Author Ajvd1 Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I know I'm gonna catch hell here...but I saw him. Spent 5 hours or so together. Mostly we just talked and laughed. It didn't feel wrong other than the fact we both have other people in our lives. It did make me realize that I have to work toward ending my real relationship because love is just that it doesn't mean it works or you should be together. So I've started the lets break up talk with my bf. We are seeming to be on the same page in regards to this obviously doesn't work. Now on the other end of the spectrum I obviously can not continue seeing a mm so I have to have a talk with him too as to what kind of future if any is insight. He's just so damn everything I've been looking for so it's hard. He looks at me and I literally melt. I obviously need help! So I walk away from my primary relationship and he obviously probably won't how do I stop myself from continuing this? Yes I'm weak I know and I'm bad and all the things that one could say about me. I'm looking for advice that's all.
Darren Steez Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Why does everyone act like there is no such thing as willpower? You made a commitment. You made two children "Woman up" and stand behind your choices. Chemistry happens. It will someday happen again too. Get over it. I do like that! It's like I accidentally dialed his number, he's married now with a kid on the way, but f*ck them and my boyfriend and my kids I'm just so attracted to him I can't fight it! and yes your boyfriend ain't a saint which is perhaps the problem right there, no respect for your cheating boyfriend so somehow you feel entitled. But you have a choice and when you say you dont want to hurt the respective spouse then flipping well dont, respect the lady and her marriage and the fact that her husband is a lying piece of garbage who will cheat on her at the drop of a hat and leave them be. Do you think you have such a special connection with this guy who just wants to get in your pants? I guess the culmination of this will be sailing off into the sunset, both your kids in tow and live happily ever after, after being given the blessing by both your respective partners?
Darren Steez Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I know I'm gonna catch hell here...but I saw him. Spent 5 hours or so together. Mostly we just talked and laughed. It didn't feel wrong other than the fact we both have other people in our lives. It did make me realize that I have to work toward ending my real relationship because love is just that it doesn't mean it works or you should be together. So I've started the lets break up talk with my bf. We are seeming to be on the same page in regards to this obviously doesn't work. Now on the other end of the spectrum I obviously can not continue seeing a mm so I have to have a talk with him too as to what kind of future if any is insight. He's just so damn everything I've been looking for so it's hard. He looks at me and I literally melt. I obviously need help! So I walk away from my primary relationship and he obviously probably won't how do I stop myself from continuing this? Yes I'm weak I know and I'm bad and all the things that one could say about me. I'm looking for advice that's all. Good luck to you, you've already done the right thing letting your boyfriend go , now other man has to divorce his wife and you two are set, kinda doubting it's going to happen though but good luck to you!
robf1971 Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 . I'm looking for advice that's all. Some people would ignore advice to get out of their car if it was on fire, with all due respect you sound like one of them. 1
Sparta Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I hope you get everything you deserve..! “Karma 10 full” will you haven’t read many post..? when your affair with a “Married Man” is exposed he will dump you ass run back to his wife… most of them do….
meandmyself Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) I am gonna try and make this as short as possible...I am in a relationship going on almost 12 years and we have two kids. We are not married and have had several problems in our relationship. 6 months ago I had a very brief affair with a man I met at my work. He was not a co-worker just to clarify. I ended the affair when I found out he was to be married. A fact he had lied to me about. Well during the 6 months we didn't talk I thought about him constantly...kept tabs on him online, etc. About a month ago my phone was in my pocket and it accidentally dialed him. This then reopened the lines of conversation between us. He told me he thinks of me a lot and also had been keeping up on me online. He likes me a lot and blah blah blah. He is married now and his wife is expecting. He also has other kids from a previous relationship in his custody. We have not met up yet but he wants to see me in the next week. I click with this man unlike I ever have with anyone before and am super attracted to him. That being said...I love my boyfriend as well and I am scared to death of hurting my family and his. I feel like he has some weird power over me and I can't resist him. WHAT DO I DO!!!??? You need to grow up.. I don't think you are mature enough to any kind of relationship and by the way, the fact that your bf cheated on you at one point does not give you the right to cheat on him later. If you decided to continue with the relationship you need to beguine from zero and build trust (from both sides!).. Edited November 20, 2012 by meandmyself
frozensprouts Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 honestly...do you have zero ability to control yourself? all this claptrap about ' I just can't help it" ...oh please! the only reason someone can't control themselves in this type of situation is because they don't want to...
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