she brokeup with me but it was my mistake.should i wait to get her back or move on?

[sameer1988]

hey frnds im 24 years old from india.i had breakup 2 months ago.its killing me.

 

she said she will never come back but she still talks to me daily and we still go for dinners and all that stuff.

we were in relationship since last 1 year.initially we were frnds then i proposed her.

she denied and it continues till 4 months i daily proposed her and after 4 months she said yes.then we were in good relationship.we both enjoyed a lot.

 

she treated me like her husband.she is 22 years old.she cooked food for me,washed my clothes and even provide financial support to me.but she talks too much to boys and i dont like that.

i became restrictive and then over restrictive.but still we were together.

earlier i used to smoke a lot many times she said that i should leave smoking but i didnt.and i have done all the bad activities she dont like.then we talked to my parents about our marriage.things were not dat worst at that time.my parents were on that.later one girl proposed me and i rejected .

 

whenever i felt bad things from my ex girlfriend.i talked on phone to that girl.its about 6-7 times in whole relationship.i never met her.then one day my ex and i have a fight she said i will change or not.she mean i will study,leave smoking and be serious for her.i refused to do dat.

 

then that day she brokeup with me.after 2 days i realised what i have lost in my life ,the i went to her to fix the things but she dont accept my apoligies.we still talk but she said she like someone else now but she dont love him.i said dont talk to me then she said we should talk and we can be frnds.she left me because she feared of abandonment.now a days i cared about her a lot.i do anything she wants.

 

she still hugs me and kisses me many times.but she clearly said she will never come back mant times.she still feed me by her own hands and wash my clothes.it seems that we are still in relationship but in actual we are not.i have changed my bad habits.now i focus on my studies and smoke very less.what should i do frnd pls suggest.i know many of you will suggest NC rule

but i would say many of us dont have chance to get back their love in life.do i have a chance or i should move on.

Edited October 28, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Sasu]

"We never know what we had until we have lost it "

NC works best when you were overly devoted to other party but didn't got same treatment by them ,it won't work when one himself messed up.

 

In your case,she was all lovey dovey and gave chance to leave your bad habits and be like a good boyfriend,you denied hence the consequences .

 

She obviously loves you as she still does things like before but if you really love her & want her back,there are two options :

1 ) Be straight up,give her a nice apology without sounding desperate,if she still denies ,tell her you can't remain like ex'es as its hurting you & say goodbye to her.

2 ) Stay as you're with her now and show her you've really changed in hopes she may see it & get back with you .

 

Although option 1 is probably your best bet as she likes someone else and unless you can cut the cord,situation will probably go worse.

Edited October 28, 2012 by Sasu