Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 hahaha THANKS Taya, I consider myself very normal looking! YOU, on the other hand, are wow! Very pretty indeed! The thing is, even unnattractive women shuold demand their partner treats them well. Not that this man was ever her partner. But you know - I demand friends with benifits treat me well! If I am to sleep with even a friend with nos trings attached, I HAVE to know they treat me well as a human being! I am not just goingt o gibe my body up to ANY guy who treats me like crap! Friend or life partner, ALL men have to like me a lot, think Iam awesome, think highly of me, and NOT be embarrassed or against hanging out with me outside of the bedroom. ..If I am sleeping with even just a friend, I still need them to like being around me to the extent that they WANT to hang out with me. are you saying that i must be unattractive?
Simon Phoenix Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 are you saying that i must be unattractive? No. She's saying you need to take control of your life.
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) are you saying that i must be unattractive? NO she is saying that it dosent matter if the woman are ugly. pretty. normal .if the man wants to sleep with you he needs to respect you we are all woman and we all in indeed need to be respected ..she makes some very good points just read over what she say i even learn somthing from what she say.... and no she is not saying you must be unattractive .. she even use her self as a example and say she is normal but bemands respect .. SHE IS TALKING ABOUT WOMAN IN GENERAL Edited October 31, 2012 by taya
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 NO she is saying that it dosent matter if the woman are ugly. pretty. normal .if the man wants to sleep with you he needs to respect you we are all woman and we all in indeed need to be respected ..she makes some very good points just read over what she say i even learn somthing from what she say.... and no she is not saying you must be unattractive .. she even use her self as a example and say she is normal but bemands respect .. SHE IS TALKING ABOUT WOMAN IN GENERAL it was just the way it was written ohhh i just should never have broken NC, it made everything so much worse I was at 13 days NC, then basically 4 days C Now i have to aim for 13 days NC and then another 13 and another 13...... til i feel no more hurt 1
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 it was just the way it was written ohhh i just should never have broken NC, it made everything so much worse I was at 13 days NC, then basically 4 days C Now i have to aim for 13 days NC and then another 13 and another 13...... til i feel no more hurt aww:( i feel your pain hun wish i could take it away i know it hurts like hell but yeah you already beake it so you cant take it back so know reason streesing your self over it let it go whats done is done we all make mistakes we are only human so clear your mind and go back to NC and restart it ..just wondering did he ever contact you again ?
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 aww:( i feel your pain hun wish i could take it away i know it hurts like hell but yeah you already beake it so you cant take it back so know reason streesing your self over it let it go whats done is done we all make mistakes we are only human so clear your mind and go back to NC and restart it DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE LIKE THIS START TAKING CHARGE FIND YOUR SELF A GOOD MAN .YOU ALREADY WAITED 5 YEARS FOR A LOSER TIME TO LET GO AND FIND THE MAN OF YOUR DREAMS ..did he even try to contact you since the last time you talk to him not that it matters but i was just wondering if he even try to see if you ok?
