tiredandalone Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 this might be a long one I hope you can get through it. I have been with my wife for 12 years married 10 in Aug. Oct 19 she asked me to move out when i asked her why she told me she just wanted a seperation she wished that I had cheated on her or beat her then she would have a reason to hate me but she cant hate me she just does not want to be married. In that last 12 years she has had an affair lasted 6 months about 4 years ago 2 years before that it was drugs she has been clean for 6 years. Not once in that time did think about leaving her I stayed by her side through it all. We have kids 3 of them 2 where hers and one is ours. I so lost right now I want her back even through all that stuff I sill love her so much and to add to that I lost my job. On sat she asked me to come over so we could talk so I did when I got to the house she said she need time to get herself together and walked out. So her i sit in our house reminded of her every where I look with the kids and I dont mind that I love my kids. now befor you all say it I dont think there is anyone else I think she has just lost her way. What I need is someone to talk with Im having a really hard time dealing with all this I can hold it together when the kids are here but when they are not I fall apart I sleep about 3 hours a night I have not eaten much since the 20th and in 1 short week I have lost 12lbs I scared that I will fall so far down that I may hurt myself I have thought about it. just need to know what todo is there hope for me or us I love her and the thought of not having her in my life I just dont know if I can do that. Thank you to anyone the offers help I really just need a friend.
stemac Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 hello tiredandalone love sometimes really makes us blind too see what the person really like, and i think you need to see what she is really like and in time you will, don't go down the road of not eating i did that and lost alot of weight, you need food to think straight and work this out in your head, i know its not easy I am on the same road, its been over 2 and a half month for me now, and i am not has half as bad as i was then, Time really does help, don't get me wrong I am still heart broken and get upset.. but I am getting stronger day by day and so will you, that's what us human being are good at :-) take care good luck 1
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