irc333 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I FINALLY got a response back from a woman I emailed online, but she said, "Thank you for the email, but I'm currently just started to see someone just to see how it goes." I was like "Okay, cool, thanks for the reply" About a few weeks later, I had seen her online again....because you can see them signed in currently. Plus, I saw her on again, on a different free dating site, too. I thought about sending her an email sayingn, "Hey, I see you're on this site, too.....I see you're still available...I take it that whoever you told me you were seeing didn't work out?"
iris219 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I doubt she'll reply to another email, especially one that could be construed as passive aggressive. Her first response was probably a half-truth (or a lie), and I doubt she wants to be called out on it.
SmileFace Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 What's the worst that can happen? That she blocks him and he starts a next thread. "I received a reply from a lady letting me know she was seeing someone else, so I decided to write her when I saw that she was active on the site again and she blocked.." Just write her - she is nothing more than words on a screen right now, big whoop. 3
carhill Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Why waste time and energy on a dry hole? People do what they do. 1
xxoo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Can you word it a little less.....condescendingly? 1
CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Online dating is really a farce IMHO. It's so much better to meet people in public and let them see you for who you are. Online dating is where people dream up the "perfect" person and then wait around until that "dream" person appears -- which never really does. We're not perfect, why do people portray themselves as they are? I tried online dating and what I ended up with was the fish at the bottom of the barrel (like women who had more baggage than a Southwest terminal). The best relationships I have had were people I met in a public place (or work) and let it grow from there naturally (however on my part, I was always wide open in 6th gear -- learned to slow that down for sure, hah). 1
xdahliax Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Send her a message. She might like your perseverance. Maybe a few guys sent her messages when she was seeing someone else and she decided not to get back to any of you when it failed...it'll be flattering for her to know you're still checking her out.
Robert Z Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Online dating is really a farce IMHO. It's so much better to meet people in public and let them see you for who you are. Online dating is where people dream up the "perfect" person and then wait around until that "dream" person appears -- which never really does. We're not perfect, why do people portray themselves as they are? I tried online dating and what I ended up with was the fish at the bottom of the barrel (like women who had more baggage than a Southwest terminal). Haha, I was reading one bio that went on, and on, and on - the longest one I've ever seen - and it was mostly a prebitch session for a future boyfriend! No kidding! Mostly it was just a very long list of all the things that piss her off lol! As I was reading this I kept wondering who in their right mind would want to date this woman.
Mrlonelyone Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It's just one of the many lies/half truth's of dating. The bottom line is she wasn't willing to take a chance on you so to heck with'em. I say call them out. 99% chance they will block you and a <1% chance they will at least respect you for having the balls to call them out.
xdahliax Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It's just one of the many lies/half truth's of dating. The bottom line is she wasn't willing to take a chance on you so to heck with'em. I say call them out. 99% chance they will block you and a <1% chance they will at least respect you for having the balls to call them out. What's the point of calling her out with a 99% chance of being blocked? What do you accomplish besides looking bitter? I actually know someone who does say this to men online, and it's never a lie. It's always better to not assume that someone is lying (or at the very least, don't show them what you think), lest you wish to make an ass of yourself.
mysteryscape Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Why tell her that you assume she's available? That something didn't work out? Both unnecessarily presumptuous. Why not something like "I messaged you before and you replied that you were already seeing someone else. I noticed that you're online again, would you perhaps be interested in getting acquainted a little now?" Why not? 4
xxoo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It's just one of the many lies/half truth's of dating. The bottom line is she wasn't willing to take a chance on you so to heck with'em. I say call them out. 99% chance they will block you and a <1% chance they will at least respect you for having the balls to call them out. What is the point of calling them out? Sure, go for it, if it makes you feel better. But how does that get a man closer to his goal: dating a compatible woman? Isn't there a more productive way to interact with women, online and in the community?
Mrlonelyone Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 What is the point of calling them out? Sure, go for it, if it makes you feel better. But how does that get a man closer to his goal: dating a compatible woman? Isn't there a more productive way to interact with women, online and in the community? The point is it might make the OP feel a little better. Given the circumstances there is a snowballs chance on Venus that this woman would ever date the OP. So he'll look bitter to someone who dosen't know much less like and/or respect him enough to tell the truth.
xdahliax Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 The point is it might make the OP feel a little better. Given the circumstances there is a snowballs chance on Venus that this woman would ever date the OP. So he'll look bitter to someone who dosen't know much less like and/or respect him enough to tell the truth. I think you're projecting your feelings of rejection onto the OP. He doesn't seem nearly as bitter as you do, and I highly doubt that sending a somewhat nasty message to someone he's never met will make him feel better. You normally give some good advice but this is beyond foolish.
Mrlonelyone Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I think you're projecting your feelings of rejection onto the OP. He doesn't seem nearly as bitter as you do, and I highly doubt that sending a somewhat nasty message to someone he's never met will make him feel better. You normally give some good advice but this is beyond foolish. I don't have any feelings of rejection at least not right now. I do know how it feels to be jerked around in a really obvious way and can empathize with how they OP feels. Telling lies is one thing, telling really blatant lies is another. It's like calling in sick to work, the the boss seeing you on TV at the ball game.
xdahliax Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I don't have any feelings of rejection at least not right now. I do know how it feels to be jerked around in a really obvious way and can empathize with how they OP feels. Telling lies is one thing, telling really blatant lies is another. It's like calling in sick to work, the the boss seeing you on TV at the ball game. It's not at all the same thing. He received a message from her saying that she was seeing someone, and only saw her online weeks later. Whatever happened to giving someone the benefit of the doubt? Either way, the OP has no feelings invested in this woman so he'd look like a lunatic calling her out for it. Come on, let's atleast try to hide our crazy until we know the person wants to put up with our s***.
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