serendipity3 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 So here's the back story: back in March I started a friends with benefits/booty call kind if thing with a guy. As time went on I began to like him (as one always does in these types if things). I made my feelings kniwn & when I would ask if he felt the same, he would get mad. The thing is, is that there were times that I would go to his house & we wouldnt have sex at all. We would just talk about anything from our families to just dumb stuff. I remember we went on one date where he spent the entire movie kissing my hand & putting his arm around me. During all of this he never said anything about his feelings towards me. I ended up ending it because it just seemed like it wasnt going to advance to anything. Two weeks after I ended it, he texted me. I told him I didnt want to see him that night and he told me to have a nice life. Fast forward a month & a half. I get drunk, text him & we begin our physical relationship again. He's offered to take me to dinner & movies but I'm rather busy during the week. Just last week we were trying to make arrangements to see each other (its hard because he is a bouncer that works nights thurs-sun and I work during the day mon-fri) & he joked "we should just move in together so we can have sex whenever we want". The other day we were looking for a place to have breakfast, and he mentioned a place that the majority of his coworkers go to & I said I didnt want to go there & he said "why? You dont want to be seen with me?", which wasnt the case at all. I just dont like that restaurant. He's even cooked dinner for me. He's also told me that the the of thing we have going on isn't like the other relationships that he's had. Apparently no cuddling was involved in those, while he big on cuddling with me. What's the deal? I do like him, but me trying to rationalize this whole thing I keep telling myself its just the seratonin my body is producing. Does he like me, purposefully stringing me along, or just gentleman about the whole friends with benefits thing?
OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 So here's the back story: back in March I started a friends with benefits/booty call kind if thing with a guy. As time went on I began to like him (as one always does in these types if things). I made my feelings kniwn & when I would ask if he felt the same, he would get mad. The thing is, is that there were times that I would go to his house & we wouldnt have sex at all. We would just talk about anything from our families to just dumb stuff. I remember we went on one date where he spent the entire movie kissing my hand & putting his arm around me. During all of this he never said anything about his feelings towards me. I ended up ending it because it just seemed like it wasnt going to advance to anything. Two weeks after I ended it, he texted me. I told him I didnt want to see him that night and he told me to have a nice life. Fast forward a month & a half. I get drunk, text him & we begin our physical relationship again. He's offered to take me to dinner & movies but I'm rather busy during the week. Just last week we were trying to make arrangements to see each other (its hard because he is a bouncer that works nights thurs-sun and I work during the day mon-fri) & he joked "we should just move in together so we can have sex whenever we want". The other day we were looking for a place to have breakfast, and he mentioned a place that the majority of his coworkers go to & I said I didnt want to go there & he said "why? You dont want to be seen with me?", which wasnt the case at all. I just dont like that restaurant. He's even cooked dinner for me. He's also told me that the the of thing we have going on isn't like the other relationships that he's had. Apparently no cuddling was involved in those, while he big on cuddling with me. What's the deal? I do like him, but me trying to rationalize this whole thing I keep telling myself its just the seratonin my body is producing. Does he like me, purposefully stringing me along, or just gentleman about the whole friends with benefits thing? I am pretty sure that he's not just being a gentleman about the FWB thing. If he was capable of such, he would have initially, back 2 months ago. But he didn't. So I am rationally guessing that he's not such person. Of the remaining two choices, I think the best way is for you to just spend time with him and let things flow. You will know.
mysteryscape Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 sounds like he might be kind of like King Kong -- used to being an ape, and then he finds someone he actually likes -- less into you than King Kong, but you get my drift.
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 its all up to you hun think about what you want in life ..we dont know what hes thinking you have to look over everthing and see what you want
Author serendipity3 Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 I'm not sure, because what you explain leads me confused as in your last sentence as well. the only way to find out is to ask, i don't how anyone else is going to be able to draw any other conclusions. There's more leaning toward he genuinely likes you, than not.. He cuddles, isn't afraid to show you around people he knows etc.. I understand the confusion. If it helps, i can say he is 5 years older than me. We also argue every other week because of the scheduling conflicts. Just this past friday he said I always change my mind abou the times I can meet him & that I was avoiding him & to message him when I was serious about seeing him for our physical fun.
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