kristen73 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 So there was this guy...I met him at a party and he asked for my phone number...and he was really cute. He wanted to kiss me but I turned my cheek (bc I hardly knew him). He said he would call me sometime. So I gave him my phone #. Well it's been almost two weeks and he has NOT called!! This has happened before and it hurts to be honest. I am not loose alike other girls, actually I have never had sex before. Other people have told me I am quite attractive, but I cannot seem to get a good date. They are either wishy-washy guys or they are total jerks who do not call. Where are the good guys??? I swear I only meet losers. Srry, just ranting... I am in college btw.
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 He didn't call in two weeks and you don't know him. He's probably not gonna call and you shouldn't care either way. There will be other guys. Where are the good guys??? In your friend zone. 3
counterman Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Welcome to LS I'm studying at the moment, in my early 20s, and to give you a perspective from a guy who has gotten a girl's number and not called, the reason I did that was because I had changed my mind or I just wasn't that attracted. I think this guy may not have called because he couldn't get a make out from you. There could be other reasons but, MrCastle is right, you shouldn't care, there will be plenty of other guys who would be interested you, who will not be jerks. Though, you're less likely to meet a good guy at a college party
Author kristen73 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 He didn't call in two weeks and you don't know him. He's probably not gonna call and you shouldn't care either way. There will be other guys. In your friend zone. What do you mean? lol I am friends with lots of guys but they are friends not dating:)
Author kristen73 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Welcome to LS I'm studying at the moment, in my early 20s, and to give you a perspective from a guy who has gotten a girl's number and not called, the reason I did that was because I had changed my mind or I just wasn't that attracted. I think this guy may not have called because he couldn't get a make out from you. There could be other reasons but, MrCastle is right, you shouldn't care, there will be plenty of other guys who would be interested you, who will not be jerks. Though, you're less likely to meet a good guy at a college party Ya, probably he wanted to make out right then. I'm not that easy!! I still wish he had called, I really like him
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 What do you mean? lol I am friends with lots of guys but they are friends not dating:) That's exactly what I mean. I'm sure they're nice guys if you're willing to be friends with them. They just don't wet your panties. The question then should be "where are the physically attractive nice guys that I'd like to sleep with?" 1
mesmerized Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 That's exactly what I mean. I'm sure they're nice guys if you're willing to be friends with them. They just don't wet your panties. The question then should be "where are the physically attractive nice guys that I'd like to sleep with?" And what's wrong with that? Men want the exact same thing don't they?
SJC2008 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 You're an attractive young woman I wouldn't sweat it. You should have lots of options!
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 And what's wrong with that? Men want the exact same thing don't they? Where did I say she's wrong for feeling that way? She asked where the nice guys are. I told her. But she's not looking just for nice guys. At least most men admit "why can't I find a hot girl with a killer personality". Most women throw the nice word over everything else like a blanket without stopping to say "oh yeah, but he also has to be hot" 1
Sun Devil Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 when you mean nice guy, do you mean guys who are pushovers or do you mean guys who treat you with respect, but are not pushovers?
mesmerized Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Where did I say she's wrong for feeling that way? She asked where the nice guys are. I told her. But she's not looking just for nice guys. At least most men admit "why can't I find a hot girl with a killer personality". Most women throw the nice word over everything else like a blanket without stopping to say "oh yeah, but he also has to be hot" We are talking in the context of dating. Physical attraction is a big part of it for most young men and women. I wasn't aware that the obvious should be mentioned each and every time.
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 We are talking in the context of dating. Physical attraction is a big part of it for most young men and women. I wasn't aware that the obvious should be mentioned each and every time. Shhh it's ok don't worry about it.
mortensorchid Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 If he's interested he'll call. If he's not, he won't. THere are guys out there who just collect numbers. You have just encountered one.
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Hi Kristen, In his mind he is getting back at you by saying he will call but will not because you denied him a kiss. Just my two cents. Immature boyish behavior. Wow. I didn't even think to consider that. That can totally be it. If I'm being honest, I probably would have done something similar. Hmmm...
xdahliax Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Wow. I didn't even think to consider that. That can totally be it. If I'm being honest, I probably would have done something similar. Hmmm... I don't know if it's to get back at her. I think if I were a guy and in his position (I have a wild imagination), I would have thought that she doesn't like me that much because she didn't kiss me. Maybe it's not done out of bitterness, maybe he figured he'd get rejected so he cut his losses.