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) aww:( i feel your pain hun wish i could take it away i know it hurts like hell but yeah you already beake it so you cant take it back so know reason streesing your self over it let it go whats done is done we all make mistakes we are only human so clear your mind and go back to NC and restart it ..just wondering did he ever contact you again ? Just a few from him since he offered the "one last F!#$!" and i said No His last text was about 6 hrs ago and now i am NC. I havent asked him anything at all about the gf or anything. Don't want any info. He hasnt actually asked if i am ok, but he already knows exactly how i am feeling.... thanks taya for being here! Edited October 31, 2012 by mishy
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) the last 2 and a half weeks are such a blur. Eating weirdly, sleeping weirdly, not being able to concentrate on anything, walking around on the verge of tears. I don't know how much weight ive lost but im sure its a few kilos. If i was a drinker i probably wouldnt have remembered any of it. Don;t know why i got so hung up on him, the pain of hearing he has someone else is physical. The worst part would be 2 things: waking up in the morning with a pretty clear head, then remembering he is with her, then getting an achey chest and feeling horrible. The other thing is the panicky feeling sometimes. I dont know why i got so hung up but i did, and i wont be doing it again. He knows i am not ok, ....he knows all the pathetic details of what ive been going through, tears etc.... It hasnt been my finest 2 weeks. I am looking forward to feeling better, so i must have reached a turning point now ********* Edited October 31, 2012 by mishy
Tiera D Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 what he wants is very simple ----> sex and he having a new girl is the greatest reason and persuasion to go permanent NC TD
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 the last 2 and a half weeks are such a blur. Eating weirdly, sleeping weirdly, not being able to concentrate on anything, walking around on the verge of tears. I don't know how much weight ive lost but im sure its a few kilos. If i was a drinker i probably wouldnt have remembered any of it. Don;t know why i got so hung up on him, the pain of hearing he has someone else is physical. The worst part would be 2 things: waking up in the morning with a pretty clear head, then remembering he is with her, then getting an achey chest and feeling horrible. The other thing is the panicky feeling sometimes. I dont know why i got so hung up but i did, and i wont be doing it again. He knows i am not ok, ....he knows all the pathetic details of what ive been going through, tears etc.... It hasnt been my finest 2 weeks. I am looking forward to feeling better, so i must have reached a turning point now ********* so his His last text was about 6 hrs ago you dident reply at all right plz tell me NO LOL even if hes not talking about his gf you shouldent talk to him at all ? and good job for telling him NO for coming over ..
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) the last 2 and a half weeks are such a blur. Eating weirdly, sleeping weirdly, not being able to concentrate on anything, walking around on the verge of tears. I don't know how much weight ive lost but im sure its a few kilos. If i was a drinker i probably wouldnt have remembered any of it. Don;t know why i got so hung up on him, the pain of hearing he has someone else is physical. The worst part would be 2 things: waking up in the morning with a pretty clear head, then remembering he is with her, then getting an achey chest and feeling horrible. The other thing is the panicky feeling sometimes. I dont know why i got so hung up but i did, and i wont be doing it again. He knows i am not ok, ....he knows all the pathetic details of what ive been going through, tears etc.... It hasnt been my finest 2 weeks. I am looking forward to feeling better, so i must have reached a turning point now ********* AND I know how you feel i have been in your shoe when the ex i told you about left me for another girl it hurts ..but what i use to do is think like this.. HIS HE CRYING OVER ME <NO> . HIS HE LOSEING SLEEP OVER ME <NO> HIS HE NOT EATING BECAUSE OF ME <NO> HIS HE CRYING ALL DAY EVERDAY BECAUSE OF ME <NO> SO WHY SHOULD YOU, ASK YOUR SELF THAT ...YOU COULD BE THERE CRYING AND THIS MAN HIS OUT TO DINNER THE MOVIES DOING WHAT EVER WITH THIS GIRL HAVING FUN ,,BUT YOUR RIPING YOUR SELF APART NOT EATING NOT SLEEPING WELL, BEACUSE OF SOMEEONE THAT CHOOSE ANOTHER PERSON ..WHEN I THINK OF ALL THAT MY MIND AT THE TIME JUST LET ALL THE PAIN GO I FELT AT EASE ..THINK ABOUT ALL THIS AND PUT YOUR MIND BODY AND SOUL AT EASE NO MORE CRYING NO MORE PAIN IF HE A WAS A GOOD MAN I WOULD GET IT, BUT FROM THE VERY START THIS MAN WAS NO GOOD TO YOU SO SET YOUR SELF FREE BACAUSE YOUR whole self existence is at risks Edited October 31, 2012 by taya
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 so his His last text was about 6 hrs ago you dident reply at all right plz tell me NO LOL even if hes not talking about his gf you shouldent talk to him at all ? and good job for telling him NO for coming over .. No havent texted him. What i mean is i havent asked him anything about her
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 No havent texted him. What i mean is i havent asked him anything about her i know but it sound like you saying well i text him back but i dident ask him anything about her?? thats what you saying ?
