OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 okay just to begin with, I do not intend to generalize. this is based on purely my experience, that all of the HOT white guys I've met think asian girls are easy - or at least, not for a long term serious girlfriend material. they mostly want to date white girls. and as an asian girl myself, this recurring experience has made me lose my confidence greatly. I am attracted to hot white studs, and they never are attracted to me. why is that? and is there anything I can do to change this whole situation? Just to add: I am in a better shape than most of the white girls - tall, fit, nice face features, etc. But just because I am asian, these guys have treated me with no respect. and I'm really hurt by that.
somedude81 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I am attracted to hot white studs, and they never are attracted to me. why is that? and is there anything I can do to change this whole situation? Do you think you are hot enough for the "hot white studs?"
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 if you can list out some objective qualities of what a typical hot white stud will be attracted to, it would be really helpful?
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 Why do you think its because you're Asian? because they want to date only blonde or brunettes. at least some said that their "type" is so. and i don't/can't have those qualities. So the fact that I am asian probably is not the only factor but I am sure it's the biggest factor.
mesmerized Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Why do you think its because you're Asian? I'm curious too. A white "stud" once told me that asian girls are very submissive and let him do basically anything to them, specially in bed. He told me a lot of things that you have to discuss with other girls before doing it you can do to asian girls and they never object. I don't know how right he was as I don't have sex with women but this might be why they think that way. 1
dasein Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 The reason they don't treat you with respect has nothing to do with your ethnicity in all likelihood. The 50th percentile and above young women are generally competing for the 95th percentile and above guys, and don't mind sharing those guys as long as it's not too obvious. Those guys have their pick of many women without really trying, lots of options, so if you want one of them, stand in line. 4
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I'm curious too. A white "stud" once told me that asian girls are very submissive and let him do basically anything to them, specially in bed. He told me a lot of things that you have to discuss with other girls before doing it you can do to asian girls and they never object. I don't know how right he was as I don't have sex with women but this might be why they think that way. lol yeah i've heard of that. but this is in no way applicable to me because I am pretty straightforward. and i say no if i am not comfortable with. maybe that's why they are not attracted? haha should i have been submissive...lol 1
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 The reason they don't treat you with respect has nothing to do with your ethnicity in all likelihood. The 50th percentile and above young women are generally competing for the 95th percentile and above guys, and don't mind sharing those guys as long as it's not too obvious. Those guys have their pick of many women without really trying, lots of options, so if you want one of them, stand in line. I guess what really disappointed me and lose my confidence was knowing that, all else equal, these guys will prefer white girls. Which is understandable to some extent given people prefer their own races, but makes me feel incompetent because race is something I can't control.
college_girl20 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Are you sure it's race? Or, could it be how you dress, how you act, how you hold yourself? Are you the type of girl that a white "stud" would take home or are you the type of girl he only wants for a (lack of a better term) ****buddy. As a biracial woman, I can guarantee that there are guys who only want to date you because you have a great body or because they think you'll be good in bed. But, there are guys who if you are sweet and polite and generally a smart and compassionate person will want more. It's all about how you act.
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 Are you sure it's race? Or, could it be how you dress, how you act, how you hold yourself? Are you the type of girl that a white "stud" would take home or are you the type of girl he only wants for a (lack of a better term) ****buddy. As a biracial woman, I can guarantee that there are guys who only want to date you because you have a great body or because they think you'll be good in bed. But, there are guys who if you are sweet and polite and generally a smart and compassionate person will want more. It's all about how you act. Hmm. Then what do you think are typical qualities that these stud will want? As per a few objective factors, I am pretty good looking, tall, fit, well educated, polite and sweet. I dress well too but not provocatively. I dont walk around with my boobs showing or short skirts.. maybe I should? lol I probably am not the funniest person in the room (as I don't like being loud, etc) but I am attentive and responsive. Hmm. Guess that's not good enough?
mesmerized Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 lol yeah i've heard of that. but this is in no way applicable to me because I am pretty straightforward. and i say no if i am not comfortable with. maybe that's why they are not attracted? haha should i have been submissive...lol Nah being submissive like that would just make you like other Asian girls. Its good to be different. 2
college_girl20 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I don't think it has to do with how you look. If were being stereotypical, a lot of white guys like "exotic" girls. It's how you act. Just act like you. Own your ethnicity and your history. Don't try to act like a white girl, or what you perceive a white girl acts like, and just act like who you are. It comes off fake when girls act like something their not. I am surrounded by pretty, tall, blonde, blue-eyed white girls on a daily basis and I am no great beauty. I'm pretty and cute in a way, but I'm no Angelina Jolie and I don't try to be. The guy I just broke up with didn't date me because I was middle-eastern and my ethnicity didn't matter. He dated me because I was confident and willing to engage with him on a deeper level. Have you ever dated white guys before?
