Is my gaydar broken?

[GirlontheLam]

I am starting to think my gaydar is broken.

 

Went to a halloween party over the weekend. I brought a couple old and new friends but 85% of the people were strangers.

 

It is in a big space so there are plenty of zones. The kitchen, The patio. The living room. The dance floor.

 

So my friends and I have all split up all over. I go to grab a drink and my friend is chatting with someone new. I have to interrupt the conversation to get to the bar. I apologize for interrupting, greet my friend and smile at the guy she is chatting with. I think oh he it totally cute (not my friend's type )!

 

After I grab my drink and hop in the conversation. After a bit of small talk I introduce myself. I had already written him off as a potential, he seemed flaming! And when we shake hands, the next thing I know he is making eyes (read this as the I think you are hot look) at me and showering compliments. Of course, I always flirt with gay guys all the time. They are a blast. So I am thinking this guy is a different sort of gay flirt and I must be misreading this. After a few minutes I go off to another conversation. He seemed like a fun guy so I was thinking I found a new buddy.

 

Now here is where things get strange. So I have a few gay friends. And we go to parties together, and dance together and so on. They do not get remotely close when we are dancing because you know straight women are repulsive when you are gay. [And these are some long term friends. If we start dancing close it is meant to be a total joke and happens for 2 seconds.]

 

The next thing I know, he is behind me, and dancing. He ends up grinding [PG rated] on me and many of the women (and not just the female friends he came with)! I am absolutely puzzled. Totally not typical guy man behavior. I dance with him a couple of times.

 

I chat with him a few more times over the course of the party.

 

So I can veer into touchy feely land, but I have a few rules and boundaries. Generally speaking, everyone gets a hug for a greeting once we have talked a bit and I like you. The random hugs are reserved for flirting. Gay guys get a pass, since it is meaningless. And male friends? I err on the side of less touchy. Everyone I feel comfortable with usually gets some form of arm grab.

 

During our chats, he is a little totally touchy feely with hugs, a bit more touchy than I expect for a typical gay BFF. And I am still pretty certain he is gay, looking at the reaction of the straight guys he is "fake" flirting with.

 

Now here is where it gets really weird. It is time to leave the party, and I am thinking I have a new gay bff. I go to say my goodbyes and I exchange contact info with him and his friends (all female). He's grabbing my hands and his friends are talking up how great he. Huh? And then before I leave he gives me a total come-on (with the "look") and says "call me if you need anything ever, and I seriously mean anything!"

 

So is my gaydar totally broken or did I just meet the bi womanizer.

[xdahliax]

Lol:laugh:...best post I've read in a long time. Maybe he's gay and just loves to flirt with everyone. I have a straight female friend who flirts with men and with women and who randomly slaps people's butts (no social boundaries whatsoever). Or maybe he's bisexual.