Hawaii50 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I'm not opposed to anything, but seemingly dwell in my own range/race. Just doesn't happen, either the meeting or the mutual interest etc.. I'm sure my family would be very accepting- to my face. but I'm sure there would be some conversations when I'm/we're not there. Which, even that, would cease, after a few months.
zanesfan Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I'm black and I've dated white men. I may even jump the broom with one.
irc333 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 (edited) IN smaller, rural areas, it's hardly ever seen....African Americans usually stay with their own when it comes to dating and marriage...and the whites stay with their own. Funny though, I saw like 4 women in my area on a dating site...that said, "I only date interacially" Meaning, they will not date their OWN race I found that quite bizarre, I asked her why, and she said, "Hm, I always get these emails, but here goes..... I just never had an attraction from men of my own race, they never "do" it for me." I still found it a bit weird, that she would only date black men, and not men of her own race. I think it's a passing fetish to be quite honest. I suggested better move to Atlanta or Chicago, because she probably won't find that here. lol I think most people are pretty accepting, especially in large cities. Around here, the problem is not interracial dating. The problem is the culture clash that can come along with interracial dating. FYI, I have been in an interracial relationship and am the product of one. Edited October 28, 2012 by irc333
ThatDudeXO Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I've only ever dated outside of my race so...here's ya answer.
Hawaii50 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Meh, we'll all be gray sooner or later I have a two friends, that are sisters,and p. rican. Both will never date a P. rican, one only goes for white dudes, and the other goes for black dudes. I find it hilarious, because they're both racist, innocently, against each others picks in men.
carhill Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Where I live it's a melting pot, with a large Asian, Hispanic and Sikh population. Historically, back when I was dating, I did approach ladies of other ethnic origins but never turned those approaches into dates. More recently, my last two applicants for tenancy were multi-racial couples, one black/hispanic and one white/asian, both with bi-racial children. If their credit had been better, they'd have been renters. Not uncomfortable with them at all. Big world, lots of people. 1
Arabella Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I guess you are staying with him because he is worth more than those staring eyes? But what if you just started dating him and you are feeling those pressure from others? I can't blame you if you ditch him not to deal with those in the beginning stage. (showing him to your friends, mentioning his race to your parents, walking in public etc) I've literally just started to date him. We haven't been together very long, but the pressure is non-existent simply because I don't really care what other people think about my choice of boyfriend. I would be a fool to deprive myself of a potentially good relationship just based on other people's opinions. After all, being Chinese, he has his own cultural hurdles to overcome in dating a White woman, too. His family doesn't give him any grief, but his friends might. Personally, I just feel that our cultural differences make for a very rich experience. I love learning about his family's history and culture, and I share mine with him too.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 One thing though. Last week I was on facebook and heard about that new ABC show "Happy Endings". One of the main characters is gay, and two others are an interracial couple (black man, white woman). And one of the pics on the page had the couple kissing and you should have seen some of the idiotic comments. One guy even complained about "gays and interracial couples being forced fed to us in the media". And he mainly whined about the black guy with the white woman. I mean really? Gays and IR couples cant get exposure in the media without people complaining? "I love Lucy" would be too liberal for them. Oh yeah queer thinkers and some interracial couples who are a bit more activist have noticed this. People who are very against interracial couples are often very against LGBT rights as well. They have strong ideas about who should live with who and how they should live together in the privacy of their own homes. The man should be the breadwinner and the woman should be barefoot and pregnant. The man should be older by about 4 years than the woman and should be more educated. The woman should be subservient to the man to the point of being like a child.
Robert Z Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Is (or was) anyone here part of an interracial couple? In particular how uncomfortable were people with seeing you two in public displaying affection? I'm white and dated several Latino women. Never noticed a thing but in Los Angeles this is extremely common. I am attracted to women of all races and thought this was mostly a dead issue long ago. If I had fallen for a black girl, or an asian girl, or an Innuit girl, [did date a native american girl] I don't think that race would have even entered my mind as an issue. I guess it depends a lot on the race mix and where you live.
