jonndoe Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Hi all, new here. Been reading some threads, however cant seem to find a right ans. So here's situation I'm a little confused about: Was on exchange a summer back, and met some new local friends there. Amongst many, met this female friend who was close with myself and another friend. We hung out pretty often. And during this meetup, her bf would join us. At the time we met, it wasn't confirmed that the two were together but signs were there. My friend knowing I'm single say why don't I try to asking her out alone. I was pretty reluctant as I didn't want to date someone who has a bf or seem like it. So all I did was hang out normally as friends in this group. Later of which they got together. I was happy of course, because she's really a nice girl and been a good host. In between this hanging out, I met her elder sis, first time there, and second time when she came to my home country. Played host to her elder sis as I should. We somehow then started texting over FB almost daily and skype at least once a week. Of which by this time, I started to developed feelings for her and believe she does too. I'm heading back there to meet her soon and see how things work out then on. What I'm confused is that whether I'm wrong to chase her(elder sis) and that should I tell her bout the incident where friends asked me to chase her younger sis. And of course, with things like chasing a friend sis, I don't want the underlying friendship to sour too. Just confused. Thanks .
january2011 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 (edited) Your friends gave you (unsolicited) advice. You didn't act on that advice. No harm no foul. Make sure you definitely like the elder sister and that you are not spending time with her as an excuse to get close to the younger one. From my experience, siblings already find it easy to get into rivalry situations - they don't need other people to do it for them. As a courtesy to your friend, you can casually mention that you are interested in her sister and just leave it at that. You are not asking her permission, just giving her a heads up. Edited October 28, 2012 by january2011
Author jonndoe Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 That was the kind of reaction I want to avoid my friend from thinking too. I'm sure its the elder sister, everything seems so easy to talk between us. Well of course, the downfall here is being 'friendzoned'. Thanks anyway.
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