Author frederickkk Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 i asked her when we would get back together... "there isn't a time limit"
geegirl Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 ok spaniard. I don't wish to lose this girl. So if I was to email her, how long do I give it? Its her birthday on boxing day. I am going to be harsh here. You have lost the girl. There is no girl. She has called the cops on you. She has changed her number. You should be disgusted and embarassed that someone is ridding you like a pest. Where is your self-respect? Aren't you even humiliated? Aren't you revolted from being the butt of jokes? Don't you have any sense of dignity? I am not your ex but I'm already turned off by your actions. Men that do this come off pathetic and unattractive. Women don't want this. Why do you think she toys with you? It's a game for manipulative people. They get a kick out of making you look like a fool. She tells you there is no time limit? That's because she knows you're a little puppy dog waiting at her heels. You're a puppet. Get a grip and quit playing this weak man. You really need help. 1
spaniard Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Totally agree. That's why I tried recommend some tough movies to realize how pathetic he is now, but no...
Sav Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I would have thought breaking up = closure. The person dont want to be with you, aint that closure enough
Author frederickkk Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Alright.... so its day 3 of no contact and im in bed. how do you move on from someone you wanted to spend the rest of your life with? i had put her above my career.
spaniard Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Alright.... so its day 3 of no contact and im in bed. how do you move on from someone you wanted to spend the rest of your life with? i had put her above my career. Not easily The first few weeks were terrible. I even cried like a little girl. Hadn't cried for 5 years before that! Dunno, what really helped me is going to gym and convincing myself that the bad feelings would go away. These are just feelings. Not even real, because it's the hormons and some other chemicals that make me feel bad. I focused on all the bad things she did to me. I tried to occupy my thoughts with other things like reading and tough movies I mentioned before. I made a little guide how to handle a break up, or at least how I did it. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/344644-how-handle-break-up-man-woman I'm not fully over her, but I'm over her in a sense that I no longer think about her and I don't care about her at all. She treated me badly, something I did not deserve. But that's history now. I'm almost ready for a new relationship!
Author frederickkk Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Alright.... so its day 3 of no contact and im in bed. how do you move on from someone you wanted to spend the rest of your life with? i had put her above my career.
Author frederickkk Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) to be fair, my career doesn't exist right now. kept running off to uni to get a degree in something i have no interest in. i want to learn to produce electronic music and make a career out of it, i keep meaning to start but that is moving on from her. i should go strict no contact on her and never speak to her again. she hasn't felt the loss yet. Edited October 31, 2012 by frederickkk
geegirl Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 i should go strict no contact on her and never speak to her again. she hasn't felt the loss yet. Yes, you should always put your life on hold someone. I hope you are listening to what you are saying. She's gone no contact on you. She's changed her number. It's not "should" go strict NC. You have to go strict NC and never speak to her again. Felt the loss? Don't project. These thoughts keep you stuck. She had many chances to feel the loss, she's still where she wants to be.
Author frederickkk Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 and where is she right now? in all honesty after that coffee? she changed her number, i went OTT on the texts.
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