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I don't think it has to do with how you look. If were being stereotypical, a lot of white guys like "exotic" girls. It's how you act. Just act like you. Own your ethnicity and your history. Don't try to act like a white girl, or what you perceive a white girl acts like, and just act like who you are. It comes off fake when girls act like something their not. I am surrounded by pretty, tall, blonde, blue-eyed white girls on a daily basis and I am no great beauty. I'm pretty and cute in a way, but I'm no Angelina Jolie and I don't try to be. The guy I just broke up with didn't date me because I was middle-eastern and my ethnicity didn't matter. He dated me because I was confident and willing to engage with him on a deeper level. Have you ever dated white guys before? Yeah my ex was white (but he's not one of those hot guys lol). I mean many white guys do hit on me, but none that I like. It always has been the case that I just end up watching those hot white guys that I like hit on other white blonde girls. And it effing is upsetting. For one anecdote, this white guy, who was a little cute, but not hot, hit on me, we went on a date twice, he wanted to sleep with me from day one. I didn't want that so I said no. And then upon realizing I wouldn't sleep with him soon, he left me for a white girl, and funny, he would not ask her to sleep with him that soon because he respects her. Okay. What does that make me think then? lol I was so angry. But I wouldn't bother showing it because we didn't sleep so no harm and we are nothing anways. But still it was outragious.
jolbell Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 A white "stud" once told me that asian girls are very submissive and let him do basically anything to them, specially in bed. He told me a lot of things that you have to discuss with other girls before doing it you can do to asian girls and they never object. Hm.. I've had the opposite experience. Maybe it is a difference between Asian v Asian American girls? I'm the latter. Sex is fun (there are very few boundaries and I don't agree that we're submissive) but I'll only have sex someone who wins my heart (meaning we're in a relationship). Traditionally, we are more conservative on the outside. I didn't know sex outside of a relationship is more the norm for the stereotypical Asian girl.
jcrew11 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 People aren't really comfortable dating inter-racially unless they have some exposure and comfort with that different race. You have to earn trust and developing a relationship with similar interests, hobbies, etc. and not base a relationship off of "hot white guy." But men tend to be more superficial and date women just for sex, without caring about anything other than looks.
somedude81 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 People aren't really comfortable dating inter-racially unless they have some exposure and comfort with that different race. You have to earn trust and developing a relationship with similar interests, hobbies, etc. and not base a relationship off of "hot white guy." But men tend to be more superficial and date women just for sex, without caring about anything other than looks. In her first post she complains about " hot white studs" not wanting her and you say men are more superficial? IMO, she wouldn't be having any trouble if she *gasp* settled for a normal looking white guy. But nope she only wants the guys that 95% of all women want. Like dasein said, all she can do is get in line, more maybe one of them would be nice enough to use her for sex.
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 What's wrong with Asian guys? Haha. Nothings wrong. Just I don't find most of them attractive. And I am taller than probably 90% of them lol. I am 5'8. And another (intimate) reason 1
somedude81 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Haha. Nothings wrong. Just I don't find most of them attractive. And I am taller than probably 90% of them lol. I am 5'8. And another (intimate) reason If only we could dislike posts, I would dislike it so hard. (No I'm not Asian) 1
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 In her first post she complains about " hot white studs" not wanting her and you say men are more superficial? IMO, she wouldn't be having any trouble if she *gasp* settled for a normal looking white guy. But nope she only wants the guys that 95% of all women want. Like dasein said, all she can do is get in line, more maybe one of them would be nice enough to use her for sex. Lol I agree with these hot guys, being 95 or 99% percentile, having lots of options, and that girls will have to get in a line to be with them. At the same time, if I were only looking for sex, I can take these hot guys home, beileve it or not. I have a great body (and boobs too) But that's the problem. I don't want sex to be the only thing they will spend time with me for.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 okay just to begin with, I do not intend to generalize. this is based on purely my experience, that all of the HOT white guys I've met think asian girls are easy - or at least, not for a long term serious girlfriend material. they mostly want to date white girls. and as an asian girl myself, this recurring experience has made me lose my confidence greatly. I am attracted to hot white studs, and they never are attracted to me. why is that? and is there anything I can do to change this whole situation? Just to add: I am in a better shape than most of the white girls - tall, fit, nice face features, etc. But just because I am asian, these guys have treated me with no respect. and I'm really hurt by that. Funny, but i always thought it was the opposite -- these days white males are so attracted to Asian girls. They think of them as exotic and mysterious, and also, they believe in such myths as "submissive" Asian women.. These types of guys, are probably not good catches anyway, for all the myths they believe in. They will try to treat you like a submissive girl who will do everything they want. My ex was like that.. he loves Asian chicks, and believes that all women should be "submissive" "like them".
Author OompaLoompa Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 In her first post she complains about " hot white studs" not wanting her and you say men are more superficial? IMO, she wouldn't be having any trouble if she *gasp* settled for a normal looking white guy. But nope she only wants the guys that 95% of all women want. Like dasein said, all she can do is get in line, more maybe one of them would be nice enough to use her for sex. Lol I agree with these hot guys, being 95 or 99% percentile, having lots of options, and that girls will have to get in a line to be with them. At the same time, if I were only looking for sex, I can take these hot guys home, beileve it or not. I have a great body (and boobs too) But that's the problem. I don't want sex to be the only reason they will spend time with me for. So I won't sleep with them too early on.
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