AwptiK Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 In short, can an awkward first few kisses really kill the progression of things, or hinder the chances of future kissing? The thought I had that ties into this, is that people generally do and go to what's comfortable for them. --feel free to stop here if you don't want to read On my own account, i've been getting to know this girl I met around three weeks ago now. We've hung out at least a dozen different times and it's always a blast. She's somewhat-fresh out of a 2+ year relationship with a guy who was her first love, first time...a lot of firsts, and she's still dealing with some of those feelings and pain. We're insanely comfortable with each other; we've talked about a lot of stuff between us, and things are taking a fwb path. That's what we both want right now, and so we're slowly getting there. I know it's a bit different from where I imagine fwb-relationships pick up and start, but the idea itself is kind of new to both of us anyways. I've definitely been through enough this past year to just want the fun without all the other stuff, and she agrees. So from time to time i'll have my arm around her or we'll cuddle or whatever. And then, there's kissing.. Our first few kisses were during a few bonfires, where we'd both been drinking. But then we had an actual talk about things two nights ago. She kissed me once after that talk and it was really short. So, before leaving I was like, "You should kiss me again, since that first one was so brief." And she said that it's just weird the first few times you kiss someone new. We kissed again and that was perfectly fine. I definitely understand where she's coming from, and i'm sure it must be difficult to have been with one guy for so long and then be kissing anyone else. So right now i'm definitely trying not to push her into more than she is comfortable with, even though it's all perfectly fine to me. So last night we hung out for a while and again I kissed her goodnight at her door. Thinking back, I actually don't think it was awkward at all...but right after the kiss itself we were both really silent and I said something like, "Why was that so weird?" And she said, "I was being awkward.." But we exchanged goodnights and it was all good. I'm probably thinking more than I should, because we haven't talked at all today. Definitely not common to go an entire day, but who knows. After getting all this out, I really don't see much issue. I mean, things should improve over time and she did already address "kissing someone new" being weird the night before. But if anyone wants to add anything, feel free I know I definitely slipped in my comment last night, I should be the one who's comfortable and easy to kiss.
Ami1uwant Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Ummm...I think you two shouldn't have dated since she just got out of this other relationship. She Isnt ready for a serious relationship but she wants the companionship because as a woman she doesn't know how to handle it without a guy.
CC12 Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 She Isnt ready for a serious relationship but she wants the companionship because as a woman she doesn't know how to handle it without a guy. That's pretty ridiculous. OP, it will probably get better. And you're right, you should try your hardest to be comfortable yourself and make it easy for her. No more commenting on any future awkwardness. Just try to somehow lighten the mood when it happens. 1
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