Meeting women, somewhat shy

[alaskaman]

Hi,

 

Looking for some advice. I am ready to get out and meet some women, I am a mid 30's guy, not great looking but not bad either. I'm sort of shy, the online dating thing just doesn't appeal to me.

 

I don't have a wingman per se, isn't it sort of creepy to go to a sports bar alone? Looking for some suggestions to meet some women, will I have to buck up or will women approach a guy sitting by himself. I hate going up to groups of women where it's obvious the night is about them being out together not guy shopping. What are some other good places?

 

Thanks,

 

Dan

[xdahliax]

Sports bars, where I live, are where all the creepy middle aged guys hang out alone. Half of them are married (and still hitting on women), none of them are attractive, and most are alcoholics. So if where you live is anywhere like that, you need to reconsider your plan or go with friends.

 

I think bookstores and coffee shops are the best places. It's easy to ask someone a question without it being obvious that you're trying to flirt, unlike in bars. Easier to make conversation because girls don't automatically brush you off, it would be considered rude® to do that in those places.

[40 Fonzarelli]

What exactly turns you off about online dating? I think its built for shy people since you can gradually warm up to someone.

 

If not, try the above suggestions, hell even the grocery store or mall. Take up a hobby, join a local meetup, etc.

[jcrew11]

Meet women at Yoga class, coffee shops, cooking class, Church, volunteer at a hospital to meet nurses. Bars are okay, but you have the most luck friending the waitresses (without being too annoying).