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Hello Friends,

I migrated to USA about 7 years ago from India. I had only one girlfriend in India and that limited my dating and relationship experience quite a bit. Being busy with my job, I had a tough time finding relationships. I did date a few girls but those relationships just didn't work. I think the most major problem is that I don't know how or when to ask a girl out. Most of my previous dates where when the girl had asked me out or messaged me on facebook. Rarely was I ever successful having asked a girl out. I was wondering as to how do you ask a girl out like with with which "exact words". Do you talk with a girl and then ask her "If you wanna hang out sometime, maybe I could call you" or "We should hang out sometime". Another fear I have is that the girl will say no and then I would have to meet her again in the same social circles and I don't know how to react then. I think it is very much likely that guys do ask girls out and get rejected but then how does he handle it when he meets the girl again.

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Yes, that's exactly how it goes :) And when you get to know them even better, you can actually use the word "Date".

 

You'll never get anywhere if you stop asking people out because you might run into them again. I asked a guy out at work, which is way worse. If he had said no, I'd have to see him every day.

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Before asking her, see if she likes spending time with you.

 

Is she comfortable with you.

 

Then invite her to join you on an activity you are already doing, e.g. going for coffee, going to a movie, shopping, need her opinion on something.

 

So it isn't pressure/negative if she says no.

 

More sharing time together, rather than a formal date (awkward)

 

See if that more casual approach helps.

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What exact words do you use?

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