ihavebeenfloated Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 This might be a little long, so I apologize in advance. I'm just really confused and stressed right now, and I guess I need to vent. Ok, so I'm on an online dating site. A few weeks ago I get a message from a girl that's basically, "You seem great, but I know your exgirlfriend. Figures." That was kind of weird. We start talking a bit, and she'd never hung out with my ex. They were friendly in high school, and are friends on Facebook and Instagram. Ok. So we keep talking, and agree to meet up for a date. Something like 50 fairly long online messages later, we have our date, and it goes extremely well. Like after the initial 5 minutes of awkward, we're really comfortable around each other. We get along great. We just clicked, you know? It ended up getting a lot more physical than both of us were expecting for a first date, but it felt right. Physical chemistry was there, too. So this is all good, right? The next few days we're texting back and forth about how we both had a great time. Talking about our next 3 or 4 dates. She's saying how I'm "perfect and charming". All really good things. So we schedule the date for a week later. I want to see her before, but she's hesitant. Mostly because she's busy, which I get, but also because it's "only been one date, and we're still not exclusive so once a week is perfectly normal." She "isn't particularly interested in seeing other people, but she doesn't want to rule it out prematurely." Ok. She doesn't want to move super fast. Fine, I guess. I don't really know what too fast is, and if things are going that well, why not? But like, after that conversation, I get a lot of "is it Friday yet?" and "I'm dying to see you" texts. She brings up the ex and how she's hesitant because she doesn't know that I'm fully over her, and we talk about that. Like she gets really open and tells me pretty intimate details about problems she's had, and long story short, at the end of the discussion, it seems like we're looking pretty good. Something legitimate comes up Friday and we have to cancel. Again, she's "dying to see me" so I'm not getting worried yet. We reschedule for today, but she cancels again because she's staying at her parents house cause of the hurricane that's coming. Now I'm starting to question things because the bad weather doesn't start until tomorrow and Tuesday. She says she'll check her schedule at work yesterday night, and let me know when she's free during the week. She hasn't said anything since yesterday afternoon. I texted her earlier this morning, and still nothing. Is she ****ing with me? Am I just being way too neurotic? I mean, I'm not usually this crazy, but like we really hit it off, and with everything she's been saying, it seems like she feels the same. And I don't know, it just makes sense to want to see each other again. But like it kind of feels like she's ignoring me, and I'm not really handling the mixed signals well. Should I relax and wait it out? I wouldn't be stressing out this much if it didn't seem like there was serious long-term potential. She's mentioned the potential too. I don't know.
xdahliax Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I don't think she's playing with you. I think she's just afraid of how quickly her feelings are developing and she's trying to hold off. I'd give her a bit more time, I suspect she'll give in soon.
Balzac Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I guess my initial question to you is how elderly are her patents? Their health status and has the Frankenmonster hunker down become a family gathering?
Author ihavebeenfloated Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I guess my initial question to you is how elderly are her patents? Their health status and has the Frankenmonster hunker down become a family gathering? Not sure. This is what's bothering me, I guess. Like on one hand, it's all totally logical. But she could still be stringing me along, messing with me, etc. Naturally, I assume the worst. I don't know.
utterer of lies Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Don't judge her by her words, judge her by her actions. Problem solved.
xdahliax Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Not sure. This is what's bothering me, I guess. Like on one hand, it's all totally logical. But she could still be stringing me along, messing with me, etc. Naturally, I assume the worst. I don't know. Don't. It's not good to be overly optimistic, but it's worse to constantly assume the worst. You aren't doing yourself any favours.
Author ihavebeenfloated Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 Don't judge her by her words, judge her by her actions. Problem solved. You're lying, right? ..Right? No, I get it. It's just, why the mixed signals? Why get deep and open and tell me things you don't tell random guys from the internet that you've had one date with? That's what doesn't make sense. You're not interested? Fine. I can handle that. But it's different when you lead me to believe that you're very interested, then... you just aren't.
Balzac Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I think it's fair to have the questions you do. If she is dating in search of a relationship, I judge based on the priority one puts into dating.
Author ihavebeenfloated Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I think it's fair to have the questions you do. If she is dating in search of a relationship, I judge based on the priority one puts into dating. That's kind of the direction I'm leaning. It's just.. the first date went really, really well. I know what I should do in this situation, just feels like there could be something there and I don't want to walk away from that.
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