River Rain Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Well, I'm back together with the ex. Seven hours on the phone tonight, lots of apologies, promises and some great conversation...felt very sincere...but doesn't it always? I'm trusting yet guarded. I didn't hold back, said everything I needed to say. He admitted full responsibility for the breakdown of our relationship. Told me about all the changes he made to better himself. He promised daily contact and to never again go silent on me again (we'll see). I told him the silent treatment is a deal-breaker, zero tolerance now. He also promised phone calls, no texting to keep in touch. Said he'd come to visit in January, then a week in February during my "spring break" from school. Said he'd book the tickets on Monday. I had myself convinced that I had no feelings left for him, but after the first few minutes talking, he made himself quite vulnerable to me, and I was able to open up as well, realized that I do have deep feelings for him. If I'm a fool twice, shame on me, but I have to say, I'm pretty darn happy right now. 2
Hawaii50 Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 hope things will work out for you... Any plans in the future to be closer together? Only thing I could say it to make sure this man walks his talk. Us men sometimes ask and beg for chances even though we have no intention of following through. otherwise.. congratulations 2
Author River Rain Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 hope things will work out for you... Any plans in the future to be closer together? Only thing I could say it to make sure this man walks his talk. Us men sometimes ask and beg for chances even though we have no intention of following through. otherwise.. congratulations Thank you :-) I had planned (before meeting him) to move to the city where he lives to go back to school next fall. So if all goes well, we will no longer be long distance....but like I said I'm guarded. And thanks, I appreciate your advice , I'm keeping an eye on this one now, and I'm serious about the zero tolerance. I think I made that quite clear to him so we'll see if he can walk the walk.
Author River Rain Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 Now aren't you glad you didn't listen to all that NC crap? Congrats, River Rain, I'm really happy for you. I hope we never have to see you on the other boards again. You deserve all the happiness in life that you can find. Congrats! Thanks so much I hope you won't see me on the breakups and coping boards EVER again... MonicaElise...you're cute. Yeah, the NC was necessary to heal the immediate hurt so that we could talk again, and I'm glad that I contacted him after all. Funny how things go, I didn't even have that in mind when I sent him the email. I feel like things are right again.
amayana Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I wish you all the best and hopefully everything will work out for you this time! 1
lonelygirl97 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 River rain I am very happy for you as well and hope everything works out for you!!
Author River Rain Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 River rain I am very happy for you as well and hope everything works out for you!! Thank you, I have high hopes! Listen, on your thread, you've got some really negative responses from people whose hearts have been broken...second chances are not always as catastrophic as some people think they are, it's always worth a risk.
Author River Rain Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 amen! Not that I'd ever want to build up false hopes, there are plenty of totally lost causes on the break up forums/boards, but there is no one-size-fits-all answer to any of this. That's the thing, when you post a thread, you'll get everyone's opinions based on their own experience, hurt or success at that moment. It's good because it gives you things to think about...and an outlet for your emotions, but ultimately it's one's own choice. And I admit, I fell for false hope...but time healed and the emotions were more mature when we spoke last night so we were able to have a more honest discussion. No, it won't work for everyone, but I just think you have to take the risk...as long as you're past that desperate and high emotion stage. But you know MonicaElise, I was not of this opinion when I first got here a month ago! But now I certainly agree with you that the one-size-fits-all solution is not realistic. Nothing is black and white, especially when it comes to love and emotions. 1
ladyabstrused Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 River, I'm really happy to read about this! I do wish you guys all the best and hope this time it works out for the better. Do take care and have fun! *HUGS* 1
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