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 AND I know how you feel i have been in your shoe when the ex i told you about left me for another girl it hurts ..but what i use to do is think like this.. HIS HE CRYING OVER ME <NO> . HIS HE LOSEING SLEEP OVER ME <NO> HIS HE NOT EATING BECAUSE OF ME <NO> HIS HE CRYING ALL DAY EVERDAY BECAUSE OF ME <NO> SO WHY SHOULD YOU, ASK YOUR SELF THAT ...YOU COULD BE THERE CRYING AND THIS MAN HIS OUT TO DINNER THE MOVIES DOING WHAT EVER WITH THIS GIRL HAVING FUN ,,BUT YOUR RIPING YOUR SELF APART NOT EATING NOT SLEEPING WELL, BEACUSE OF SOMEEONE THAT CHOOSE ANOTHER PERSON ..WHEN I THINK OF ALL THAT MY MIND AT THE TIME JUST LET ALL THE PAIN GO I FELT AT EASE ..THINK ABOUT ALL THIS AND PUT YOUR MIND BODY AND SOUL AT EASE NO MORE CRYING NO MORE PAIN IF HE A WAS A GOOD MAN I WOULD GET IT, BUT FROM THE VERY START THIS MAN WAS NO GOOD TO YOU SO SET YOUR SELF FREE BACAUSE YOUR whole self existence is at risks you're right Taya I don't think about him out having fun with her as such, because what i really think is that he is going to be pulling the same stuff with her as he did me. He is a workaholic. He has been a workaholic the whole time ive known him, his whole life is about work its how he finds his identity. Doesnt matter whether its a menial job or something sort of corporate its still the same. His favourite phrases are "flat out" and "busy". Even when we first met he was like that, being a workaholic is his core personality So as for imagining him out at dinner and movies and running along the beach hand in hand with her, dont know that i picture that at all. He is a bus driver and he goes away overnight for work 2 or 3 nights a week , works 12 hr days. Works all weekend. Sometimes goes away on Saturday night on a bus run. Part of the hurt for me is that i waited for him throughout all of that, all that time away all the time. So she has a lot to put up with, and would need to be really patient with him as he is extremelt independent. Who knows what their relationship is. I tend to think he has met some stunner on one of his bus trips and she has said he has to give up any other women (me) and they are having some kind of fling.
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 i know but it sound like you saying well i text him back but i dident ask him anything about her?? thats what you saying ? Oh, no i mean this whole time, i havent asked him anything about her. On the day he told me about her i asked one thing 1. How long have you known her? and i havent asked anything since. The texting has been about me and him , not her.
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) Oh, no i mean this whole time, i havent asked him anything about her. On the day he told me about her i asked one thing 1. How long have you known her? and i havent asked anything since. The texting has been about me and him , not her. no hun am sorry to be all up in your buniess but am really trying to help but i see a big problem what we all been saying is stop texting him we are not talking about SOP talking to him about her this have nthing to do with her its HIM you say he text you today right? ..so MY QUESTION was did you reply and you say no i dident ask him about her what am really trying to find out is did you answer IS text at all put that girl a side but did you respond to his text and if you did THATS what every one been saying ..dont answer his texts no matter what thats how you get over someone dony reply let him text until hes blue YOUR DONE WITH HIM DONT CALL OR RESPOND TO HIS TEXT EVERY Edited October 31, 2012 by taya
Author mishy Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 no hun am sorry to be all up in your buniess but am really trying to help but i see a big problem what we all been saying is stop texting him we are not talking about talking to him about her this have nthing to do with her its him you say he text you today right ..so MY QUESTION was did you reply and you say no i dident ask him about her what am really trying to find out is did you answer IS text at all put that girl a side but did you respond to his text and if you did THATS what every one been saying ..dont answer his texts no matter what thats how you get over someone dony reply let him text until hes blue YOUR DONE WITH HIM DONT CALL OR RESPOND TO HIS TEXT No i haven't responded to the last text When i was saying i didnt ask him about her- i am just saying that generally- as in i havent asked about her full stop at all since the first day he told me about her
