havNfun Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 for those of you who were married for a long time and then became divorced or separated...getting a second chance at love and sex etc... can you tell us what it was like the first time having sex with a different/new person after so long? was it all that you had anticipated? thanks
disconcertainly Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Before you have sex with anyone you need to make sure you are over your ex.... most importantly u have to ne happy being with out before you will enjoy being with. But the first time you are with someone other than your spouse will probably feel strangly odd almost like you are cheating on them in some way.
seahorse Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I was in a 22 year relationship with my husband (up to that point, the only man I'd ever had sex with) when he told me he'd had an affair. I've posted in the other (divorce) forums about that, so I won't repeat it all. My marriage was over, then I met someone else. When I met my current guy, we knew each other online first. When we first met, nothing happened the first time, then we talked more online, and more, and then when we next met, we knew it was going to get a lot more serious. We didn't make love that time, just a lot of snuggling, kissing, light lovemaking etc. By the time we did make love, we'd booked a hotel and we were both absolutely hot for each other. He was extremely passionate and I loved it. Things were sizzling. I was breathing so hard and fast, that when I stood up to get some water, I nearly passed out; talk about hyperventilation! I have never been so hot for someone in all my life. At that time I hadn't made love with my husband for 18 months, so although it felt weird to be with someone else, I didn't feel like I was betraying him. I did worry that I wouldn't be "any good" at it because I'd only ever been with my husband and that my lack of experience would show. However, I think my excess of enthusiasm and passion made up for things. My current bloke is shorter, hairier, and much more "into" sex than my husband ever was. He is also "uncut", where my husband was circumsized. That was another major concern for me at the time, I was unsure how to "handle" things!! However, he just told me he loved how I touched him, and that he'd tell me if I was too rough/gentle etc. I was very nervous before the meeting when I knew we were going to make love, but I trusted him to be sensitive about it, and everything was wonderful. Seahorse
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