ReadMyThread Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I need some of your guy's opinions please. It's been 2 months of NC. Yesterday was the first day I have signed into my Facebook in over a month. When I first sign in I seen I had a new notification from my ex. On Tuesday she liked a status I posted on April 26th. Months ago! The status that I posted on April 26th said, "like this status and I will tell you something I never had the guts to tell you.". She liked this status on Tuesday. That means she went to my page and went through all of my stuff and went all the way back until that. Why did she do this? :/. My curiosity to why she liked that made me look at her Facebook. The same day she liked that status of mine she posted a status that said, "I f***** up, now I have to live with the consequences.". The same day. What do you guys think? Why did she like this status of mine that I posted months ago!? I feel she liked it because she thinks I cheated on her and that was her way of rubbing it in like I have something to tell her that I didn't have the guts to which I DON'T! . But still, she went back and read through all my stuff and went all the way back to that status. Why? Why did she like that status and why did she go through my page like that?
Simon Phoenix Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Who knows. It's not worth worrying about. Maybe she just decided to scroll down your page. I wouldn't read too much into it.
mammasita Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I know first hand that all we really want are answers. In reality, we will likely never know. I think you should have removed her from your Facebook as soon as you broke up. Then you wouldn't be wondering. Just remember that if she REALLY wanted to talk to you, I'm sure she knows exactly how to do that outside of Facebook. 1
Author ReadMyThread Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 Who knows. It's not worth worrying about. Maybe she just decided to scroll down your page. I wouldn't read too much into it. Only she knows. . I wish I knew. She dumped me. Why would she be going back on my page like that. When someone dumps someone, don't they want them out of their life forever? UGH! I'm going crazy.
Author ReadMyThread Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 I know first hand that all we really want are answers. In reality, we will likely never know. I think you should have removed her from your Facebook as soon as you broke up. Then you wouldn't be wondering. Just remember that if she REALLY wanted to talk to you, I'm sure she knows exactly how to do that outside of Facebook. Your very right. I should have. I feel it's too late now. I'm just going to plan to stay off Facebook like I was before. Only reason I wanted to go on was because it was her birthday yesterday. Yeah I know that too. She is the one who dumped me so if there is future contact it has to be from started from her which I doubt will ever happen
Simon Phoenix Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Only she knows. . I wish I knew. She dumped me. Why would she be going back on my page like that. When someone dumps someone, don't they want them out of their life forever? UGH! I'm going crazy. Stop overanalyzing it. It doesn't matter. Unless she makes contact with you and says she wants you back, all of that stuff doesn't matter. It'll just make you crazy. I'm positive my ex keeps tabs on me on Facebook (hell, she tagged me in a funny picture a month ago before I went NC) but it doesn't mean anything right now.
mammasita Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Your very right. I should have. I feel it's too late now. I'm just going to plan to stay off Facebook like I was before. Only reason I wanted to go on was because it was her birthday yesterday. Yeah I know that too. She is the one who dumped me so if there is future contact it has to be from started from her which I doubt will ever happen Never too late. Un friend her immediately! 1
Author ReadMyThread Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 You are very, very young. Please understand, Facebook isn't real life and it doesn't mean jack. To answer your question... Everything she is doing is just immature (she is 18 I believe) BS drama so IGNORE IT. Remember... If someone dumps you, it's not YOUR job to get them to want you. It's THEIR job to get you to want them. Meaning... She would be doing a HELL OF A LOT MORE than the stupid crap you reading into. Don't go chasing after your Ex, trying to plead, beg, manipulate her into wanting you. Make her do EVERYTHING she needs to do, to get you back. To further answer your question... If your Ex wanted to be with, she would. For starters, she would show up / call you and tell you she wanted you back and not take no for an answer. "If someone dumps you, it's not YOUR job to get them to want you. It's THEIR job to get you to want them." I don't get it. :/. She dumped me and it is HER job to get me to want her? I already DO want her but there isn't anything I can do which I haven't . I haven't talked to her in 2 months.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Yeah, I don't follow popular wisdom on here when it comes to blocking/unfriending exes on Facebook, but in this case you should have done this a long time ago. If it is causing you this much stress, you have to block/delete her. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 "If someone dumps you, it's not YOUR job to get them to want you. It's THEIR job to get you to want them." I don't get it. :/. She dumped me and it is HER job to get me to want her? I already DO want her but there isn't anything I can do which I haven't . I haven't talked to her in 2 months. Two months isn't s--t. It seems like a long time, but very few breakups are going to be solved in two months and end up healthy. You need to stay the course and block her on Facebook. 1
mammasita Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Mammasita, Glad that you liked my "For Me" thread and made it your signature. I believe a lot of people on here would benefit greatly if they implemented those ideas / principles into their BF / GF picker, dating, relationship, break up, love life. Yes indeed. I don't mean to thread jack, but that's fundamental in any healthy relationship, along with realizing that we can't change anyone or anything but ourselves.....accept the things we cannot change....
mano Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 well, u should just unfriend her immediately, she is just leaving her breadcrumbs behind to keep u uncomfortable. dude, u dont need to be all interested in her stupid comments. just totally delete her from your life. if she wants to get back n interested then she better say it
mvc Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Damn straight it is! She didn't dump you because she wants to be with you. She dumped you because she doesn't want to be with you and thinks her life is better without you in it. Do you chase after and want someone who doesn't want you or thinks they are better off without you? I certainly don't and neither should you! Therefore, if they want me back... They are going to have to get me to a place where I would even consider it. That will require them to work, put in the effort and prove to me that I should want them back. For starters... They will have NO PROBLEMS providing answers and explaining in great detail to the following three questions I will never ask: 1. What's in it for me? 2. Why? What has happened that made them have a change of heart? 3. What steps / actions have you taken and what will they do going forward to make sure whatever broke us up the first time does not happen again. If I don't get answers to those three questions that I will never ask... I am not interested. Why would I consider it? If I don't like any of the 3 answers to those three questions I will never ask... I am not interested. Why would I want to be with someone who can't / won't give me what I want / need? If your Ex truly wants you back, if your Ex truly wants a second chance, if your Ex truly wants to reconcile with you... They will pursue you, they will be genuine, they will be sincere, they will be open, they will be honest, they will make themselves available to you, they will want to talk and communicate with you, they will make you a priority, they will be affectionate, they will be respectful, they will want to see and be with you, they will gladly remove any roadblocks or barriers that are standing in the way, they will be persistent, they will fight for you, they have no problem putting forth the work and effort that is required, they will give it their all, they will do whatever is necessary and give you their very best! If your Ex is not doing all the things above... Your Ex does not want you back! gibson, thankyou.
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