jattmeowett Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Ok so I met this girl through a friend. He also happened to like her before I did, but he really messed up and she friend zoned him. He's also using another girl for sex. One day, I went to the local bar with some friends and she was there and looking exquisite. I waived her over and we started talking. I started to notice that we clicked really well, and that I really liked her. I didn't expect it to go anywhere because I didn't know how my friend would react. She ended up asking me for my number and I got hers in return. One day I just decided to text her and ended up asking her if she wanted to "hang out." She said yes, and I was trying to set up a time and place but she didn't respond. That night, I went to a party and she was there. We eventually ended up kissing and later on that night she just ran up to me, kissed me and ran off. I didn't chase her because my friend was there and at the time, he still liked her. The next day I started texting her again and this time I was able to set up a date. That day came and she canceled 2 hours before I was going to pick her up. Her reasoning was that she had a lot of things to do before her trip, which was in two days. She wasn't lying, she was going on a trip to see her brother. She offered to reschedule, so I told her it was cool and to have fun. A couple days in to her trip, I texted her "Hey, I hope you're having an awesome time. Be safe. See you when you get back." She responded, saying that she was having a great time and she will see me soon. I waited till a day after she got back (she told me when she was coming back), and called her, no answer and her voice mail isn't set up. I left a text in place of a voice mail saying "Hey just calling to say hey and see how your trip went." She never responded. That night I found out that a mutual friend (not the one that liked her) had overdosed on a drug but was revived. I was upset about this so I texted her about it. She talked to me about it, then she said that she wants to stay away from drug users. I said that I completely understand where she is coming from and I feel the same way. I changed the subject to her trip, and talked about that for a little bit. Then I asked her, if she was still up for hanging out, when would be a good time for her. She gave me the old "I don't know what my week looks like, but I'll let you know" line. I have a glimmer of hope because I'm in a band and I invited my whole friends list on facebook to our next show, and she was the first person to accept. Yesterday, a friend told me that she told another friend that she doesn't want to lead me on. I don't understand what went wrong. Is there a way to fix this? I really like her and I would like a second chance with her.
formshifter Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Well, this girl you described managed to create a big confusion in your head and is because of the mixing of signals "I like you" and "I don't like you". The big question is: what does she want? And it's up to you to find that ! If I were you I would send her a message like this: "Hey do you still want to hang out or no? Please be a mature person and give me a straight answer! If you don't answer my message I will take it like a NO!". I think this way of knowing her intentions will spare you of a lot of wasting time and problems. If she says NO, than OK, move on, there are plenty of girls out there,more nicer than her.I know you like her and it will not be easy, but you have to man up and move on if she says NO. But be careful, there are a lot of girls that like to play stupid game, and she may say YES but still behave weird and shady. It's up to you to end this and find yourself a real nice girl that will treat you well.
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Well, this girl you described managed to create a big confusion in your head and is because of the mixing of signals "I like you" and "I don't like you". The big question is: what does she want? And it's up to you to find that ! If I were you I would send her a message like this: "Hey do you still want to hang out or no? Please be a mature person and give me a straight answer! If you don't answer my message I will take it like a NO!". I think this way of knowing her intentions will spare you of a lot of wasting time and problems. If she says NO, than OK, move on, there are plenty of girls out there,more nicer than her.I know you like her and it will not be easy, but you have to man up and move on if she says NO. But be careful, there are a lot of girls that like to play stupid game, and she may say YES but still behave weird and shady. It's up to you to end this and find yourself a real nice girl that will treat you well. i agree send one last text if she dont reply move one dont ever text her again beacuse if she really did like you am a girl and i know she wouldent stop texing you she would be blowing up your phone
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