sigh
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 You gotta feel it out and make a smooth transition for the number. If the conversation is going well but it seems to get repetitive, then ill ask for the number. Some girls give me their number right away and hate going back and forth, and others aren't comfortable until after exchanging numerous messages. Its really a numbers game. Yes it happens to me, ive even had instances where they gave me their number but never responded to my text. Or they'll respond back a couple times and just disappear. I've learned to never have expectations, no matter how strange/unpredictable their behavior is.well I won't say I've never gotten numbers just seems as of late I've hit a bad batch lol I'd rather the girl ignore my first message then dangle the hook only to yank it away once I get close
SmileFace Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Hmm. Interesting. One thing I've noticed about online dating is that it sucks. I was coming in here to say the same thing. I can't tell you the amount of guys try to play pen pals so you can get comfortable with them over time so by the time you meet, it feels as if you know them and try to get an easy lay. Granted this hasn't happened to me - this is what I expect they are doing. 1
yongyong Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 You are a beginner. Those are nothing What if you set up the date and she goes radio silence and flake out? What if you went out with her, had fun, kissed her at the end and she goes radio silence? Would you be able to handle those if you can't handle the issue you mentioned?
ascendotum Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 You are a beginner. Those are nothing What if you set up the date and she goes radio silence and flake out? What if you went out with her, had fun, kissed her at the end and she goes radio silence? Would you be able to handle those if you can't handle the issue you mentioned? ^ Yep, that's stage 2. At least with stage 1 you don't waste too much effort or $. There's been posts before regarding this issue. I got it too. IDK, I guess its the equivalent of advertising your car and waiting around but just getting a bunch of tyre kickers show up.
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 i think they are just getting some info about you..well saving money is never a bad thing lol.Guess that's better as you said then having the date then she goes Mia .I just don't get if you seem interested why do u get turned away when asked for the number.Sometimes I think I'll never figure this dating game out heh
Mrlonelyone Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Men women and every other gender on the spectrum do this. They are curious and even enthusiastic about meeting then at the last minute they flake out. Or they even establish a relationship actual hanging out talking at length in person and at some point a 180 total and sudden cut of communications. The main reason for that is that they have another relationship which they prefer, it gets better or shows promise and they drop all other prospects for it. That's part of life.
phineas Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 It does get annoying spending a week emailing only to have someone disappear on you. So i've stopped doing that. If I get a live one i'll pick a neutral public spot and tell them which nights i'm free to meet & let them pick their night. since I've yet to meet a woman who has shown any knowledge of actually reading my profile I've deduced they are just looking at my pics & if their attracted to me they will schedule a meet whether I message them for 2 weeks or 2 days. 1
yongyong Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 You will get desensitized once you have done it for a while. I remember, I was getting all excited when those hotties replied. I thought about going out on a date, doing fun activities and of course smashing them at the end. Now I treat it like a work email. Just saying things in a robotic way without investing too much emotion. I keep saying this. treat them like a potential customer. There is no such thing 'special girl'. you don't know her and she doesn't know you. she haven't bought your product yet. why the f should you treat her in a special way? It does get annoying spending a week emailing only to have someone disappear on you. So i've stopped doing that. If I get a live one i'll pick a neutral public spot and tell them which nights i'm free to meet & let them pick their night. since I've yet to meet a woman who has shown any knowledge of actually reading my profile I've deduced they are just looking at my pics & if their attracted to me they will schedule a meet whether I message them for 2 weeks or 2 days. 1
phineas Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Yep. Because even when you get a scheduled meet they still cancel last minute. Which I guess is better than stiffing me at the bar. but then, i'm at a bar with beer & a big screen & I got nowhere else to be so what the hell, things could be worse. You will get desensitized once you have done it for a while. I remember, I was getting all excited when those hotties replied. I thought about going out on a date, doing fun activities and of course smashing them at the end. Now I treat it like a work email. Just saying things in a robotic way without investing too much emotion. I keep saying this. treat them like a potential customer. There is no such thing 'special girl'. you don't know her and she doesn't know you. she haven't bought your product yet. why the f should you treat her in a special way?
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 You will get desensitized once you have done it for a while. I remember, I was getting all excited when those hotties replied. I thought about going out on a date, doing fun activities and of course smashing them at the end. Now I treat it like a work email. Just saying things in a robotic way without investing too much emotion. I keep saying this. treat them like a potential customer. There is no such thing 'special girl'. you don't know her and she doesn't know you. she haven't bought your product yet. why the f should you treat her in a special way?lol I use to invest time in my emails now I won't bs I sometimes sound like a robot maybe ill start sending a message says hey after you look at my pic if it meets your standards reply with the number
truth_seeker Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 OLD is the worst now for average looking women. These women can't compete with hotter chicks so they resort to OLD and abuse it to no end. An average girl (4 or 5) IRL is about a 7 or 8 on OLD. They get the attention they crave, loads of options, it goes to their head and you end up with a delusional diva.
truth_seeker Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 There is no such thing 'special girl'. you don't know her and she doesn't know you. she haven't bought your product yet. why the f should you treat her in a special way? You're right. I learned this the hard way. OLD is a take no prisoners game.
bac Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Maybe it's just me or has this happened to anyone else .I contact few girls on a dating site and we go back and forth with the convo all seems good.I then ask can we continue our convo over the ph lets exchange numbers .Then a complete 180 happens and they vanish for good?My question is why are you really a dude faking to be a girl,are you just looking for pen pals smh I guess it should take a few days of emailing before a phone conversation. Also, the emails should be kind of personal and meaningful.
yongyong Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 That sounds really really lame. It sounds like you are begging to be 'hired' lol I use to invest time in my emails now I won't bs I sometimes sound like a robot maybe ill start sending a message says hey after you look at my pic if it meets your standards reply with the number
SJC2008 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 OLD is the worst now for average looking women. These women can't compete with hotter chicks so they resort to OLD and abuse it to no end. An average girl (4 or 5) IRL is about a 7 or 8 on OLD. They get the attention they crave, loads of options, it goes to their head and you end up with a delusional diva. It goes to their head but shouldn't a lightbulb go off when they keep getting pumped and dumped? They're easy lays for top tier men who want easy pu$$y and date down knowing they'll get it. OP I usually get the number by the 3rd/4th message or they'll give it to me. TBS I've changed my approach to more messages before asking. I have a date comming up with a new woman and I'm excited about it!
phineas Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 lol I use to invest time in my emails now I won't bs I sometimes sound like a robot maybe ill start sending a message says hey after you look at my pic if it meets your standards reply with the number If they view my profile i'll send " C'mon, we both know i'm good looking, why no message" LOL! I'm basically done putting thought into messages because it's wasted effort on my part. 1
Sith Apprentice Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 OLD is the worst now for average looking women. These women can't compete with hotter chicks so they resort to OLD and abuse it to no end. An average girl (4 or 5) IRL is about a 7 or 8 on OLD. They get the attention they crave, loads of options, it goes to their head and you end up with a delusional diva. Hot women don't need online dating. Think about this logically, no woman is gonna go online trolling for men if she's hot. They'll have tons of options through work or their social circle. If you see a hot woman online it's almost guaranteed she's an AW, serial dater, or a nut case. Hotties don't go online until after they've poisoned the local well. To the OP, women love male attention and there are plenty of AFC's online who will give it to them. Many women just use dating sites for attention wh0ring and have no intentions of meeting any guys offline. These types will disappear on you once you try to take the interaction offline (ie. pulling them out of their comfort zone).
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