SoBlind Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I recently had three dates with a woman I met at a local farmer's market. On date No. 3 we had sex at her place after having some drinks at a local bar. I know it is hard to know someone fully in just three dates but this woman does come across as a very good person with a positive and warm personality. In the days after Date No. 3 ended we had some contact via text messages. But when I suggested we get together again she said she'd get back to me. That was 5 days ago. Please note: she has NEVER called me and appears to prefer to communicate via text. So my conundrum is: Is this just a classic blow where the girl has lost interest or did I do something to make her feel bad or piss her off? Maybe I was just horrible in bed? Some details of Date No. 3 that might help: - We both drank at the bar but she is a petite gal and got more tipsy than I did. Also, I had to work the next morning. She did NOT have work the next day. -At her place, we got really physical for the first time. The prior two dates just ended with some kissing, nothing more. As we became intimate, she did say a few things like, "Oh, you are tempting me and making me behave like a bad girl" or something like that. -She seemed to enjoy the sexual moments of the night. At one point she even suggested she bring out some handcuffs. That is not a joke. Like a fool I said, let's save it for next time. I recently started a new job that is pretty high pressure. I had to work the next day and was feeling pressure from my boss that day. I know it is stupid to let that work f*&k up my sex life. -After the sex was over, she suggested we cuddle. Here is where I got really stupid, I didn't stay and cuddle for long at all. Again, it was getting late and I was thinking about work. I am the romantic type and have nothing against post-sex affection & cuddling. And I do like this girl....I don't know what I was thinking. Post-Date Details: -I texted her the very next day to say hello and wish her luck on a day trip she was taking on her day off. She did not reply until the next day. We had a few texts back and forth the day she replied. -The following day I texted her again saying, "Hi. Let's together again this week? My week is pretty open" She replied, "I will get back to you on that." That was FIVE days ago. I realize now she MIGHT have taken that to mean, I just wanted to have sex again. I didn't say let's go to a movie or dinner but that is what I was thinking. Also, she recently moved from the another state and I know she was going back there this weekend to visit friends and to work a couple of ****s. Yes, she has a job (nursing) in two states. I work Mon-Fri during the day for pretty long hours. She is a nurse with a schedule that is flexible but different than mine (she often works weekends, etc). That has been a challenge. But during Date No. 3 she did mention she would have some weekends free in the near future. That made me think she wanted to go out again in the future. Sorry for the rant but just wanted to get as much info out there as possibe. Thanks for reading and any input you can give. Bottom line: 1) Has she just lost interest for whatever reason (maybe it was just a FLING for her or she thougt I was a bad at sex, etc)??; or 2) did I make her feel like I only wanted her for sex and that is the reason she has not contacted me?
mammasita Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I'm on team "nothing will stop them from contacting you if they really like you". It's possible that sex changed the dynamic of the relationship in a negative way for her. It's possible for women to feel that way too, I know I have before.
Balzac Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Welcome to LS. Three dates and one roll in her bed, you're freaking!!! One thought: Bad Girl Handcuffs Clearly you two didn't have the kinky discussion? She may not be into Vanilla. As for cuddling after sex, it's variable, you have a job, you barely know her. Some men rise early, swing by home for fresh clothes and stroll into the office wearing a smile. Personally, I think you're putting waaaay to much stress into this.
Author SoBlind Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 I'm on team "nothing will stop them from contacting you if they really like you". It's possible that sex changed the dynamic of the relationship in a negative way for her. It's possible for women to feel that way too, I know I have before. Yes, I was thinking that could be the case with her. I didn't take her up on the offer to bring out the handcuffs and I didn't cuddle with her. Lesson learned: never let an a-w-h-o-le boss/job intefere with your sex life. I was thinking too much about getting a good night sleep than just have a good time with a nice girl.
Author SoBlind Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 Welcome to LS. . Thank you. Welcome to LS. Three dates and one roll in her bed, you're freaking!!! . What do you mean by this above? Personally, I think you're putting waaaay to much stress into this. Yeah, probably true.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Honestly... 1) Sex was bad/sexual incompatible...she wanted you to make her feel like a "bad girl" you did not provide. 2) You didn't cuddle with her, give her any affection that she could feel there was an emotional connection 3) You probably lacked enthusiasm/personality which made her feel bored so she decided to give it a go in the sack to see if things would spark up which...well you know how that went 1..2..3..strikes and you're out. You seemed to drop the ball and she was probably open for sex from the get go and she probably needed to get laid...good women like to get fked too you know. Next time be more aggressive, assertive and try to be less boring...you sound like a boring guy to me.
USCGAviator Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 She's done with you. Time to head back to the farmers market. 1
seibert253 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 After having a test drive, she decided on another vehicle. Sorry mate.
AmaruBlaXk Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 You should have called her that morning instead of texting her. She may have thought you didn't care enough by sending her a text..
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