taya Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 no i haven't responded to the last text when i was saying i didnt ask him about her- i am just saying that generally- as in i havent asked about her full stop at all since the first day he told me about her but ok good dont every respond to him and its good you havent ask him about her beacuse really she did nothing wrong hes the problem and i repeat he is the problem ,,he did you so wrong move on
taya Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) you're right Taya I don't think about him out having fun with her as such, because what i really think is that he is going to be pulling the same stuff with her as he did me. He is a workaholic. He has been a workaholic the whole time ive known him, his whole life is about work its how he finds his identity. Doesnt matter whether its a menial job or something sort of corporate its still the same. His favourite phrases are "flat out" and "busy". Even when we first met he was like that, being a workaholic is his core personality So as for imagining him out at dinner and movies and running along the beach hand in hand with her, dont know that i picture that at all. He is a bus driver and he goes away overnight for work 2 or 3 nights a week , works 12 hr days. Works all weekend. Sometimes goes away on Saturday night on a bus run. Part of the hurt for me is that i waited for him throughout all of that, all that time away all the time. So she has a lot to put up with, and would need to be really patient with him as he is extremelt independent. Who knows what their relationship is. I tend to think he has met some stunner on one of his bus trips and she has said he has to give up any other women (me) and they are having some kind of fling. am not trying to make you feel bad or nothing just a open eye of that i have learn..he tell you he work work and cant go out to have fun with you all that stuff he told you. but it may not be what he is telling her when a man really wants a woman he puts everthing aside and be with her so he could be haveing fun and doing fun stuff with her you know why beacuse he respect her and mostly she wont take his **** and he knows she will leave his ass if he pull that stuff with her so he maybe treating her very well beacuse he wants her and respect her and knows she wont put up with his **** ...he tell you that stuff hun beacuse from the very start this man had know respect for you and treated you bad and you said nothing and did nothing about it you just stay there with him and his bull**** for 5 YEARS ..but that dont mean he is treating her that way beacus as i say he wants her and may knows HE CANT PULL THAT **** WITH HER Edited November 1, 2012 by taya
Leigh 87 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 am not trying to make you feel bad or nothing just a open eye of that i have learn..he tell you he work work and cant go out to have fun with you all that stuff he told you. but it may not be what he is telling her when a man really wants a woman he puts everthing aside and be with her so he could be haveing fun and doing fun stuff with her you know why beacuse he respect her and mostly she wont take his **** and he knows she will leave his ass if he pull that stuff with her so he maybe treating her very well beacuse he wants her and respect her and knows she wont put up with his **** ...he tell you that stuff hun beacuse from the very start this man had know respect for you and treated you bad and you said nothing and did nothing about it you just say there with him and his bull**** for 5 YEARS ..but that dont mean he is treating her that way beacus as i say he wants her and may knows HE CANT PULL THAT **** WITH HER I do not think a man like him his capable of true love. He is too shallow, cold, and disgusting. ....What sort of a man treats a girl like complet crap? ....LIke I said earlier.... even if he HAS found the right women, it does not mean he is a nice person. Even if he wants her, she is STILL dating a cold, callous, nasty man. I feel very sorry for the women who is right for him.
