TooBroken Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 My ex and I broke up just over a month ago. We'd been together for about 7 months and I thought things were really good. She always said they were. Then she left me for her ex. She now says she's still in love with her ex bf but no longer in love with me. This hurt me so much because I truly love her. Sometimes I wonder if I was just a rebound. But we shared so much... so many great times, conversations, dreams, etc. It's confusing to think that all of that was just a rebound relationship. Our connection was so strong and different than anything I've had with any girls before. Well now that's all gone because we're broken up and we're not friends. I've been trying NC but I hate it. I feel like a loser for wanting someone who doesn't want me. She has let go and moved on so easily and I can't. She doesn't care about me anymore the way she used to, and this all happened in about a week. Why do I still feel like she's the one when she flat out tells me that it's over and she doesn't feel that way about me anymore? I keep convincing myself that she's just saying that but that she's wrong. and that one day she'll realize the truth and realize her mistake and come back. I just don't know what to do. I miss what we had. I feel sad and depressed. I feel bad about myself for loving someone who keeps rejecting me. I love her and I hate her... for not loving me anymore.
coffeebean201 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 People change and develop with each relationship they have. She may love her ex, but her time with you - changed her. Love the connection you had, and maybe you will enjoy it again together in the future, maybe not. Don't be the guy hanging around waiting for her, though. No matter how much you love her. Having both of you - is not an option for her.
witmadskilllz Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Seems like the time spent together was like a wake up call for her to realize what she's had and therefore went back to her ex. Sucks though because you can never tell what she'll do next to you when you're madly in love;love is blind? Bro, leave her be and move on, sometimes in life when you search for one thing, you'll discover another; better days to come by, stay strong. I've been in your situation too, my ex dumped me for another guy within 2 weeks post break up and they're still in a long term relationship till this day. I've been NC since then and never felt better before man, you live and learn every day, just don't let the past stop you from looking into the future. Focus on doing you for now, improve yourself, and the next one will fall into your arms without you noticing. gogogo NC !!
Author TooBroken Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 It's so hard to accept everything though bc I was so good to her. I tried to give her the world, the best of my love, and be the best boyfriend I could be. Now she's so focused on this other guy that it's like I don't exist anymore or matter at all. She took everything from me. My faith in love, my trust, my kindness, my honesty, our commitment and just stomped on it threw it away. I can't believe that there are people so cruel and unloving in this world. I believed she loved me every time she said it, but now I don't think she ever truly did. It's going to be so hard for me to move on because of what she's done to me.
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