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I don't know if it's to get back at her. I think if I were a guy and in his position (I have a wild imagination), I would have thought that she doesn't like me that much because she didn't kiss me. Maybe it's not done out of bitterness, maybe he figured he'd get rejected so he cut his losses. Another one I didn't think of! Man, I'm off my game today. But definitely, if you reject my kiss, you're not hearing from me either way. I don't know if I'd do it out of bitterness, or because I wouldn't think I'd have a shot--either way, no call from me
xdahliax Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Another one I didn't think of! Man, I'm off my game today. But definitely, if you reject my kiss, you're not hearing from me either way. I don't know if I'd do it out of bitterness, or because I wouldn't think I'd have a shot--either way, no call from me Someone's used to getting what he wants 1
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Someone's used to getting what he wants Haha well the benefit of how I operate (for the most part) is no headaches, no wondering, no overthinking things. You either want to hook up with me or you don't, and if you don't, you don't exist in my world. The problem is this doesn't allow for things to develop or for emotions to change. If you don't like me on day one I move on
jcrew11 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 So there was this guy...I met him at a party and he asked for my phone number...and he was really cute. He wanted to kiss me but I turned my cheek (bc I hardly knew him). He said he would call me sometime. So I gave him my phone #. Well it's been almost two weeks and he has NOT called!! This has happened before and it hurts to be honest. I am not loose alike other girls, actually I have never had sex before. Other people have told me I am quite attractive, but I cannot seem to get a good date. They are either wishy-washy guys or they are total jerks who do not call. Where are the good guys??? I swear I only meet losers. Srry, just ranting... I am in college btw. Kristen, college men are clueless but they also respect a strong feminist woman. You have to call him first, especially since you said you really like him and don't want to let him slip away. Find him on facebook and message him, to go to dinner or a movie. Young Men are dumb and often just want the girl to make the date plans and all the decisions. He's too busy playing video games to think about anything else other than getting drunk at parties. Men are also wimps at calling because in most cases, the girl will ignore his calls and let it go to voicemail. College guys are dumb and easy to manipulate. Kristen - "You are hot", and trust me, this guy will not turn down a date from you if you call him. Even if he does turn you down, he might have another girlfriend, but at least you will have an answer to if he likes you. This is how a typical college guy thinks: That the girl was drunk and is not interested, or, I'll just wait until I get drunk again and see her at a party when she is drunk as well. Dating in college is almost non-existent because students are too poor to pay for proper dates. So weekend hookups are more common. But, college women have to be strong, and demand guys to answer their phone calls, and talk every day.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Kristen there is nothing wrong with you turning your cheek, if a guy is used to having women roll over for him so easily then that's his standard and his problem of the women he is interested in, don't feel bad because you rejected a guys kiss who's probably trying to get hot and heavy as quick as possible like most of the other college girls. Guys in college are typically looking for something quick and easy, something they can get an ego boost and instant gratification out of, their first priority is definitely not a relationship. It's about partying, meeting women, hooking up and oh yeah...unfortunately the actual school part, so naturally they just want the women to be the easy part. So with that being said, yes it may be a process or challenge to finding a guy who is genuinely interested in you, not just for a piece of @ss. They're on a hit and quit it roll, so don't take it personal just because you think he was cute and nice, or even hot, every guy is a nice guy in the beginning or they're using the jerk angle which will still have his charm. So yes, you are attractive and it doesn't have anything to do with you...don't take it personal, just because these other women are getting the attention for being easy doesn't mean those guys respect them any more than any other girl giving it up, it's basically just another vagina and a lot of these guys are just looking to add another notch on the belt. And yes, the good guys at this stage are not the ones that are doing so well with women...but don't assume anyone is a nice guy, the only way you know a mans true character is by getting to know him on a personal level, otherwise it's a roll of the dice, and the odds are definitely not stacked in your favor. So find a guy that's willing to get to know you, if he doesn't just make it simple and cut it off, don't be the typical girl thinking you missed out on something great or why aren't you good enough, it's not about you, they're just trying to feed the penis in their pants. Any guy who is interested in you will be willing to get to know you, just be careful because since you're a virgin that means you are a challenge, and a lot of these under cover douchebags will be willing to charm you into bed like a slow marinating crock-pot for the big win...so try to keep that out of the subject and just take it slow, some men are tempted by that challenge to pop the virgin. I know...it's a cruel world, and it's totally not fair. Start learning the rules and accepting the realities and learning to how to communicate and separate the guys with the good intentions and the bad, or you'll get played like the rest. 1
whichwayisup Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Ya, probably he wanted to make out right then. I'm not that easy!! I still wish he had called, I really like him Next time you meet a guy and you feel a connection there, get his number too. Anyway, let go of this guy, he ain't calling.
Emilia Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Haha well the benefit of how I operate (for the most part) is no headaches, no wondering, no overthinking things. You either want to hook up with me or you don't, and if you don't, you don't exist in my world. The problem is this doesn't allow for things to develop or for emotions to change. If you don't like me on day one I move on This is why you don't progress beyond hookups
MrCastle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 This is why you don't progress beyond hookups But I don't want to progress beyond hookups. I've said many times on this forum, I don't believe in exclusive relationships.
truth_seeker Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 They are either wishy-washy guys or they are total jerks who do not call. Where are the good guys??? I swear I only meet losers. So a guy changes his mind about you and that makes him a loser? Someone bitter?
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