taya Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) I do not think a man like him his capable of true love. He is too shallow, cold, and disgusting. ....What sort of a man treats a girl like complet crap? ....LIke I said earlier.... even if he HAS found the right women, it does not mean he is a nice person. Even if he wants her, she is STILL dating a cold, callous, nasty man. I feel very sorry for the women who is right for him. yeah but think about it even if hes not good and is a bad person when someone wants somthing they well do anthing to get it so he could be acting all good and treating her all good beacuse guess wants her so he will up his act ..and some times people treat us like crap beacuse we let them but if they find the right person that will set them stright and that they know they cant do there**** with truse me girl they will treat them right Edited November 1, 2012 by taya
Author mishy Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 am not trying to make you feel bad or nothing just a open eye of that i have learn..he tell you he work work and cant go out to have fun with you all that stuff he told you. but it may not be what he is telling her when a man really wants a woman he puts everthing aside and be with her so he could be haveing fun and doing fun stuff with her you know why beacuse he respect her and mostly she wont take his **** and he knows she will leave his ass if he pull that stuff with her so he maybe treating her very well beacuse he wants her and respect her and knows she wont put up with his **** ...he tell you that stuff hun beacuse from the very start this man had know respect for you and treated you bad and you said nothing and did nothing about it you just stay there with him and his bull**** for 5 YEARS ..but that dont mean he is treating her that way beacus as i say he wants her and may knows HE CANT PULL THAT **** WITH HER no the work thing is very real, and its been consistent the whole time. Like there are a million pieces of evidence that the work thing is real that i can't list here, but suffice to say that he is a full on workaholic. I've known him for 5 years and when he gets a job , he is fully into it, even when he doesn't have to be. He burns himself out. loses the job, gets another one, and the whole thing starts again. What i mean is sure he probably treats her better than me, BUT, i know what he is like. he IS a workaholic, he is very controlling about how he spends his time and what he expects you to do around him
Author mishy Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I do not think a man like him his capable of true love. He is too shallow, cold, and disgusting. ....What sort of a man treats a girl like complet crap? ....LIke I said earlier.... even if he HAS found the right women, it does not mean he is a nice person. Even if he wants her, she is STILL dating a cold, callous, nasty man. I feel very sorry for the women who is right for him. I agree Leigh . I know Tayas trying to drum into me that he is out frollicking about in the sunshine, taking her on lavish dates and showering her with love kindness and gifts. BUT i mean ive known him for a long time, and he has been really really cold and nasty to me at times, and i believe that is what he is at the core. None of that came out for a few months, then it did. He is not in his 20's. His personality is what it is, and i dont believe at his age it changes . I dont think he is going to end up treating her any differently. She will probably pick up on some things early like i did. (but i ignored)
taya Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) I agree Leigh . I know Tayas trying to drum into me that he is out frollicking about in the sunshine, taking her on lavish dates and showering her with love kindness and gifts. BUT i mean ive known him for a long time, and he has been really really cold and nasty to me at times, and i believe that is what he is at the core. None of that came out for a few months, then it did. He is not in his 20's. His personality is what it is, and i dont believe at his age it changes . I dont think he is going to end up treating her any differently. She will probably pick up on some things early like i did. (but i ignored) hahahaha am not trying to say he is out frollicking about in the sunshine, taking her on lavish dates and showering her with love kindness and gifts. lol what am saying is what if he his we both dont know what they doing at this very moment right ?but we know what you doing crying stressing and riping your self apart for him so what am saying is you doing all that over him WHEN HE COULD BE HAVEING FUN think about it we dont know what hes doing so he could be having fun and you here crying ,,,and i have seen men that were heartless to one girl and treat the next like a queen you know why because he never cared about the one he was hurting and she stood there and take it and never leave him,,, but now he cared about this one so he try to treat her the best ...DOES ANYONE AGREE WITH ME ?? Edited November 1, 2012 by taya
Author mishy Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 hahahaha am not trying to say he is out frollicking about in the sunshine, taking her on lavish dates and showering her with love kindness and gifts. lol what am saying is what if he his we both dont know what they doing at this very moment right ?but we know what you doing crying stressing and riping your self apart for him so what am saying is you doing all that over him WHEN HE COULD BE HAVEING FUN think about it we dont know what hes doing so he could be having fun and you here crying ,,,and i have seen men that were heartless to one girl and treat the next like a queen you know why because he never cared about the one he was hurting but now he cared about this one so he try to treat her the best ...DOES ANYONE AGREE WITH ME ?? Yeah i get your point why cry over him when he is not crying over me, i get that. But that fact is he is who he is, so even if he is nice to her right now, (like he was to me at first) eventually things will show. And we dont know anything about their relationship, it could have ended 10 minutes ago for all we know Thinking that he treated me like sh%t because he didnt care and he is treating her like a princess because he does care DOES NOT help me, it makes it all worse. It is extremely unlikely that this is the case anyway because i now him really well, and i know his personality. Its not even about how he treats women but more how he treats people, and i think the coldness is just him.
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