michaelbui Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Me and my ex officially broke up last week. She told me that I'm still her best friend and will always be and even told me "dont think im not going to get you a christmas present". I mean, I dont know if I should get her a present since im doing NC towards her. She is my best friend and everything to me but, I just can't help myself seeing her as my best friend knowing that she isn't mines anymore. I can't be her best friend because every time I see her, memories run through my head. What should I do ?
theLWord Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 If you are in NC then you can't be her friend until you are ready and no you shouldn't get her a present. Sounds like she's just playing with your head.
Author michaelbui Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 She's played with my head before so yeah you are right. I won't get her a present then. But what if she gets me a present? I'd feel bad I have nothing to give.
veggirl Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 how would you know if she got you a present? if she texts you, delete it. If she calls you, don't answer. her buying you a gift (dude Xmas is 2 mos away...) is on HER, not you. 1
ParadeRain Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 "You will always be my best friend" "I will always love you" "I'll always be there for you" "I hope you will be my friend" "But this new guy makes me cum so hard" 5
Enchanted4 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Take it from someone who has been there... it is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. I dated my best friend for 7 years. She broke up with me and still wanted to be best friends. It took me a year to be able to do this. It takes time. You can't rush it and it's extremely difficult. I would stay NC for a while or at least until you feel like you can talk to her. Take your time, and if you need to talk, I'm here!
Rinaaa Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I've stayed friends with ex's with whom things ended on good terms. But a future friendship was only possible because we cut each other off and had time to heal and move on. Pursue a friendship if you still want one after you've both moved on, doing so now will just lead to more heartache.
Mcnulty Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yay to Rinaaa, you need that gap, to heal and move away from the hurt. Maybe you can be friends, but I would say definitely not straight away. Took me 11 months, we're friends now and it's fine..couldn't have been her friend any earlier though. It actually has helped me realize that we are different people and I wouldn't want to have a relationship with her EVEN if there was a possibility.
flitzanu Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 so she dumped you, and now she wants to keep you around as her best friend. how fair is that to you? drop her from your life, let her find a new best friend and don't be her doormat.
Author michaelbui Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 Thanks for everyone's advices
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