SmileFace Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I come from a multiracial background so even dating someone within my own background - it will most likely be considered interracial. It is pretty common in my family as well as where I am from, grew up and currently live. Yes sometimes people will talk but I have never witnessed someone staring in public. It wouldnt matter if they did - people find fault in most things they don't consider normal. I am not here to please anyone but myself. Yes, my friends may question but people are just curious. So I guess I will say I am not uncomfortable and it isn't something I consider taboo at all.
iris219 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I just had a conversation with a very liberal friend from DC. She surprised me when she said she wouldn’t date non-white men. She doesn’t judge anyone who does, but it’s not for her personally. I think there are a lot of people who feel this way, but don't want to admit it. Many people just feel more comfortable dating within their race, especially those who aren’t used to interacting with other races, but that doesn’t mean they judge others for dating interracially. I’m more comfortable dating white men simply because I have no experience with anything else. I grew up in a mostly white town, live in a one now, and went to a very white college. Because of that, I never developed a natural attraction to men of other races. I went on a few dates with a Hispanic guy once, but other than that, I’ve never been asked out by anyone of another race, so when I see a black guy (which is the race other than white I’m most likely to see here), I don’t connect him with dating. I hope that made sense without sounding racist. I’m definitely not uncomfortable when I see interracial couples.
USMCHokie Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 My honest opinion...? People who have dated interracially are more comfortable with the principle of it...and women as a general whole tend to be less comfortable with it.
WonderKid Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 My mom would kick my ass if I ever was on those racist deals. She brought me up to show it doesn't matter the color of the skin its what's in the heart. BUT, she really would like me to date a black woman and stick to my race; but she said no matter who I choose she'd still love them anyway as I do. I try to get black women honestly I am attracted to them, but the ones I run into they think I'm too much of a nerd. I don't have swag and stuff like that. I don't smoke and don't party much. With white women I get along easy with. But some just don't date black guys or some have racist parents. I've never dated Hispanics or Asians or any other race than white or black but I'm not against it. In Michigan interracial dating is quite common though.
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 My mom would kick my ass if I ever was on those racist deals. She brought me up to show it doesn't matter the color of the skin its what's in the heart. BUT, she really would like me to date a black woman and stick to my race; but she said no matter who I choose she'd still love them anyway as I do. I try to get black women honestly I am attracted to them, but the ones I run into they think I'm too much of a nerd. I don't have swag and stuff like that. I don't smoke and don't party much. With white women I get along easy with. But some just don't date black guys or some have racist parents. I've never dated Hispanics or Asians or any other race than white or black but I'm not against it. In Michigan interracial dating is quite common though. your meeting the wrong black woman lol i love nerds lol and don't smoke and don't party much for sure thats the way to go;) 1
GirlontheLam Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I try to get black women honestly I am attracted to them, but the ones I run into they think I'm too much of a nerd. I don't have swag and stuff like that. I don't smoke and don't party much. I don't really know any black women looking for this. You are hanging around the wrong women. I agree with Taya. Personally, I am more about the nerds. 1
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I don't really know any black women looking for this. You are hanging around the wrong women. I agree with Taya. Personally, I am more about the nerds. hahaha tell him lol
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I am black and I only date white men, they are the only ones I am attracted to. I worry more about them not being attracted to me.
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I am black and I only date white men, they are the only ones I am attracted to. I worry more about them not being attracted to me. am pretty sure your hot so dont worry about that girl confidents is the key that will make any guy fall lol 1
GirlontheLam Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I am black and I only date white men, they are the only ones I am attracted to. I worry more about them not being attracted to me. Sometimes location makes a difference too! Sometimes I wish more black men would hit on me. I get white hipsters that are too young for me most of the time.
Woggle Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I am a white man and if I were single I would have no issue dating a woman of another race but I admit it would be a turn off if a woman only dated white men. I don't know why. 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I am a white man and if I were single I would have no issue dating a woman of another race but I admit it would be a turn off if a woman only dated white men. I don't know why. But you wouldn't know lol
eleanorrigby Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 My marriage is interracial. It's never been much of a subject in our home or families. Guess we were lucky. 1
SmileFace Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 The colors of the rainbow! - I have a liking for anything different but that can mean just about everything - even in my race.
Robert Z Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I think the level of acceptance these days is incredibly cool. When I was a kid, like MLK, people could still only dream of this day. 2
Shanns Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I have no problem with inter racial dating. Although I do believe that it is true when they say that cultures could clash. As we are all brought up in different cultures. I have been in an inter racial relationship and it was all good. Although my parents arent to happy with it as they (dont get me wrong they ARE NOT RACISTS) just believe that cultures and beliefs will clash a lot during an inter racial relationship. For example in some cultures some men still believe that the women's role in the family life is to cook and clean and have babies, but then you bring a woman who comes from a background of men and women are equal, these two small things might clash. But who are we to judge who we marry whether he or she be white, black, Chinese and so on? I believe that the three main things are, Is he or she the one God had matched you with? Would your parents approve or grow to love this person? And are you strong enough to get through the clashes of cultural beliefs and so on? This however is my own personal belief, other people think differently=)
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