xdahliax Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 I have a friend who has been pining for a man who told her that he didn't have any romantic feelings towards her. She insists that they will end up together. I assume that she either thinks that a) he lied to her about his feelings or b) he will eventually develop feelings for her. Both scenarios seem far-stretched to me, and at this point I'm a little concerned for her well-being... Have any of you ever rejected someone and either lied about your feelings or changed your mind later?
SmileFace Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 You see all the ... " I am having sex with a guy and he treats me so nice but he said he doesn't want a relationship - why won't he commit?"...Yeah so my answer is that there is a very slight chance. Waiting around someone who has told you it won't happen isn't very wise. People usually tell you as is.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 (edited) A lot of women get an idea in their head and they won't let it go regardless of the reality or proof at hand. There are also women out there that believe they can make any man they truly desire to be their Bf, so it's a "challenge" to get the guy that doesn't go down so willingly, and they think once they wrap their vagina around him and show them "what they've got to offer" then surely he will not be able to resist because maybe another guy didn't! So she sounds a bit like she's used to getting what she wants, or she's just crazy...50/50 split there but regardless there's nothing you can do to change her mind or stop her, all women are to some extent "crazy" it just depends on how far she's willing to go to get what she wants. In the end he might stick it in her and what she's doing might appear to be "working" for a little while, but at the end of the day when a man says he isn't interested in you romantically not only is he saying he doesn't want a relationship but even if he humps you like a rabbit he's still walking...although sometimes the "trap" works, I've seen some weaker minded men buckle, but if this guy told her outright then I doubt he will. He's not going to change his mind about how he feels about her and what he is capable of feeling for her, that's for certain..at the most he would settle but that's doubtful from the scenario you're describing or else he would have at least tried stringing her along...he actually had the courage to come out and tell her right out, which means he really finds her unappealing or he's just being genuine. Don't be concerned for her well-being, there's nothing you can do to stop her anyway...at the end of the day she'll take the hint If he holds firm in his stance and doesn't buckle for the sex, or he'll buckle and string her along for a while then drop off the map at some point...but she'll get over it, at least she could say she knew from the get-go right? It's always a card he can conveniently pull and it's her fault for continuing to be persistent but she'll learn...something at least. Edited October 26, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
Ross MwcFan Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 I wish a woman would think like this about me.
hinatticus Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Have any of you ever rejected someone and either lied about your feelings or changed your mind later? I did, when I was in junior high. I still have regrets about it. She was really pretty, but I was chicken sh*t back then;)
veggirl Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Yeah she is hoping he will change his mind. I doubt she actually thinks he is lying about his feelings. I think sadly most women have been there, hoping a guy will "come around" so to speak. Usually it only takes one experience of that NOT happening to wise up! (hopefully it doesn't take any more than that anyway!) I've never "come around" on my feelings for a guy but I have had it happen the other way. I don't mean for this to give her hope! But I met a guy 5 yrs ago and I was instantly attracted and sooo into him. He made it clear, over and over and over, that we were not going to be in a relationship. I slept with him, on his timetable, hung out with him, when it was convenient for him, etc. We would go months without speaking and then hang out a few times and I'd be sucked back in and it would end again when he didn't want anything more. It was really pathetic. It was really hurtful, but I was the one who continually accepted that s.hit. Anyway, ran into him a couple months ago after not seeing him for over a year. I'd completely moved on, man it felt great to see him and be like "eh". Of course NOW he is all into me, says he realizes he made a mistake blah blah blah blah...his feelings have changed but so have mine. It's not gonna happen, I told him to leave me alone. Again, this started FIVE YEARS ago, so I would advise your friend not to hold her breath and to just move on! I didn't wait for him for 5 yrs or anything but if I was single and he called, I was there. 1
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