Coyoteloco Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Hey, So my ex girlfriend is sending me really depressing texts and i really dont know what to do, i kinda feel sorry for her even though all the pain she made me go through. She is texting me things like "I guess you must of gone through the same and it hurts me alot. Nights without sleep, tears,found feelings and more tears, depression, life disappointment. Sadness" I think im more moved on than her, and after finding out she was seeing this other dude my brain changed my feelings for her and i couldnt even look at her face after she told me this. She has also been calling my house and my cellphone everday asking to talk with me, but i dont want to, what she did to me was a goodbye for me. But to tell the truth i still miss her im trying my best to stay strong and dont fall on her trap. Any thoughts about my situation?
Mcnulty Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 2 things you can do, either ignore her calls and texts, she will eventually take the hint, or you can tell her exactly what you've just said here; that she put you through a lot of pain and that when you heard she had another guy, your feelings changed. So, either tell her straight up, or try the passive approach, up to you really.
j'adore Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Hey, So my ex girlfriend is sending me really depressing texts and i really dont know what to do, i kinda feel sorry for her even though all the pain she made me go through. She is texting me things like "I guess you must of gone through the same and it hurts me alot. Nights without sleep, tears,found feelings and more tears, depression, life disappointment. Sadness" I think im more moved on than her, and after finding out she was seeing this other dude my brain changed my feelings for her and i couldnt even look at her face after she told me this. She has also been calling my house and my cellphone everday asking to talk with me, but i dont want to, what she did to me was a goodbye for me. But to tell the truth i still miss her im trying my best to stay strong and dont fall on her trap. Any thoughts about my situation? Your ignoring her will hurt her more than ever, is that what you want to hurt her like she hurt you. Sounds a bit mean not giving her a chance. Why don't you just answer her and tell her to leave you alone for a while, if someone i love ignores me it would drive me crazy.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I know, i was ignoring her hoping she would get the message, but if she continues with this i was thinking on sending her an email explaining what is going on with me, and that we should stay apart for some time. but at the end of the day it was her choice to do this, and she was the one who didnt want to work on our issues when i asked her for a chance to make it work 2 months ago. At that time she was more than happy. I dont see a second chance working out anytime soon after what she did to me.
coffeebean201 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 How long were you seeing each other? A good rela'p involves being best friends and talking to each other and growing together and learning about life together. If you aren't best friends, then there isn't much to the rela'p. Pride/pain/hurt feelings aside.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 almost 6 years together, first love, im 21 she is 20, she left me for her coworker she knew for 1 month. And she dated him for about 1 month or more. Now she comes crying to me. she admited to have kissed him. But said nothing else happened, i dont believe her, the other dude is a complete douchebag. And well she told me this 4 days ago and i havent talked to her since then.
coffeebean201 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It isn't a bad thing to make sure your long term love is really "the one" before you get married etc. Either she is finding out you are "the one" or she wants to freely date. I don't think she is clear yet. Give her some more time to work through her feelings. Right now she misses you a lot. Because you are her best friend. You are being a good man about this.
ilovedhim Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It is not your job to babysit her feelings. Maybe a phone call, last one, where she can get everything out and you can tell her you've moved on , she hurt you, etc. Don't tell her there's future hope because she'll continue contacting you. Tell her you need to maintain no contact and when, if you feel differently you know how to find her. Ignoring her is just agitating her.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 im thinking of doing something like that, but not today , today i dont want to talk to her. And i wish there was a way to avoid all this drama, all this pain, i just hope she learnt from this and next time a situation like this comes up she will know which is the right road to take.
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