She's driving me crazy!

[AmaruBlaXk]

I have been at my wit's end with this girl. We're both in college (rarely ever get to see each other) so bare with me on this explanation.

 

She's into me, and I am most definitely into her, but she insists on making 'our situation' as difficult as possible.

 

2 weeks ago, I walk up to her to try and set the record straight because I am a total 'klutz' around her and SHE IS THE EXACT SAME. I said something along the lines that "I wanted to be able to speak to her like a normal human being instead of freezing up when I see her." Her response was essentially an invitation: "Just say Hi. Ask me how my day is."

 

I'm thinking, COOL! She's down for me and I'm not just imagining things. About a week later, I see her again and shoot for the number immediately because I don't see her regularly. I was in a hurry to get to class and she could sense that. Her knowing I wouldn't have time to talk, responds with "I'm kind of busy right now" and we part ways... Again.

 

Didn't see her again until this past Thursday at a party during Homecoming. I was piss drunk and convinced myself even being inebriated, that talking to her this way would be a bad idea. So I made myself scarce until I eventually left the party.

 

I can't do anything but constantly think about this girl. I'm past the point of worrying if she's a tease or not; I just need closure. I've made up my mind to address my intentions with her and find out exactly how she feels the next time I see her, because I just can't take this "Ignorance is Bliss" bull sh*t anymore. Not knowing is killing me. I'm totally prepared for the worst. I just can't take never having a clear head because the majority of my thoughts are about her...

[AmaruBlaXk]

Thank you for having such a positive insight on the whole situation. Now that you mention her knowing I was there, it was pretty f**king stupid to not talk to her. Drunk & Love Crazy don't mix. I don't know if I am in love, but she means a whole hell of a lot to me.

[AmaruBlaXk]

Well there is not way in this world it is actually LOVE.. It's just a crush, infatuation. Love is a very strong word, and I'd suggest anyone be a little more careful how they use it.

 

I think it goes for all aspects of life, we all should really try to make the most of the opportunities available.. You might not get another chance like that ever, so worst case scenario, use this as a lesson to Carpe diem! Or YOLO, depending on your age and intelligence.

 

Ha, Carpe Diem sounds so much more sophisticated than YOLO. The young lady and I are both 19. Your wisdom is greatly appreciated.

[CC12]

She's into me, and I am most definitely into her, but she insists on making 'our situation' as difficult as possible.

 

It really seems like you're the one making things as difficult as possible.

 

A few questions:

 

-What exactly is "your situation?" Are you guys friends? Acquaintances?

-How many actual conversations have you had with her? How long have you known her?

-How do you know she is into you?

-What do you mean when you say you're going to address your intentions with her?

[AmaruBlaXk]

It really seems like you're the one making things as difficult as possible.

 

A few questions:

 

-What exactly is "your situation?" Are you guys friends? Acquaintances?

-How many actual conversations have you had with her? How long have you known her?

-How do you know she is into you?

-What do you mean when you say you're going to address your intentions with her?

 

Your inquisition isn't at all necessary to provide a reasonable contribution because your questions do not have any significance (in my eyes).

 

"Our situation" is a "situation" because it cannot be accurately defined. It's really tough to explain nonverbal communication, and I do not care to go into detail about it. I won't know what I want to know, until I address my intentions with her (directly convey my interest & seek closure).

 

I gave everything that really mattered in the initial post. My statement to you is to not make this difficult. I do not care to entertain hypotheticals. Just assume what I've told you to be accurate and true. If you have something you want to contribute, then by all means do so.

[jonndoe]

maybe try casually texting her and see how she replies to you? If the replies kinda slow or a feeling of "just answering you" and cant continue on as a meaningful conversation, perhaps you should forget bout her.

Of course sometimes when you want to ignore the feeling, she suddenly pops up and text you randomly. Then I guess shes maybe just bored and looking for someone to talk to.

[AmaruBlaXk]

maybe try casually texting her and see how she replies to you? If the replies kinda slow or a feeling of "just answering you" and cant continue on as a meaningful conversation, perhaps you should forget bout her.

Of course sometimes when you want to ignore the feeling, she suddenly pops up and text you randomly. Then I guess shes maybe just bored and looking for someone to talk to.

 

I thought it was made clear that I didn't have her phone #. When I can edit the post again, I'll ensure that this is understood to be the case.

[CC12]

Your inquisition isn't at all necessary to provide a reasonable contribution because your questions do not have any significance (in my eyes).

 

"Our situation" is a "situation" because it cannot be accurately defined. It's really tough to explain nonverbal communication, and I do not care to go into detail about it. I won't know what I want to know, until I address my intentions with her (directly convey my interest & seek closure).

 

I gave everything that really mattered in the initial post. My statement to you is to not make this difficult. I do not care to entertain hypotheticals. Just assume what I've told you to be accurate and true. If you have something you want to contribute, then by all means do so.

 

I think you might have misinterpreted something? My questions weren't designed to be an inquisition at all. I was asking for clarification. And I don't think my questions were unreasonable. So I'm not sure I deserve your hostility.

[jonndoe]

I thought it was made clear that I didn't have her phone #. When I can edit the post again, I'll ensure that this is understood to be the case.

 

 

if you like her , you could easily find that out. of course, without her number , try out FB? or sch email etc? There are ways, but of course dont make it sound like some creepy stalker.

[Balzac]

I thought it was made clear that I didn't have her phone #. When I can edit the post again, I'll ensure that this is understood to be the case.

 

Yup, it was made clear.

[AmaruBlaXk]

I think you might have misinterpreted something? My questions weren't designed to be an inquisition at all. I was asking for clarification. And I don't think my questions were unreasonable. So I'm not sure I deserve your hostility.

 

You without a doubt do not deserve any hostility; and I'd like to believe none has been delivered. I was a little thrown by the attempted extraction of additional information. If it wasn't listed, it's not really important. Telling you I've known this young lady for nearly a year and have had both positive and failed encounters with her, shouldn't be of much help. I've made up my mind on what I want to do and how I will go about it. The purpose of my post initially, is to share it with whoever desires to read it. And embrace seemingly, reasonable feedback.

[CC12]

You without a doubt do not deserve any hostility; and I'd like to believe none has been delivered. I was a little thrown by the attempted extraction of additional information. If it wasn't listed, it's not really important. Telling you I've known this young lady for nearly a year and have had both positive and failed encounters with her, shouldn't be of much help. I've made up my mind on what I want to do and how I will go about it. The purpose of my post initially, is to share it with whoever desires to read it. And embrace seemingly, reasonable feedback.

 

Okay.

 

Good luck with everything.