taya Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 My opinion in a nutshell.. not sure if you had a chance to read in the other thread All the above and everywhere in between.. and yes, nice girls to drink alcohol too, and go to bars. but they're not sluts about it. Also, when dealing with nice girls, whom I would consider "better," you have to be better- or on the same level. you can't bring a douche-bag game to a class-a girl. imho. lol your funny haha and i saw your pics nice pics lol 1
RiverRunning Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Interesting. I think I'm a nice enough girl. I've noticed that a lot of guys, in their 20s at least, don't actually go for that though. They seem to think that excitement and hard partying go hand in hand. I guess you're an exception. I also suppose that these types of girls are a lot more visible than all the others because they're always frequenting places that most people go to hookup, but there are plenty of nice girls. Ding, ding, ding! OP, I hear this refrain over and over and over again - while some pitiful friend or acquaintance is in a bar, hitting up the most gorgeous (and scantily dressed) women. He brushes off more modestly dressed women, or women who are not "9s" or "10s" in appearance. His focus is almost completely visual, to the exclusion of all other criteria. If you can't find a nice girl - it's not because there aren't nice girls, but because you're probably doing something wrong. Either you're looking in the wrong places or getting too involved with the wrong women. Start off slow, strike up conversations. Try to figure out her character. Is she a charitable, selfless sort of person? How does she talk about other relationships? What kind of guys do her friends go after - and what are their relationships like? Chances are that if her friends entertain very shallow relationships, she's likely to engage in similar with you. And if her friends aren't very friendly people - good luck picturing her as friendly either.
mortensorchid Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It's a terrible situation, isn't it? You need to find someone and yet you have no idea where to go to find them, right? If only it was that easy, but it's not. Some I have read suggested church and the library, which I do not disagree with by any means. Other than that, there's MeetUp groups as a means of extending your social circle. There's also the prospect of having others fix you up with others. Now ask me why I'm not with anyone? Ha ha ha ... Well I've done all of these things, and honestly having someone introduce you to someone else is really the best way, I find. And why it doesn't happen for me? Well, because most of my friends are divorced or confirmed bachelors, and when they meet someone who they think is good they will take that person for themselves. There's the INternet as well, but don't hold your breath on that one either. So ... Keep going.
El Brujo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Sick of slutty, self obsessed girls. Where are all the girls who are genuinely nice, down to earth, laid back, adventurous (loves to travel), has brains? Do they still even exist? Except for the travel part, no... they don't exist. Get on with your life. 1
dasein Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 OP, I hear this refrain over and over and over again - while some pitiful friend or acquaintance is in a bar, hitting up the most gorgeous (and scantily dressed) women. He brushes off more modestly dressed women, or women who are not "9s" or "10s" in appearance. The above is not a valid generalization. Average women who are not fat get approached constantly, and fat women get approached a fair amount as well. It's not just the scantily clad 9s-10s who get approached, and I doubt OP is going out and only approaching these types also. Nice try at somehow shifting blame to the OP when his posts don't warrant it. Yes, I know, hearing that there are in fact lots of self-absorbed, vapid party girl women out there is inconvenient to the assertion that women are perfect as a gender. Too bad, it's true.
WonderKid Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I have pretty fair standards myself. I just look for a woman I can be comfortable with and that looks for what's in a guys heart. I'm not gonna list out all I want in a woman because you'll disappoint yourself. Immaturity and ignorance are the deal breakers for me though.
utterer of lies Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 All quality girls over 25 are scooped up, some exceptions but they make the rule. The ones that are still single are generally somewhere inbetween unable to maintain a relationship and bat**** crazy. The trick is to just find the right kind of batsh*t crazy - keeps you entertained and your life interesting.
utterer of lies Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I'd be happy to put my girlfriend there, but then I'd have to have a girlfriend in the first place. As much as I would like that, at some point you have to stop chasing dreams and face reality. You may look down on prostitutes and/or porn and consider it beneath you, but it's the only reality I can achieve. That's...sad. It's your choice to give up. I'm not sure you are really ready to live with the consequence. Or why are you here?
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