youaretheone Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I've been going on a lot of dates recently. This is new for me. I haven't been dating that many women before. I just went for the first girl I dated and had my first relationship (which lasted 1.5 years). That's how it used to work for me before. Now that I am back at the dating scene, I want to get to know more variety of women so that I can make a safer decision when I find the woman I want a long term relationship with. I ask woman B out because I see something in common with them but I don't find them attractive. Nevertheless, I want to give it a chance because either we have common interests or I have fun speaking to her. However, when we have the date, I don't feel like I have to do any physical advances. I don't feel like kissing her or touching her. That aspect does not excite me. Even if I kiss her, I don't feel any excitement, it's just touch of lips. Most of the time, because of that, that commonality I've seen at first meet dies out, I make no physical advances and I end up moving on to the next one. With some woman I ask out on a date or have a date with (let's call them woman A), my heart starts beating faster. I am totally physical with her and totally into kissing/touching her. I am excited when she looks in my eyes. Even before meeting her, when I see her, I am attracted to her physically. I think about her more than other women that I am dating. The others become plan B. Now I wonder if I am wasting time and money by dating woman B. After dating a few of them, it feels like I will have more future with woman A and nothing will come out of dating woman B. When woman B shows interest in me, I don't want to have "what if?"s later and ask her out even if I am not totally attracted to her at first sight. In all the cases, I end up not being interested in a second date with them, whereas it's totally the opposite with woman A. I would love to hear your opinions about this. Do you date only the people you are attracted to or you try different characters to see if there will be interest later?
iris219 Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I've tried it both ways. Hoping the attraction happens has never worked for me, so now I would only date someone I have some physical attraction to. Now that doesn't mean I need to think he's super sexy and I feel all tingly inside when I first meet him, but there needs to be some physical attraction from the start. If you meet someone who you see something attractive about, go out with her. If you think, "Eww, I hope I never have to see her naked," avoid asking that woman out. It is a waste of your time and her time.
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