disconcertainly Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Ok everyone....I am so frustrated at the moment. My boyfriend had been at the lake with his parents since friday, So we have not really talked that much this weekend. Well we talk late last night and he said he would call me when he got up in the morning. Well I waited for him to call all morning long and he never did. My mother called me and wanted me to come to her house well b/c they live so far out in the sticks there is no cell phone signal where they live. So I waited and waited and waited. Well when he finally did call it was whats wrong with you...b/c my tone was a lil less than thrilled. I just hate feeling like he totalled just walked all over my time and I am suppose to be ok with it. I will try to talk to him about it but he never understands my point of view....and the convo ends with him saying I am controlling so then I FEEL like crap. Eugh I am just so frustrated and I am so in love with him. I have got to find a happy medium some where. Does anyone have any advice?
WhiteDragon Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 You should try to sit down with him and tell him that you don't appreciate him saying he will call you and doesn't do it. Yeah he might spill out the controlling issue but you just need to tell him straight up that when he says hes gonna do something...then do it. Figure out how serious you are about this guy and see if he is the same way. A big part that helps in relationships is communication. Good luck.
caz_cheer_jenn Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Don't wait for his sorry little self to get around to calling you. You're the one who is letting him "walk all over your time." Next time, when your mom calls and wants you to visit, or you have some errands to run, or you want to go to a movie with friends...GO! Then, when he can't get ahold of you and wonders what's going on, you can explain to him that you got tired of waiting for him to call and had other things to do. That will get the message across that he cannot expect you to stick around and wait, hoping he will grace you with a phone call. Let him wonder why you're not sitting at home, on the edge of your seat. If you continue to be at his beck and call, it'll just make him wait longer to phone you, figuring you're always going to be there anyway. At least PRETEND you have better things to do!
Pained Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Woohoo!! How lovely that caz_cheer_jenn saved me time by writing everything I was going to.
caz_cheer_jenn Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Woohoo!! How lovely that caz_cheer_jenn saved me time by writing everything I was going to. Glad I could help you out, Pained...
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