What do you think or do? Hopeless

[brokenwingz]

Ex and I were together for 6 years and its 3 years this month of NC I contacted my ex (he was the dumper GIGS) via text..I am fully aware of me potentially getting burnt with no expectations, thru therapy and healing, making a mends with him was my final step. I know a second chance is not in the cards.

 

He has a new son with her and they split awhile back. He says they arent getting back together.(sure)

 

Within the past 4 days we texted back and forth over 300 messages to each other. Cleared the air, caught up, made up and he even talked of hanging out possibly.

Its like old times we didnt miss a beat. The pain of the past was forgotten.

 

My problem is I am new at this and not sure how to handle communication. What to say or how to be his friend.

 

For example..I let him text me first..for the first 3 days I got good morning and good nights from him...but yesterday at 2 pm he texts me "hey you" I replied an hour later with "Hi"..nothing back from him the rest of the day???

 

Today I texted him at 3 to inform him of a halloween activity for lil kids for his son..no response??

 

So basically Im old enough not to read into texts, but seriously, phones are glued to hands these days and as I recall he always was a good texter.

I wont text him again, Im not trying to be pushy or needy, I just feel like if you are having second thoughts about us chatting just say so dont just ignore me and make me feel like a fool again.

 

Any one know what is going on in a guys head or just wait it out or forget it? Atleast I tried. I dont know where the future may bring us but I wanted a clean slate of possible friendship

[BlazePT]

Hey there!

 

I dont know where the future may bring us but I wanted a clean slate of possible friendship

Well, are you sure about that...? Do you really just want a possible friendship? I don't want to jump into conclusions but by the way you talk about the situation and by the way you seem so glued to your phone, and trying to decrypt every little dot and comma, probably you should really not go on with this. The best advice that I can give you is to just cut this off completely until you've moved on; one cannot advance into just a friendship when there are still feelings remaining.

 

But anyway, answering your question: it depends on the guy; if it was me, I'd probably find it funny to talk to a person that was once an important part of my life like time hadn't made a difference; I wouldn't know if it was possible to advance into a friendship, though: you have to find a way to know if he still has feelings for you. If he doesn't, this is NOT the time to advance into a friendship: you'll get hurt in time.

 

Actually, me and my gf broke up last may and got back together 2 months after; when we saw each other after those 2 months (we did strict NC), we still felt that the connection was there; we felt that even though we knew the reasons why we broke up, the feelings were there. So, things just went the way they should (she's sleeping next to me as I'm typing this lol). We went to talk to each other with no intentions of resuming the relationship, even though it happened; but I know that if we tried a friendship, me, her or both of us would get hurt.

 

Cheers, hope I've helped in some way !

Edited October 28, 2012 by BlazePT

[brokenwingz]

Well He was a part of my life for 6 years, He will always be in my heart. He did say to me We had an amazing relationship.

I have moved on and dated others, I just really miss the friendship part the most, he gets me and we get along.

I just know deep down inside, I cant be with him, I just really truly care for him as a person and actually am happy he has a son I couldnt give him.

 

He mentioned hanging out with me I never would have brought that up lol

 

I just am annoyed that if you text someone and they reply you just blow them off..if this is an indicator of what the friendship would be, this will kill my desire to try.

 

Thank you