barksdalemc Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 So my gf of a year asked for a break to be sure she was 100% committed to the relationship. We went through a rough patch and she had doubts about the relationship. Things were great until out of the blue she said she needs to be sure about moving forward and alone time is her way of doing this. So I move out of our place. I text her saying I need to come pick up my stuff and she says, "You can keep things here too you know. And I'd like to be here when you come over." I said it's better if she weren't there and that she asked for space and I am giving it to her. Is she just trying to be nice because she feels guilty or is she having second thoughts?
Author barksdalemc Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 She also told a mutual friend this was a break not a breakup.
gonefishin Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Not having or go or been a douche but do you think it's normal To take a break from someone o tell if you are serious or not ? Just a question? 1
Author barksdalemc Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 I just want her to be clear. If it's over then fine. I can move on. But this BS about keeping things there? Can she see me tomorrow? Telling a friends it's a break not breakup. These are mixed signals and I can't take them.
Balzac Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 (edited) She called it but you must make your own decision. I know for my life, moving out is moving on. Edited October 26, 2012 by Balzac
lil hoodlum Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 I think that since she wants the "break" or "space" that she should be the one to move out! I agree, a "break" is just an easier way to soften a breakup. I agree with Gibson, be a man and break up with her and just walk away. You will be showing her that you value yourself more than you do her. If you don't value yourself, how can you expect someone else to value you. Sorry you are having to go through this crap. Let me guess, you never saw this coming did you?
todreaminblue Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 So my gf of a year asked for a break to be sure she was 100% committed to the relationship. We went through a rough patch and she had doubts about the relationship. Things were great until out of the blue she said she needs to be sure about moving forward and alone time is her way of doing this. So I move out of our place. I text her saying I need to come pick up my stuff and she says, "You can keep things here too you know. And I'd like to be here when you come over." I said it's better if she weren't there and that she asked for space and I am giving it to her. Is she just trying to be nice because she feels guilty or is she having second thoughts? i dont believe in breaks i believe in time out like go for a walk that kind of break....but if you need to take a break to find out if you are serious then you arent serious....... whether or not you add up, to the end of break its a split and i believe if you are in a relationship a split and division doesnt add up...subtracting with a negative doesnt make a positive.....a split should occur when it's over division should always have finality ....you dotn solve problems with seperateness you solve them by coming together....you get your solution.......a logical conclusion..... and if it gets hard to work out you keep trying to work it out...you go column a column b.what if we add this or maybe even multiply(thinking o labrador puppies all golden and fluffy)...lol....ahem sorry.. working i tout doing the hard yards until you just realise there will never be the right answer or too many variables..and then you split with a mutual agreement you have no other choices..if you do this need a break thing once....it will be come second nature to avoid finding the answers and just breaking up all the time when **** gets hard.......talk to your gf tell her how you feel and try and work it out......deb
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